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MissMoneyFairy · 14/10/2024 12:55

You're not a weirdo, he's just horrible.

Whatafustercluck · 14/10/2024 13:44

When I broke my ankle a few years ago I was on blood thinners which gave me really heavy periods, unexpectedly heavy. I flooded and was so embarrassed. Dh helped me so much, bundled up my trousers and knickers, put them straight in the washing machine to try to stop the clothes from ruining. Then he went to the shop and bought me higher absorbency tampons and sanitary towels. He's not perfect, but in that moment I couldn't have loved him more.

Good luck with moving on away from him, op. You owe it as much to your sons as to yourself. Don't let them think that how your p spoke to you is normal or acceptable in any way.

Nuthatches · 14/10/2024 14:03

Embarrassed3 · 14/10/2024 09:49

Hi everyone. Thanks so much for all the comments. I’m currently in the process of ending the relationship. He doesn’t know this yet. I won’t lie, it’s not easy as despite how he treats me I do love him and it’ll be strange not being with him but I know it’s something I need to do.

This might sound like a non issue but I’m just wondering what people make of this and why he reacted this way. I won a competition on Facebook. Loads of Christmas goodies for the kids that we can use on Christmas Eve and for stocking fillers. I told him I had won and showed him the picture of everything I’d won. He tutted and called me a weirdo. How does that make me a weirdo?

Good on you! Good luck and stay strong. Don't let him talk you into changing your mind!

pogostick · 14/10/2024 14:26

Well done on planning on getting out/getting him out. Any DV? If so get professional DV advice before you tell him.
I once did this. Left on open, used sanitary towel on the side of the bath when the builders were in. Then went out. Horrified. It was still there when I got back hours later. I apologised and the absolute gem said ‘I don’t know what you mean’. He had abviously seen it as they were working on the bathroom.

Namechange5555555555 · 14/10/2024 15:00

He’s the weirdo my lovely not you.

What a knob he sounds, well done for putting up with it for all this time.

So pleased you are leaving him.

I read your post out to my dp the other day when you made the thread, I asked him what he thought. He was a bit gobsmacked and said he was an utter cunt…

Floralnomad · 14/10/2024 15:03

He sounds like a real knob , just get rid quickly as your home will be much improved by not having his negativity in it .

Dovecare · 14/10/2024 16:05

Get rid. Total lack of respect

CommonAsMucklowe · 14/10/2024 19:13

EnjoythemoneyJane · 14/10/2024 10:09

You’re not a weirdo. He’s a cunt.

As has been observed dozens of times in this thread, OP.

He hates you to be happy, proud or in any way lifted up. A normal decent man would want those things for you. He doesn’t. He wants you to feel insecure, on edge, undermined and unhappy. He wants you to question and second guess your every word and impulse because it makes him feel like Billy Big Balls to keep you down. At this point it really doesn’t matter what normal little pleasure you may mention in passing - he’ll say some random contemptuous thing to stamp the joy out of it and put you back in your place.

Stop wondering why he says things, OP. Every time you analyse what he says to you it’s as though you’re doubting yourself because you suspect somehow his response is reasonable or correct. It really, really isn’t.

So glad you’re removing this toxic wanker from your life.

Absolutely this ⬆️

We are all behind you and support you in this choice. If you ever weaken read this thread again and again and again! Good luck.

Mookytoo · 14/10/2024 20:29

I listen to a podcast and the lead-in from 2 female presenters is “Hi weirdos”

Not sure It’s a huge insult & maybe a term of endearment for some.

pollymere · 14/10/2024 20:47

We have a SEND teen. DH is just grateful if they're wrapped at all, or not left on the floor...

Your DP is being pathetic and needs to try and act like an adult.

whathaveiforgotten · 14/10/2024 22:05

Mookytoo · 14/10/2024 20:29

I listen to a podcast and the lead-in from 2 female presenters is “Hi weirdos”

Not sure It’s a huge insult & maybe a term of endearment for some.

In the context of this thread, with the information OP has given about her partner, do you think it's likely he was saying it affectionately though?

MelodyFinch · 15/10/2024 00:07

He is a psychopath. Stop analysing him, you are wasting your time. He could be dangerous. You need him out of your life. What you are feeling is not love it is a obsession that will end in a lot of pain.

TrishM80 · 15/10/2024 00:43

Embarrassed3 · 14/10/2024 09:49

Hi everyone. Thanks so much for all the comments. I’m currently in the process of ending the relationship. He doesn’t know this yet. I won’t lie, it’s not easy as despite how he treats me I do love him and it’ll be strange not being with him but I know it’s something I need to do.

This might sound like a non issue but I’m just wondering what people make of this and why he reacted this way. I won a competition on Facebook. Loads of Christmas goodies for the kids that we can use on Christmas Eve and for stocking fillers. I told him I had won and showed him the picture of everything I’d won. He tutted and called me a weirdo. How does that make me a weirdo?

What a miserable cunt.

MirandaJH · 15/10/2024 10:12

What an overreaction from him! I would tell him not to ever speak to me like that again unless he wants to come home and find out I’ve changed the locks.
I’ve left one out before and my husband just laughed at me, 90% of the time he’s the one buying my pads for me! I’ve also left one out when I had a group of friends over but realised after a complete stranger had been in there, I felt so embarrassed 😳
I once lived with a guy friend who asked me to put the box of unopened, unused pads somewhere he couldn’t see them because “it grossed him out”. I told him to stop being a misogynistic 🐱

Ilostseptember · 15/10/2024 14:43

Oh no poor you. I see you have decided to end things. Good on you for being so brave. Basically he period shamed you, which is misogyny at it's finest and obviously he thinks it's ok to treat you disrespectfully. Well done for standing up for yourself. It is hard but you can do better.

kaos2 · 16/10/2024 07:07

He is a cocklodger , I'd wager he only works part time too while you give him free lodgings ! He doesn't like you . You deserve better !

Hope you have followed through with your plan

Trapunt0 · 18/10/2024 20:27

Wow! I bet he's never ever dripped on the porcelain and I bet you've never ever wiped it without saying a word.
He needs to get a grip

NorthernSarcasticandDownrightFantastic · 19/10/2024 17:40

Embarrassed3 · 12/10/2024 08:45

This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

Sorry I know tmi

Put the entire man in the bin, set it alight and walk away

ItsAllTooMuch4Lisa · 19/10/2024 17:55

I am so sorry you’re going through this. Huge red flags and alarm bells ringing for me reading this. A perfectly natural bodily function and leaving the pad out is no different than a used plaster from a cut finger. His reaction is alarming ! That’s not how you behave in a relationship, not how you treat your partner, your sons mother or frankly
any person! Clearly there are some serious
issues with this man and I too would be planning an escape! You’re forever linked by your sons but they won’t have to grow up learning how to be fathers and husbands influenced by him!
I wish you and your sons all the best , stay strong. I left an abusive partner, little things like this escalated until one day I decided enough was enough and stood strong. Hardest thing I ever did but life got better and better after I did it !

Rachybabez · 19/10/2024 18:05

He sounds awful. These things happen, especially when you're all over the place dealing with your hormones on your period. Obviously you didn't do it on purpose. Not a big deal. My husband would of either chucked in the bin him self of just let me know it was there

Roboticleg · 19/10/2024 18:06

Well done for trying to sort and it sounds correctly ending the relationship. Im a guy and ok i don’t want periods waved in my face (do girls either?) but im not disgusted by it, i would either ignore it or put it in the bin. Best of luck in your new found freedom

WiddlinDiddlin · 19/10/2024 18:37

Ugh, your latest update - he can't stand for you to be happy, enjoy something, have good fortune. He's got to find a way to make you feel confused or crappy.

I hope you can get rid of him easily and quickly!

Pupinskipops · 19/10/2024 18:42

Ditch him. Nobody should speak to you like that!

Randa50 · 19/10/2024 18:47

Whatever you do as it's your house STAY get him out, move into a different room or move him into one if that means your sons need to share so be it. Will only be a short-term thing Talk to an organization that deals with domestic abuse as that's what it is He is undermining you at every turn making you doubt yourself. That's what abusers do don't stand for it get him out
Build a life with your sons without him 🤗🤗

IamMoodyBlue · 19/10/2024 18:49

I hope you are able to extricate yourself and DCs from this relationship without too much heartache. He sounds like a pathetic, self-absorbed inadequate person you will be well rid of.
We fall in love but oh, for a crystal ball to see how our dearly beloved behaves behind closed doors a couple of years later!

Best wishes for your new future.