Tmi but left sanitary towel in bathroom

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This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

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He sounds fucking horrible.

This is not a normal behaviour of a loving partner.

That's horrible. I've done this once or twice before when rushing or distracted and DH has never mentioned it, just put it in the bin if he's noticed.

Why on earth do you think it’s anywhere reasonable for an adult man to behave like this? That’s deeply misogynistic and arsehole behaviour. I assume he’s seen blood before? Or is it the fact it’s had contact with your vagina the issue? I assume he’s also seen and benefits from your vagina, does he not?

Of course, how silly of me – your vagina is for his pleasure only and any function it actually serves for you is ‘disgusting’.

Misogynistic prick.

So rude. I did this once at the house of my friend's parents. His Mum definitely saw, but was gracious and pretended she hadn't, even though I was mortified.

It’s a horrible way to treat you. Anyone can make a mistake like that. He sounds like a very angry man.

Your DP is the cunt.

You're a woman. They menstruate - did he think you're any different?

What a vile man

His reaction ott...id bin him. Dh would just pop it in the bin. It's not a biggie

Total overreaction. He should never speak to you like that.

I cannot imagine the world where DP speaks to me like that. That is AWFUL, Op.

Was he really angry or did he say it in a light hearted way? If he was really angry then that's a horrible overreaction.

@SallyWD He was really angry. Definitely wasn’t said in a lighthearted way. He stormed into the room and said what he said. Then I said sorry I didn’t do it on purpose then he said it was disgusting and went downstairs

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what a wanker

Find your anger and tell him to fuck off and never dare speak to you like that again.

How is the rest of your relationship? Does he do anything else that scares you?

I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side

To be honest, I'd even have a problem with this assuming it was a one off!

I've been sure I've accidentally left one out on more than one occasion over the years, but presumably my husband just put it in the bin as it wasn't there when I got back home. I'm sure he'd have a word if I made a habit of it, but otherwise what's the point in saying anything?

I also think a man who is so hopelessly squeamish about his partner's bodily fluids is a bit tragic. Grow up!

He doesn't just hate you, he hates all women and is disgusted by us. Your children are better away from him.

When else during your relationship has he acted like this towards you op?

The only disgusting thing is his attitude.

Periods are normal and we can swim, bathe, run and sex etc when menstruating. Does he avoid sex when you’re menstruating? Sorry no need to answer but just a thought

Was he there for the birth of your children? The recovery period? There is so much more blood and stuff involved. It's not disgusting, your not disgusting. Go take back your apology and Tell him go fuck himself

What a horrible man, such an immature reaction with such venom. I'm so sorry you had to go thro thro! Clear that shame from yourself he is the shameful one ...

As the pp said - "Life is far too short to be in a relationship with someone who calls you a scruffy cunt."

I hope one of your DCs isn't a daughter. I wouldn't allow anyone to talk to me like that, especially not my partner.

He sounds horrible. It was an innocent mistake. Can't imagine staying with someone who called me a cunt!

Does he genuinely speak to you like this OP?

I have known men who have various levels of comfort around periods - some happy to have sex while on my period, some less so. Never encountered this extremity of disgust for a natural bodily function tho.

I've no doubt you sometimes have to clean his shit stains or piss droplets from the toilets. That's much worse in my opinion, and certainly no better.

But back to my question, does he normally treat you like this. If it's really and totally out of character, it's worth a discussion - did he have any reason to think you had done it to annoy him for example?

If this is how he acts towards you, please get out as soon as you can, he is a bastard.

He is a misogynist who is disgusted by women's bodies. What kind of man baby freaks out at evidence that his wife menstruates? He sounds insecure, childish and odd as fuck. I couldn't live with someone that easily unbalanced.