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To think that gay and lesbian people should be able to have a conference in peace

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nothingcomestonothing · 11/10/2024 19:10

Transactivists have tried to disrupt the LGBA conference by releasing insects into the venue. It's disgusting . Because they don't think gay men and lesbians should be allowed to meet peacefully without them.

No one is stopping transpeople from having events by themselves, why shouldn't gay men and lesbians be able to meet if that's what they want to do? It's just repackaged homophobia - same sex attracted people aren't allowed to have their own conference.

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PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:25

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:23

I'm a lesbian telling you that heterosexual men can't be lesbians.

Notwithstanding the nonsensical part of your statement- what is clear is that
you are a lesbian making pronouncements about who else is and isn’t a lesbian.

So I’m glad we cleared up who is and isn’t making pronouncements about other people’s sexuality.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 14/10/2024 09:25

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:17

Point to me once where I have told anyone how they should define their sexuality? It hasn’t happened once.

Meanwhile there are people all over this thread telling large numbers of lesbians they are not lesbians. Discussing when and it what circumstances the same man , with the same attraction, is or isn’t “straight” etc.

Men, no matter how they identify, cannot be lesbians. It really is that simple.

You don’t seem to understand the basic concept of SEXuality yourself.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:27

Basically what we have on this thread, and it's not particularly a surprising or novel or unusual one, is an assertion that people's claimed "gender identity" trumps the rights of other vulnerable groups, unquestionably. And to question it is in and of itself an act of "transphobia".

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:30

Notwithstanding the nonsensical part of your statement- what is clear is that
you are a lesbian making pronouncements about who else is and isn’t a lesbian?

What's nonsensical about it? Heterosexual and also bisexual men can't be lesbians. Because they are men and lesbians are women. Men: adult male humans. Women: adult female humans. There, I said it too.

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:31

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:27

Basically what we have on this thread, and it's not particularly a surprising or novel or unusual one, is an assertion that people's claimed "gender identity" trumps the rights of other vulnerable groups, unquestionably. And to question it is in and of itself an act of "transphobia".

Again, the only people on this thread making statements that some people’s rights “trump” others are the gender criticals.
I have done nothing but repeatedly question the premise of these statements.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:31

So I’m glad we cleared up who is and isn’t making pronouncements about other people’s sexuality.

If any obvious man says he's a lesbian, do you accept that as his "identity"?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:32

Again, the only people on this thread making statements that some people’s rights “trump” others are the gender criticals.

No.

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:33

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:30

Notwithstanding the nonsensical part of your statement- what is clear is that
you are a lesbian making pronouncements about who else is and isn’t a lesbian?

What's nonsensical about it? Heterosexual and also bisexual men can't be lesbians. Because they are men and lesbians are women. Men: adult male humans. Women: adult female humans. There, I said it too.

The nonsensical part is that it’s an entirely pointless / circular statement. I agree that things that are not a thing are not that thing.

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:34

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:32

Again, the only people on this thread making statements that some people’s rights “trump” others are the gender criticals.

No.

read the thread. The word “trump” appears a lot. People saying - this trumps that. Who’s saying it and what are they saying trumps what?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:34

yes I agree with you. The nonsensical part is that it’s an entirely pointless / circular statement.

A woman is a biological female. "A woman who identifies as a woman" is a circular statement. But surely you don't believe that, because it would be ridiculous, right? So you must have a definition of woman. What is it?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:35

"A woman is anyone who identifies as a woman" is the circular statement - just to clarify.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:36

Or alternatively. How is a biological male a woman? Should be quite simple for you to answer, no?

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:37

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:25

Notwithstanding the nonsensical part of your statement- what is clear is that
you are a lesbian making pronouncements about who else is and isn’t a lesbian.

So I’m glad we cleared up who is and isn’t making pronouncements about other people’s sexuality.

Edited

You are including men in the category of 'lesbian'.

If I've got that wrong the please explain who the 'large number of lesbians' or '9% of lesbians in the US' that you are referring to actually are?

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:41

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:37

You are including men in the category of 'lesbian'.

If I've got that wrong the please explain who the 'large number of lesbians' or '9% of lesbians in the US' that you are referring to actually are?

They are lesbian women who say they are attracted to some trans women.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:42

@PiggleToes

What is the actual difference between the "lesbian women" and the "trans women" then? Why are most "lesbian women" not attracted to any "trans women" according to published research?

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:46

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:41

They are lesbian women who say they are attracted to some trans women.

I don't know what you're on about here. Some dodgy 'study' I imagine.

Can we define terms?

What is a lesbian?

My definition is a lesbian is a same sex attracted female.

And by female I mean a woman.

And by a woman I mean an a biological female.

OctoberOctopus · 14/10/2024 09:46

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:42

@PiggleToes

What is the actual difference between the "lesbian women" and the "trans women" then? Why are most "lesbian women" not attracted to any "trans women" according to published research?

I think the dangly bit between the legs and the xy Chromosomes might be z giveaway.

I mean just a quick glance and we can see men even with the dresses, lipstick and other add ons.

Drfosters · 14/10/2024 09:48

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:14

I am honestly open to debate. I am trying to listen but it is just honestly baffling that I can’t even get past the first post

hey sorry just saw this part of the post. The problem is that these things are really complicated and people don’t want to hear that on social media - they want quick and simple explanations that are easy for them to understand or can directly observe and they mistake that for “facts” and “science”.

I have lots of information I could share and explanations that I could offer, but they are complex and nuanced. There’s just not point really unless people are open to that.

But you can’t have nuances in society and for the law when people are categorising themselves. That is the point. You are either are in the category or not and it has to be objectively measured. Society functions on definitions and categorisations. I am white. If I said I was black, for instance, people would look at me and know I wasn’t correct. saying LGBA have transphobic material their website but then not clearly articulating what is transphobic other than ‘feelings’, ‘lived experiences’ doesn’t work for me. The information in their website seems to agree with legal definitions and definitions most people have accepted for millennia until the last couple of years. We all can’t believe different things or there is anarchy (which there clearly is evidenced by the actions of this conference ).

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:48

I don't know what you're on about here. Some dodgy 'study' I imagine.

I posted it upthread. It's a study of how "cis people" mostly aren't attracted to trans people, and when they are, half the time it corresponds only to their sexual orientation.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:49

Even other trans people aren't always attracted to trans people, according to the study.

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:50

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:48

I don't know what you're on about here. Some dodgy 'study' I imagine.

I posted it upthread. It's a study of how "cis people" mostly aren't attracted to trans people, and when they are, half the time it corresponds only to their sexual orientation.

So is that were the '9% of US lesbians' comes from?

I

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:50

Yes.

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:50

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:46

I don't know what you're on about here. Some dodgy 'study' I imagine.

Can we define terms?

What is a lesbian?

My definition is a lesbian is a same sex attracted female.

And by female I mean a woman.

And by a woman I mean an a biological female.

It was a study poster by a pp.

People really need to read the thread.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:51

It's a sample though of about 1000 people in total, of all sexual orientations and gender identities.

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:51

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:50

It was a study poster by a pp.

People really need to read the thread.

So you won't define terms?

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