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To think that releasing crickets at a gay rights conference, specifically to shut them down, should be considered a homophobic hate crime? Somehow these people are crowdfunding to do it AGAIN

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Zahariel · 17/10/2024 09:03

The optics of having to fumigate a hall after gay people used it to speak about their rights being eroded should not be lost on anyone.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13950839/Trans-activists-release-bags-insects-LGB-Alliance-conference.html

https://www.msn.com/en-gb/news/uknews/suspected-trans-rights-activists-disrupt-lgba-conference-with-live-crickets/ar-AA1s9JHH

This is CLERLY A HATE CRIME - yet it's being reported as trans rights activists, not anti gay hate mongers, I can't really understand why not

MSN

https://www.msn.com/en-gb/news/uknews/suspected-trans-rights-activists-disrupt-lgba-conference-with-live-crickets/ar-AA1s9JHH

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InvisibleBuffy · 18/10/2024 14:08

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 13:51

You absolutely are.

You're just making stuff up now.

nothingcomestonothing · 18/10/2024 14:09

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:04

No, I’m asking you to treat another person with basic dignity and respect regardless of your beliefs.

All adults should be capable of that: it’s basic stuff.

That's like saying me not wearing hijab is degrading to the dignity and value and is intimidation and bullying of someone who doe

what the hell are you on? Of course it’s not like that at all. If you want to use that analogy, what I’m asking you to do is like asking you to respect the fact that some women wear hijabs regardless of your choice not to. You calling a trans person the wrong pronoun is like walking up to a Muslim woman and ripping that hijab off her head because you think it’s oppressive to women.

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Nope. You can do what you like, within the law. You can't force me to do what you want. Not calling male who wants it 'she' is not the equivalent of ripping a hijab off, how offensive.

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:10

Theeyeballsinthesky · 18/10/2024 14:07

What you mean by allowing lesbian and gay ppl to meet together freely to discuss what they want without having spoiled TRA teenagers chucking insects at them?

that sort of basic dignity and respect?

Lesbian and gay people can meet as freely as they want absolutely.

if people want to meet to promote transphobia, it’s legitimate to protest that regardless of their sexuality.

lookingformypage · 18/10/2024 14:11

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/10/2024 14:06

A poster posted that video when the majority were trying to talk about the usual goons who turn up at Let Women Speak events with their intimidation tactics. This video had nothing to do with said event other than it involves KJK. LWS involves many other women.

Where are all the posts agreeing with this random video? I do believe the poster was directed to report it to the rozzers as a hate crime no?

Where are all the posts agreeing with this random video?

In the thread.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5186900-trans-activists-gatecrash-womens-rights-rally-as-they-protest-speech-by-kellie-jay-keen-at-let-women-speak-event-in-the-home-of-suffragette-emily-davison?page=1

Trans activists gatecrash women's rights rally as they protest speech by Kellie-Jay Keen at 'Let Women Speak' event in the home of suffragette Emily Davison | Mumsnet

^Trans activists gatecrashed a women's rights rally held in the hometown of suffragette Emily Davison today. ^ ^Around 70 women gathered in Carlisle...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5186900-trans-activists-gatecrash-womens-rights-rally-as-they-protest-speech-by-kellie-jay-keen-at-let-women-speak-event-in-the-home-of-suffragette-emily-davison?page=1

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/10/2024 14:12

I’m aware of the thread. I’m asking you to evidence which posts.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/10/2024 14:12

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 13:44

Fear, hatred prejudice directed towards trans people; Ideas that trans experience is fundamentally illegitimate, threatening and wrong; idea that trans people should be denied basic rights and services (eg appropriate healthcare).

Fine, I'd agree with that with the proviso that none of this means we have to agree that trans women are women or accept them in women only spaces.

Being trans in itself isn't illegitimate, threatening or wrong. Describing yourself as something you are not (i.e. a woman if you are male) or entering spaces intended for the exclusive use of the opposite sex, very much is.

See the difference?

As for "appropriate healthcare", I believe trans people should have equal access to healthcare compared to the rest of the population. I'm not sure that puberty blockers, cross sex hormones or extreme bodily modifications are really "appropriate healthcare" though.

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:12

nutmeg7 · 18/10/2024 14:08

From a psychiatric perspective, people arrive at a trans identity for a number of different reasons. Some persist, and some move onto acceptance of their own embodied reality.

There is no evidence for something innate, some inner essence of the opposite sex called “being trans”. It is not verifiable by any external tests or scans.

It is an identity arrived at in the face of psychic pain and distress, but just because a person believes the source of their distress is because they are “really” the opposite sex to their body doesn’t make this literally true. It might, however, be the least uncomfortable way to live for them, a decision that should be taken after puberty, but it doesn’t mean they are actually the opposite sex.

This is just divorced from material reality, and it isn’t realistic to expect to go through the world disassociated from your own body to the extent that you expect every stranger you meet to read you as the opposite sex. That just won’t happen, the external world cannot be controlled to that extent, and it is not psychologically healthy to rely on constant external validation for your sense of identity.

Framing it as an immutable “fact” that a person’s sex is defined by their inner identity and not their body is just post-modernism.

There is no evidence for something innate, some inner essence of the opposite sex called “being trans”. It is not verifiable by any external tests or scans

what does this mean? There are all sorts of medical conditions that can’t be verified by external tests or scans. That says very little about the nature and aetiology of that thing. What can be “verified” by external tests and scans is simply a function of scientific technology.

YellowAsteroid · 18/10/2024 14:13

I’m getting pretty sick of any discussion of the ethics, medical impacts, and mental health impacts of interventionist treatment and lifelong medicalisation being called “transphobia.”

Better be careful TRAs, or the term will just become a joke term and lose any real meaning.

ArcheryAnnie · 18/10/2024 14:14

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:10

Lesbian and gay people can meet as freely as they want absolutely.

if people want to meet to promote transphobia, it’s legitimate to protest that regardless of their sexuality.

I'm entirely content for anyone to protest the LGB alliance conference. What I object to is that conference being attacked, with a view to shutting it down.

One is democracy in action. The other is extremist would-be terrorism.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/10/2024 14:14

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:10

Lesbian and gay people can meet as freely as they want absolutely.

if people want to meet to promote transphobia, it’s legitimate to protest that regardless of their sexuality.

If lesbian and gay people can "meet as freely as they want absolutely" do you condemn the actions of trans activists who believe that the LGB Alliance should not be allowed to have charitable status, or hold events peacefully?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/10/2024 14:14

YellowAsteroid · 18/10/2024 14:13

I’m getting pretty sick of any discussion of the ethics, medical impacts, and mental health impacts of interventionist treatment and lifelong medicalisation being called “transphobia.”

Better be careful TRAs, or the term will just become a joke term and lose any real meaning.

It already has.

lookingformypage · 18/10/2024 14:15

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/10/2024 14:12

I’m aware of the thread. I’m asking you to evidence which posts.

Anyone interested can read the thread and @MNHQ won't want this thread being turned into ATAAT.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/10/2024 14:16

lookingformypage · 18/10/2024 14:15

Anyone interested can read the thread and @MNHQ won't want this thread being turned into ATAAT.

Nice avoidance technique there.

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:16

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/10/2024 14:14

If lesbian and gay people can "meet as freely as they want absolutely" do you condemn the actions of trans activists who believe that the LGB Alliance should not be allowed to have charitable status, or hold events peacefully?

I don’t think they should have charitable status no, because they exist to promote transphobia which is of no benefit to the public.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/10/2024 14:18

lookingformypage · 18/10/2024 14:15

Anyone interested can read the thread and @MNHQ won't want this thread being turned into ATAAT.

But you decided to introduce another thread anyway, and in doing so can’t even evidence what you’re proclaiming. Riiiiightt.

Colour me shocked 🙄.

lookingformypage · 18/10/2024 14:21

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/10/2024 14:18

But you decided to introduce another thread anyway, and in doing so can’t even evidence what you’re proclaiming. Riiiiightt.

Colour me shocked 🙄.

But you decided to introduce another thread anyway, and in doing so can’t even evidence

You're the one who's attempting a derail by asking for posts from one thread to be posted in another thread (which I believe @MNHQ frown upon).

Feel free to go the thread and join the ongoing discussion.

spannasaurus · 18/10/2024 14:22

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:16

I don’t think they should have charitable status no, because they exist to promote transphobia which is of no benefit to the public.

And yet the charity commission doesn't agree with you nor does the first tier tribunal. The charity commission have confirmed that LGBA's charitable objects are absolutely fine.

Mermaids have already tried to get LGBA removed as a charity and they failed. What happened instead is that it became obvious that there were serious problems with Mermaids and the charity commission started an investigation into them that is still ongoing after nearly two years.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/10/2024 14:23

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:16

I don’t think they should have charitable status no, because they exist to promote transphobia which is of no benefit to the public.

So, just to clarify, you are OK with there being over 300 LGBT+ charities in the UK, but not with there being one single LGB without the T charity for LGB people who believe that the T+ agenda runs contrary to their own interests?

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:23

spannasaurus · 18/10/2024 14:22

And yet the charity commission doesn't agree with you nor does the first tier tribunal. The charity commission have confirmed that LGBA's charitable objects are absolutely fine.

Mermaids have already tried to get LGBA removed as a charity and they failed. What happened instead is that it became obvious that there were serious problems with Mermaids and the charity commission started an investigation into them that is still ongoing after nearly two years.

Yes I’m aware of the legal context and I disagree with the court decisions absolutely. Won’t be the first time or the last.

nutmeg7 · 18/10/2024 14:23

@PiggleToes what do you mean by “trans ideology”? The idea that trans people exist and should be respected and included in society?

I would define trans ideology as

  1. The belief that everyone has an inner “gender identity” that doesn’t have anything to do with their sexed body.
  2. The belief that society should use inner “gender” as a means of organising, and not use biological sex for this purpose at all.
  3. The belief that everyone else should also believe that someone can literally change sex, or at least pretend that we believe this

Hence the pushback from those who don’t share these beliefs, and would like any segregated services, facilities and sports to continue to be organised according to sex (reflecting the material reality of the world, and women’s status as the generally smaller and physically weaker sex and therefore in need of some protections where necessary).

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/10/2024 14:24

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:23

Yes I’m aware of the legal context and I disagree with the court decisions absolutely. Won’t be the first time or the last.

On what basis do you think the tribunal judge was wrong in law?

RedToothBrush · 18/10/2024 14:24

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 13:56

So it's NOT transphobic to refuse to use someones pronouns?

not respecting someone else’s pronouns is fundamentally degrading to the dignity and value of that person. It’s a form of intimidation and bullying. Yes it is transphobic.

Not transphobic to say people cannot pick their own treatment whatever a doctor says?

your straw man here is entrenched in transphobia.

Not transphobic to say males should not be in female sport?

Theres a legitimate debate to be had about eligibility for participation in women’s sport. most of the way that this is debated however, which usually involves attacking and bullying trans people and athletes with DSDs , is violently transphobic.

Not transphobic to say males should not be in female changing spaces?

there’s a legitimate debate to be had about how to organise spaces so everyone feels safe. This also includes respecting the dignity , safety, privacy of trans people. Third spaces for gender critical women is my preferred approach. But for some reason gender criticals don’t go for it despite thinking trans people should be fine in a third space…

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not respecting someone else’s pronouns is fundamentally degrading to the dignity and value of that person. It’s a form of intimidation and bullying. Yes it is transphobic.

Bullshit

Pronouns are a recognition of sex. They are not a feeling.

If you are forced to use other people's pronouns or else you are 'transphobic' then that's a form of bullying and intimidation.

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:25

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/10/2024 14:23

So, just to clarify, you are OK with there being over 300 LGBT+ charities in the UK, but not with there being one single LGB without the T charity for LGB people who believe that the T+ agenda runs contrary to their own interests?

I don’t have a problem with an LGB organisation , or with services or advocacy specifically focused on challenges faced by sexual minorities.

I have a problem with the LGBA because of their specifically transphobic agenda.

BecauseRonald · 18/10/2024 14:26

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 14:16

I don’t think they should have charitable status no, because they exist to promote transphobia which is of no benefit to the public.

Mermaids tried and failed spectacularly. I'm very surprised that you don't know this. Unless you are here to waste everyone's time.

RedToothBrush · 18/10/2024 14:27

ArcheryAnnie · 18/10/2024 14:14

I'm entirely content for anyone to protest the LGB alliance conference. What I object to is that conference being attacked, with a view to shutting it down.

One is democracy in action. The other is extremist would-be terrorism.

Quite.

Otherwise it'd be lawful for us to disrupt and prevent a meeting of any idea we disliked through means that were violent and intimidatory.

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