Tmi but left sanitary towel in bathroom

[Embarrassed3]

This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

Sorry I know tmi

Completely unwarranted reaction and says a lot about his level of maturity.

He's fucking disgusting with that attitude.

Having just read your update I would be moving into your mums with the kids and telling him to frig off

I’m so sorry that he’s ground you down to think this kind of behaviour is tolerable. It’s frankly disgusting and you and your children deserve so much more than this misogynistic abuser.

find your anger and leave

OP I'm so sorry, what a nasty aggressive intimidating bastard.
When you are feeling calmer, think through the rest of the relationship. Do you want this for the rest of your life? Do you want it for your children?
I'm going to make a massive leap here and assume you spend a lot of your time making sure he's happy, and trying not to let him get riled up. Walking on eggshells. Everything's great when you're all doing as you're told, but it can all change in a second. Am I close?

Wtf?! I’ve done this before and my DH has quietly put it in the bin. No fuss made at all. I can’t believe grown men actually act like this, especially ones that are supposed to care about you!

Based on your OP and your latest update, releasing this much aggressive anger like that over something so minor sounds like your DP actually hates you (I've been through this, it's absolutely not you).

I'd be making plans to leave him, as he adds nothing to your life.

If any man called me a “scruffy cunt”, it would be the last thing he ever said to me.

@Embarrassed3 - hope you can see from these replies that this is not something that you need to put up with. Do yourself a favour and get away from him. I hope your children weren’t around to hear what he said.

It shouldn’t even have been something that he mentioned. Why would he not just put it in the bin?
My DH caught a blood clot the size of a chicken breast that fell out of me with his bare hands 😂😂 I was 2 days post birth and had been sat up all night cluster feeding 😅 I can only imagine what your DH would have done in the same situation.

Pack up and go to your mums asap.
He is a vile abusive pig.
What a disgusting way to speak to you.

Call your mum and pack today.

Switching the blame is a classic abuse technique OP. Google DARVA and see if it fits in your situation.
All women bleed, and shit and fart it's perfectly natural. Please don't let him talk to you in this way.

Vile reaction. You do not deserve to be spoken to in this manner. Please ensure your boys do not grow up to think misogynistic behaviour is normal.

The fact he called you a cunt is horrific. What an overreaction. It’s a normal bodily function that he witnessed. Bet he doesn’t mind sex though…
Does he normally speak to you so badly?

I asked my DH what he thought and he said "ridiculous overreaction".

Wow that’s terrible that he spoke to you that way! Absolutely disgusting.

Sorry, typo DARVO

If the children are boys it's just as bad as he's showing them how they should treat their future partners.

Yes, this. Mine would have hurried in and said you left something out that you wouldn’t want to be seen.

An aggressive, sweaty response is appalling. I would not stay with a man who shouted those words at me.

I had similar when I left one rolled up in a lidded bathroom pedal bin. It unraveled, he saw it in there and I was literally bollocked for being disgusting. We are now divorced.

Wow he's outrageous calling you that. It was left there by accident and it's just a bit of blood. Horrible over reaction.

That's not ok.

What's your next move?

DP and DD have done this a couple of times over the years.

I pick them up and put them in the bin and don't mention it to them because it's a complete non-event.

If it was happening multiple times a month then I'd probably mention it, but wouldn't be calling anyone any names, or shouting about it.

Your husband is a twat I'm afraid OP.

My ex used to call me a cunt..a psycho cunt, a manipulative cunt, a nasty cunt... unsurprisingly that was a symptom of a much bigger problem which is why he's currently waiting for trial for domestic abuse offences against me.
You need to really think about how he talks to you and what it means.

Vile man. My DH wouldn’t dream of speaking to me like that. It’s very easy to leave a sanitary pad out my mistake when you are tired, it’s the middle of the night or whatever. I’ve done it and been embarrassed but DH just went about his business and didn’t mention it.

Please reconsider this relationship and get you and your boys out. It’s no way to live. You sound very sweet.

Periods are nothing to be ashamed about! What an awful awful man.

This, OP.

You said you felt scared.
That’s a big enough 🚩

if you’re walking on eggshells and always trying not to set him off I wouldn’t wait another day.

Don’t tell him what you’re going to do but the next time he takes himself out you take your boys and go to your mum’s.

He sounds vile, with a ridiculously old-fashioned and misogynistic mindset. Don't let him try to shame you, or bring up your children like that. Would he feel the same about a blood-stained bandage from an injured arm? Why should you be made to feel ashamed about a completely normal bodily function that happens to half the people who have ever lived.