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To think that gay and lesbian people should be able to have a conference in peace

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nothingcomestonothing · 11/10/2024 19:10

Transactivists have tried to disrupt the LGBA conference by releasing insects into the venue. It's disgusting . Because they don't think gay men and lesbians should be allowed to meet peacefully without them.

No one is stopping transpeople from having events by themselves, why shouldn't gay men and lesbians be able to meet if that's what they want to do? It's just repackaged homophobia - same sex attracted people aren't allowed to have their own conference.

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BigBoysDontCry · 13/10/2024 12:05

timenowplease · 13/10/2024 11:57

There is truth to this statement.

The majority of the kids who were referred to the Tavistock were same sex attracted. It was a cause of great concern to several of the whistle blowers. The consensus is that these kids suffering from gender dysphoria , if left to their own devices and not affirmed, grow up to be happy and healthy gay men and women.

Exactly. And I've also seen children (girls in this case) who absolutely wanted to be a boy when a child and would dress as a boy etc etc. who when they hit puberty discovered that they actually liked being a girl after all and ended up not trans or indeed gay either.

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 12:05

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:02

second paragraph is the unique reason why LGBA were established and what they exist to promote- it is transphobia.

"Now there is a new type of homophobia in the UK that the established LGBTQ+ groups are failing to tackle and, in many cases, are actually making worse.
They promote the idea that gender, the way you feel or dress, is more important than biological sex. As lesbians, gay men and bisexuals whose orientation is sex based, we believe that replacing sex with gender means that we can no longer name or describe the discrimination we face and, therefore, that our hard-won rights can be dismantled*

How is this inaccurate? Or are you saying it is accurate but calling it out is "transphobia"?

It’s not accurate.
And it’s transphobic to suggest that recognising and respecting gender is inherently homophobic or harmful to gay people. it’s saying that we must not even talk about, respect or give legitimacy to the existence of trans people as to do so is fundamentally damaging to gay people- that’s the bit about existing to make trans people “disappear” that I referred to in my first post on this thread.

TheKeatingFive · 13/10/2024 12:06

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 13/10/2024 12:03

For the love of God, can someone attempt to answer this instead of ‘it’s transphobiaaaaaa’.

yes, this please.

Lets have an answer

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:07

@PiggleToes

It’s not accurate.
And it’s transphobic to suggest that recognising and respecting gender is inherently homophobic or harmful to gay people. it’s saying that we must not even talk about, respect or give legitimacy to the existence of trans people as to do so is fundamentally damaging to gay people- that’s the bit about existing to make trans people “disappear” that I referred to in my first post on this thread.

How is it not accurate? The rest is your personal opinion.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:08

Also, are you not aware that male only gay saunas are a thing?

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 13/10/2024 12:08

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 12:05

It’s not accurate.
And it’s transphobic to suggest that recognising and respecting gender is inherently homophobic or harmful to gay people. it’s saying that we must not even talk about, respect or give legitimacy to the existence of trans people as to do so is fundamentally damaging to gay people- that’s the bit about existing to make trans people “disappear” that I referred to in my first post on this thread.

So women who are same SEX attracted to other women should consider trans women aka males - in their dating pool or they are transphobic? Really?

TheKeatingFive · 13/10/2024 12:09

If you argue that lesbians must accept men into their dating pool on the grounds of these men's 'gender' then of course that's homophobic.

Any fool can see that

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:09

it’s saying that we must not even talk about, respect or give legitimacy to the existence of trans people as to do so is fundamentally damaging to gay people

A complete straw man

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 12:10

spannasaurus · 13/10/2024 12:04

Nancy Kelly, when she was CEO of stonewall, likened lesbians who wanted to exclude men who identified as lesbians from their dating pool to sexual racists.

she was saying that to say you don’t fancy someone because they are trans is analogous to saying you don’t fancy someone because they are black.

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 12:10

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:09

it’s saying that we must not even talk about, respect or give legitimacy to the existence of trans people as to do so is fundamentally damaging to gay people

A complete straw man

how so?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:10

TheKeatingFive · 13/10/2024 12:09

If you argue that lesbians must accept men into their dating pool on the grounds of these men's 'gender' then of course that's homophobic.

Any fool can see that

Exactly.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:11

how so?

Because at no point did LGB Alliance say no one should ever talk about trans issues. Not sure where you got that impression.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 13/10/2024 12:12

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 12:10

she was saying that to say you don’t fancy someone because they are trans is analogous to saying you don’t fancy someone because they are black.

Sorry what? How offensive. It’s not AT ALL.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:13

she was saying that to say you don’t fancy someone because they are trans is analogous to saying you don’t fancy someone because they are black.

It's not about whether they are trans, it's about their sex. Disingenuous to suggest it's about "trans" when that is irrelevant.

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 12:13

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:11

how so?

Because at no point did LGB Alliance say no one should ever talk about trans issues. Not sure where you got that impression.

They promote the idea that gender, the way you feel or dress, is more important than biological sex. As lesbians, gay men and bisexuals whose orientation is sex based, we believe that replacing sex with gender means that we can no longer name or describe the discrimination we face and, therefore, that our hard-won rights can be dismantled

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:14

But they didn't actually say they were against trans people talking about their own issues, that's something you invented.

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 12:14

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 13/10/2024 12:12

Sorry what? How offensive. It’s not AT ALL.

That’s what she was saying

Doggymummar · 13/10/2024 12:15

Spoilt little rich kids, bored with nothing better to do.

titchy · 13/10/2024 12:15

It’s not accurate.

In what way is it inaccurate?

And it’s transphobic to suggest that recognising and respecting gender is inherently homophobic or harmful to gay people. it’s saying that we must not even talk about, respect or give legitimacy to the existence of trans people as to do so is fundamentally damaging to gay people- that’s the bit about existing to make trans people “disappear” that I referred to in my first post on this thread

It doesn't say anything the existence of trans people or wanting to make them disappear. It says that when sexual attraction is defined in terms of gender, that makes a mockery of same-sex attracted people as it does not respect their sexuality. And that is a threat to gay and bi people given that sexuality is a protected characteristic.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:16

Nancy Kelley is awful. And yes it is what she was saying, that's why it's bad.

JHound · 13/10/2024 12:17

Waitingfordoggo · 13/10/2024 11:27

I have no idea if this is true or not but if the conference WAS transphobic then no, I don’t care about them releasing insects. Would be like anti-racism campaigners releasing insects to a racist conference. I would not have an issue with that either.

Strongly disagree with this. Obviously I wouldn’t support a ‘racist conference’ and people have the right to protest such things in a peaceful way. Releasing live insects into the venue is not that. It’s needless cruelty to the creatures and could present an environmental risk if the insects are not native species.

How is releasing insects “needlessly cruel to the insects”?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 12:17

As always, people do a bang up job on these threads of demonstrating why the LGB Alliance is needed.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 13/10/2024 12:18

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 12:14

That’s what she was saying

And that’s what you’re saying. No one has to believe in the concept of ‘gender’ if they don’t want to. The truth is sex can’t be changed, if you want to believe that it can, that’s fine. You don’t compel others to. Especially women who are same sex attracted. They aren’t transphobic to not want to include biological males in their dating pool (I see you didn’t attempt to address this).

It’s like reasoning with Sooty.

titchy · 13/10/2024 12:18

How is releasing insects “needlessly cruel to the insects”?

Because they'll be fumigated.

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