Tmi but left sanitary towel in bathroom

[Embarrassed3]

This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

Sorry I know tmi

I have done that more than once 😩 I know it's embarrassing but it happens. No one should talk to you like that.

My husband was at one stage living with four daughters and myself (four of us here now as our eldest daughter has moved out) but someone always had/has a period, he has been known to empty the pad bins in the toilets (they were lined with scented bags of course, but still..) and pick up the endless paper strips (that teenagers tend to ignore!?) and he was/is always willing to buy anything period related the girls might need, if we're caught short.

I read your post and felt quite angry, it must feel miserable to be called out like this in your own home, a period is nothing to be ashamed of..

Take it from me, he's a cock womble!

He sounds just like my husband..
Makes you realise what a treasure they truly are, doesn't it!

Even reading your post has made me feel really upset, OP. What he said to you was absolutely horrible and there is no excuse. No man I know would ever say something like that. I'm so sorry. There are lots of other posters here with wiser words than me, but I couldn't read and run. I'm disgusted in his behaviour towards you. You have done NOTHING wrong here

If you live with a woman, this is a normal fact of life that you live with.
If you're an adult.
Making a woman, or trying to make a woman feel bad about periods, is a horrible thing to do.

He sounds nasty. I’ve made the same mistake as you a couple of times where I’ve meant to pop it in the bin but forgotten for whatever reason. If it’s in your own home it’s certainly no big deal.

Why would you move out? He needs to leave and go live under a stone. Horrible bastard.
You and your kids deserve a nicer life 💐💜💙💙

Periods scare him. Get rid of him. He’s monstrous.

That's very aggressive language. 😔

Your DP isn't very D at all, now is he? You have options. Use them. This will not get better. These things almost never, EVER get better. You said you wouldn't want your sons to treat their future DPs that was, but they are learning how to treat them by how their father treats you. NEVER lose sight of that fact. The sad this is, kids learn what they live. He will be their model.

That language, the reaction, - f this.. this person is not a keeper. It’s not like you shitted on the floor, this is a period pad for fs sake, it’s natural .. what would he be like seeing you give birth?? If he’s left you scared, then it sounds like beginnings of an abusive relationship.

And don’t apologise for talking about periods. It’s not tmi.. it’s natural. Anyone who can’t understand that can go fuckthemselves.

sorry, this has pissed me off so much!

(My husband is an old fashioned man’s man / caveman but wouldn’t ever speak to me like that about periods or anything that might make me feel awkward about my body… it’s got to take someone with the propensity to be abusive to speak like that).

Good luck love, you’ll do better, I’m sure.

Just want to add that it’s not always perfect at home with my caveman husband.. he comes across a bit selfish too sometimes as he doesn’t lift a finger at home, and if I bring this up, an argument kicks off, blah blah blah… but even being that much of an asshole, my husband would never speak to me like that or see to make me feel awkward…

Your partner sounds really aweful.. it’s not acceptable. Don’t accept it. Don’t let your boys grow up seeing you belittled by this piece of shit.

Sounds like he needs a short sharp shock ie tell him to move out for a bit and/or that you’re going to see solicitor about split and if that doesn’t sort it perhaps it’s time to get yourself a better life.

1. it’s not TMI
2. you have nothing to be embarrassed about
3. Im sure most of us have done this in 1 form or another
4. men should be thankful we don’t stick our pads on billboards for all to see because WE women have so much to put up with in regards to our bodies

I hope you’re alright, DP. I wouldnt normally say this but ur DP sounds like a **head. He needs to change or Kick him out. It’s ur house.

If any man I was involved with spoke to me like that he’d be out on his arse. That’s absolutely outrageous.

Is this the kind of role model you want for your sons?

He sounds awful.

But do you not put it in the wrapper.

When I take mine off, I always open an new one, and put the old one in the wrapper of the new one.

I'm sorry to say but most men that I've gone out with have been like this about periods.

They saw blood as disgusting.

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@Roundthemoon She said she’d rolled it up but it had come undone so I assume she did. The stick on those little tabs isn’t the best sometimes, especially if there’s weight in there. We need to demand better of our men. My DP doesn’t love knowing too much detail about menstruation but he’s gone to buy me supplies in an emergency before and would absolutely never react like this.

This person is the father of her children, I dread to think how he dealt with pregnancy, childbirth and the months following. He can’t have been any support to her at all, poor love.

Yeah the OPs man sounds horrendous.

I think I would definitely break up with someone who called me a cunt. It shows his character.

I used to go out with one guy.

If I ever got blood on the bed, he would glare at me and say "did you see the best? Yes it's blood. Yes it's disgusting"

:(

He was a horrible man.

Why are so many men disgusted by periods?

It just shows a lack of maturity, and worse still a lack of empathy because in their minds it isn’t their problem. They don’t mind seeing gory injuries or violence, it’s just pure misogyny.

Now i think of it, I actually did have a female flatmate call me disgusting once ages ago, when I accidentally left a bit of blood on the toilet seat.

Sigh. Some people really do see blood as totally disgusting. They never think that women have accidents.

He sounds dangerous. That is not a normal reaction, especially from someone you've had two children with, and all that entails. If he's not bothering with the kids, what good is he? I'd be looking for a way out of this relationship.

I've sadly experienced this reaction too from a partner in the past.

He said that when I got blood on the bed it was "fucking disgusting".

It's a good sign to leave him OP

It doesn't matter what you've done. If a man called me a 'fucking scruffy cunt', for any reason at all, then the relationship would be over.

Honestly, I don't understand why some women are willing to put up with being spoken to like that. In the nicest possible way, you need to find some self respect OP. He clearly doesn't respect you at all.