Tmi but left sanitary towel in bathroom

[Embarrassed3]

This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

Sorry I know tmi

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I would freak out to hell!
Sorry, uninformed 45 yo, never given birth.
I assume this stuff is normal to happen?

I swear if a man called me a scruffy cunt because of any period product left out by accident, I'd make him fucking eat it, whilst shouting at him SCRUFFY CUNT? I'LL SHOW YOU SCRUFFY CUNT!! However I appreciate not everyone is as, ummm, hot headed as me.

You absolutely need to get rid of this joke of a man. He's not a partner, he's just a man you happen to have the misfortune to share children with and live in the same house as. GET RID ASAP OP ❤️

So he's going to be filling your boys with this misogynistic crap too. Their future colleagues, girlfriends etc. all get the new improved version of dickhead dad.

That's absolutely disgusting behaviour. What a horrible immature twat. I don't think I'd be able to forgive this! How dare he talk to you like this, and be so angry about a womans bodily function? You have nothing to be embarrassed about, but I'm so sorry your DP is a prick.

That is no way for a man who is supposed to love you to talk to you! I can only ever think that would be ok if he'd come out with it in a friendly, jokey way full of affection.

Which obviously is not the case here. Leaving him might be a bit extreme as you have 2 DC. But you certainly need some relationship guidance there.

Has he even realised he has upset you?

Wow. Does he always speak to you like that? 🥺

So sorry Op, he is a very unpleasant man. If you have assets or debts with this man - mortgage, tenancy, whatever, please get legal advice about separating . If not, just get to your mums and away from him.
Bloody dinosaur

Total over reaction. No long term future there. Imagine yourselves old and incontinent etc etc. would he be able to deal with it? If the answer in no, then go find yourself somebody who will because we are all headed in that direction.

A gentleman would have pretended he didn’t notice anything.

Over reaction from your DH, you shouldn’t stand for someone speaking to you like that.

Anyone who calls me a name like that would be out of the door regardless of what the issue is. Sure, comment on my behaviour, but do not ever disrespect me by calling me a name - especially containing a swear word.

Please don’t accept this op.

After I had my baby I was very very unwell. My husband helped to change my pads and clean me up. He never once complained or commented negatively.

Everyone deserves to have someone that respects them and cares about their wellbeing.

My DH was sick once in the bath and I had to scoop it out to stop it from clogging up the drains. He was too ill to do it himself. If you truly love somebody for who they are, it is not an issue.

He is awful and I feel very sorry for you, this happened to me, when I was dating my husband, he went to the toilet after me and thrown it in the bin, he never mentioned and when I realised, I apologised and he said, don’t be stupid, is normal stuff, or something like that

Absolutely this.

If he spoke to me like that he'd be EXDH.

Does Captain Perfect never leave anything where it shouldn't be? Shoes, socks, cups, keys??

This.

That’s awful. I am sure I’ve done this with tampons but dh would no way speak to me like that. He may say ‘you’ve forgotten to put something in the bin’ but in a normal way and we’d laugh about it! He is a bit squeamish about periods (I am post meno now!) but would never shout about it.

@Nothatgingerpirate It was my first (and only 😅) DC so I was new to it all too 😂
Midwife was due in an hour later to check me so she got the pleasure of looking at it and wasn’t in the slightest bit phased 😂 she just checked it was blood and not leftover tissue 🤷🏻‍♀️
You still get contractions after birth for a few days (or I did anyways!) while your uterus goes back down to size, as well as a very heavy post-partum bleed. While baby is breastfeeding the contractions are more intense too 🙃😂 which nobody ever tells you lol. So I think just the way I had been sat all night (DS had fed on and off for 8 hours and wouldn’t be put down), it hadn’t been able to come out so had clotted 😅🤢 then I got out of bed and it wanted out 🙈 I can’t say that it was a pleasant experience 😂

The fact that he attacked you over this shows zero empathy. He is willing to humiliate you because he had to see a bit of menstrual blood. What a arse. Why are you with someone like that?

Yes I'd be embarrassed

Embarrassed I was with such a horrible specimen

How awful, it was a mistake and he shouldn’t make you feel bad for it - he should have just binned it and not said anything - as if you would have left it on purpose!

He sounds awful! It was a genuine mistake and any normal guy either would have made a tiny joke about it or not even bothered!

If you’re unhappy and there’s lots of other things going on then it might be a good idea to get some space from him and think about what you want in life for you and your children.

Awful reaction OP
Hope you can get out safely
Best wishes

What is your financial position ?

Do you at least own half the house ?

Are you working and financially ok?
What is your housing situation?