Tmi but left sanitary towel in bathroom

[Embarrassed3]

This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

Sorry I know tmi

That's absolutely awful. Reading about these kind of men makes me rage. My DH would put it in the bin and not say anything. But my DH isn't an arsehole.

@Embarrassed3 you need to get onto him for leaving his disgusting razor lying around in the bathroom!! what an over reaction!!

Awful language, and how horrible he got so angry!

And that’s coming from someone whose H has a blood phobia, likes to think periods don’t exist, and pulls a horrified face when I mention it’s that time of the month again. But he has to get used to it (and a lot more seeing open bins of maternity pads and pants for the weeks after birth of our children)!

Christ what a nasty woman hating bastard

I strongly hope you haven't had a daughter with this current boyfriend. He will make her life an absolute misery if the boyfriend doesn't leave you before the teenage years.

What else does this toddler man whine about?

That's awful then!

Bloody hell....
This shit happens, I guess to most of us at a time, but his reaction?? 😡
Get rid of this scruffy c* of a "partner".
By the way, something similar did happen to me some time ago.
My husband, who is three decades older, commented, "Oh, I thought all sanitary towels look like that already".
😁

Yep, like my ex who was fine with period blood when he was shagging me, but would be horrible to me the times he saw some red toilet roll in the loo which hadn't flushed down the first time 🙄

Do you clean the bathrooms? Clean his pee dribbles and hair out the plug hole?

next time drag him in there, call him a scruffy cunt and make him clean up the pee himself.

make him wash his own skiddies and crusty socks as well. In fact act disgusted around any and all of his bodily emissions.

While you are organising yourself to leave - make sure you call him a scruffy cunt for leaving skidmarks on the toilet or similar. I would bet if you did he would minimise it - in his head period blood trumps shit I dare say. If he tries to initiate sex - no thanks, don't forget I'm a scruffy cunt. Periods are part of being a woman of child-bearing age after all, and presumably he is happy to have sex with you? Can't have one without the other.

Do you have a daughter with him op?

What the fuck. So what if you left it there? It's not embarrassing whatsoever?! A very similar thing happened to me, it was found by my teenage son who flippantly said 'you've left something pretty grim in the bathroom'.
I'd be more concerned about your partners reaction, it is not acceptable to be spoken to like that, if my partner (and I would think a lot of people on here) said that to me our relationship would be on very shaky ground.
You've basically done nothing wrong and you need to put yourself and your feelings first and demand to be treated with respect.

Do you have a daughter? Is he going to say the same to her when she forgets to bin her sanitary towel?

What a horrid human.

Spot on. It is. Far too short….

I will tell my girls not to leave things like that on the bathroom
floor. Not because I think it or they are “disgusting” in any way - but because it is basic good manners to put them in the bin and not leave them for others to find. Same with flushing the loo. Same with used loo roll/wipes or whatever. But this angry response is a worrying overreaction. He should either have moved it or asked you to move it. End of. Horrible -
and unnecessary response from him.

Awful. For context OP this morning I got up (DH asleep) having leaked through the tampon and towel I'd used last night, went to the bathroom to sort myself out and ended up jumping in the shower to freshen up. Got out and DH had obviously woken when I did, changed the bed, put the sheets in the wash, made me a cup of tea and a hot water bottle, and said I thought you might not be feeling great, gave me a kiss, got himself ready and has gone to work.

Your partner is not a nice man

So you make a genuine mistake and this is how her reacts.

Such a shame that you have children with this monster.

That's really worrying. Some people do have a strong disgust reaction to normal bodily functions - we often see this in MN threads where it's clear attitudes to laundry, hygiene etc can vary so much. A strong disgust reaction can take people by surprise, but part of being an adult and a decent person is learning to manage that. To think before reacting. And if you love somebody, you care about how they feel - you don't want them to feel scared or ashamed. He didn't act like somebody who loves or cares for you. Worse, his behaviour was showing you that when he is disgusted or angry, he doesn't stop to think about how he's behaving, doesn't watch himself. So any time he gets disgusted or angry, you and the kids can be treated however he wants. With no respect.

I think you should insist on couples counselling or say you're leaving. I know a family where the dad was prone to angry outbursts & he went for anger management therapy and it really did work.
So sorry you've had this happen - nobody should be made to feel ashamed of scared by their partner .

OP I did this once in a rush, and DH put it in the bin for me! Your partner is being abusive towards you. I know this is overused on mumsnet, but LTB.

He’s a twat!!!! Most people have done it once in their lives. Hes complete out of order. Get rid.

Yes, because he was all elegance and poise with his choice of language 🙄😔

Hugs

I would be astonished if this man isn’t horribly abusive and misogynistic in other ways too.
He is, isn’t he, OP?

Oh my god, I occasionally leave used pads out by accident especially after showing.
My DH has NEVER said a word about it, finds it gross of course but has never said a bad word. I honestly can't believe your DH spoke to you like that

I once threw a pair of pants with pad still attached into the laundry basket. Happened to be in the kitchen when DH was loading the machine, so heard his 'oh' and snatched them back. I was mortified and apologized profusely, but he correctly insisted it was no big deal.

I think swearing at your partner in anger (especially with a loaded word like cunt) is unacceptable. I'd be having words and expecting a profuse apology for his massive overreaction. If I didn't get that I would be re-evaluating the relationship.

It's not a particularly nice thing to find but an adult would have put it in the bin while pulling a private horrified face, and perhaps mentioned you forgot if he was that bothered. Or if he was THAT horrified I guess he could have just said you'd left it and he didn't want to touch it.

He reacted like you'd fished a few days worth out of the bin and stuck then to the wall like a jolly red aeroplane display and painted "lol you said you wanted to see the red arrows DP!" under it in blood. I couldn't stay with someone who thought speaking to me like that was ok. Your kids will learn from him and speak to their future partners like this.

We have 2 boys.

The relationship isn’t great at the moment. Since have DS2 he has become incredibly selfish. Leaves everything to me, goes out whenever he wants. He definitely doesn’t care about me or my feelings but when I pull him up on these things he ends up switching the blame. That’s why I started the thread because I wondered if I was genuinely being unreasonable. He makes me doubt myself a lot.

Someone asked if I was able to move out, I’d be able to go to my mums