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To think that gay and lesbian people should be able to have a conference in peace

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nothingcomestonothing · 11/10/2024 19:10

Transactivists have tried to disrupt the LGBA conference by releasing insects into the venue. It's disgusting . Because they don't think gay men and lesbians should be allowed to meet peacefully without them.

No one is stopping transpeople from having events by themselves, why shouldn't gay men and lesbians be able to meet if that's what they want to do? It's just repackaged homophobia - same sex attracted people aren't allowed to have their own conference.

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PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 08:44

DrBlackbird · 14/10/2024 08:43

DEI pressure. University’s under pressure to move up rankings along with good intentions about inclusivity based on incomplete (and misogynistic) thinking. In Hoover’s case, it was not the scientific community who moved against her. I know many researchers who are very cautious about their public profile trying to protect themselves from similar attacks. This has been going on for 10+ years.

www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/12/harvard-mit-upenn-free-speech-congressional-hearings/676278/

Ah yes, those evil forces pushing for diversity and inclusion.

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 08:46

Igmum · 14/10/2024 08:44

There are over 300 trans charities in the UK, most of which don't cater for LGB. There are now only tiny numbers of LGB organisations. The TRAs are now livid LGB people are getting a voice and are able to talk about same sex attraction. They've taken the LGB Alliance to court to prevent it, they've picketed meetings, they threaten violence and now this.

Of course it's utterly unacceptable. Of course LGB people should be able to meet peacefully. Of course the children doing this and the men who pull the strings behind the scenes should be charged.

TRAs are now livid LGB people are getting a voice and are able to talk about same sex attraction

No . They are livid that the LGBA exists to promote the idea that trans experience is illegitimate and inherently threatening to LGB people.

The majority of LGBT people stand together in opposing all forms of sexual and gender based oppression and discrimination

SinnerBoy · 14/10/2024 08:50

PiggleToes · Today 08:24

So you are saying that your representation of sex is true because it’s easily understood? And that this is a scientific claim? Baffling.

No, I'm saying that whilst it may be complicated, scientifically, sex and the differences between the sexes are easily understood. Even five year old manage to perform such feats.

Is the world also flat because that’s easier to understand/ more intuitive?

Oh, you are silly, aren't you?!

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 08:51

SinnerBoy · 14/10/2024 08:50

PiggleToes · Today 08:24

So you are saying that your representation of sex is true because it’s easily understood? And that this is a scientific claim? Baffling.

No, I'm saying that whilst it may be complicated, scientifically, sex and the differences between the sexes are easily understood. Even five year old manage to perform such feats.

Is the world also flat because that’s easier to understand/ more intuitive?

Oh, you are silly, aren't you?!

I have a 5 year old and she certainly doesn’t accurately understand the science of sex development. I see no evidence that you do either.

HotSource · 14/10/2024 08:51

Having a different view is not a definition of hate
Not wishing to define your sexuality by gender or have the word to describe your sexuality changed in meaning is not ‘anti trans’. It just means that you don’t want the identity of trans people to define you.

That’s all.

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 08:52

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 08:32

this was all explained and covered pages back. Read the thread. It hardly needs explaining though as evidence of the anti trans agenda is all over their website - plain as day.

Edited

In your topsy turvy world anything can be anything. Men are lesbians, sex isn't binary, gay people who organise a meeting for themselves are transphobic etc etc.

Maybe you should do what everyone else has had to do. Create your own words, start your own groups and foster your own culture. Because your current gig is rapidly coming to an end.

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 08:53

HotSource · 14/10/2024 08:51

Having a different view is not a definition of hate
Not wishing to define your sexuality by gender or have the word to describe your sexuality changed in meaning is not ‘anti trans’. It just means that you don’t want the identity of trans people to define you.

That’s all.

The only people telling other people who they are , how they must be defined , and when and in what circumstances their sexuality must be changed , are the gender criticals on this thread.

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:02

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 08:53

The only people telling other people who they are , how they must be defined , and when and in what circumstances their sexuality must be changed , are the gender criticals on this thread.

The only people telling other people who they are.. are the gender criticals on this thread.

🤣🤣🤣

See? - topsy turvy!

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:04

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:02

The only people telling other people who they are.. are the gender criticals on this thread.

🤣🤣🤣

See? - topsy turvy!

No- just completely accurate. Read the thread.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 14/10/2024 09:09

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 08:53

The only people telling other people who they are , how they must be defined , and when and in what circumstances their sexuality must be changed , are the gender criticals on this thread.

That’s what you are doing. The irony has whooshed right over your head.

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:13

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:04

No- just completely accurate. Read the thread.

I've read the thread, thanks. And posted several times.

You've got nothing.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 14/10/2024 09:14

nothingcomestonothing · 14/10/2024 07:44

This is ridiculous. Words have meanings. It's not about trying to make 'other people’s sexuality is a matter of external/ societal evaluation and judgement, rather than something that is known and understood by the actual person'. It's about words having meanings that we all understand. No one cares what your sexuality is, as long as you only involve consenting adults in it. But words have meanings you can't just change and then complain others aren't going along with your new meaning.

If my inner identity is as a seven year old, when I'm 49, other people saying I'm not 7 and not letting me go to primary school isn't other people trying to define and judge me, and it isn't sevenphobia, It's other people having a shared understanding of what a seven year old is and knowing I don't fit the criteria. I don't, I'm not seven, that's just a fact, my body isn't seven years old and that's the definition of seven year olds. I don't belong in year 3 and year 3 aren't being phobic to have year 3 without me.

Well said. This thread is depressing reminder of the relentlessness of transactivists in promoting a toddler level of thinking and behaviour with zero insight into the rights of others to meet, to speak and to associate freely in a democratic society.

“When I use a word,” Humpty Dumpty said in rather a scornful tone, “it means just what I choose it to mean—neither more nor less.”

DrBlackbird · 14/10/2024 09:14

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 07:44

But all of that is sometimes empirically false 🤷🏼‍♀️

Is the word ‘empirical’ also being redefined now too?

Goodness, of course accusations of any kind need explaining. And whilst I haven’t read all 32 pages, I haven’t seen any evidence pointing to the transphobia at the conference.

However, irrespective of that evidence, the original OP was about releasing live insects into a legal event being held by gay people. That, in my opinion, is cowardly, childish and despicable. Not to mention shockingly and openly homophobic. Utterly disgraceful.

If you disagree with claims, then stand up and present a reasoned opposing argument. The act of releasing the insects, however, was just another deeply unpleasant means to tell people to shut up and I’m surprised that you could support such an underhanded act. It is not how intelligent people work out their differing views.

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:14

Drfosters · 14/10/2024 07:56

An ok thanks…

i don’t think you understand our points though. In order for some to have a sexuality, that sexuality has to be clearly defined so you know if you fall into it.

at the moment the sexualities are all defined by the sex of the person. They are clear and concise and pretty everyone can pick where they should be.

you are saying that people should be able to make up their own definitions based on feelings and that no one else should police that.

but in society (in general and legally) that does not work. Hence why people like me and others can’t understand why we would be called transphobic because we rely on the dictionary definition. I also could be inadvertently discriminating against someone because I would not be aware of what class they had put themselves in.

I’ve asked you to provide the definitions that you would prefer and you haven’t given them. I honestly think you can’t because once you start adding in the opposite sex the definition becomes a bit circular and meaningless and you end up with the silly ‘woman is a non man’

I am honestly open to debate. I am trying to listen but it is just honestly baffling that I can’t even get past the first post

I am honestly open to debate. I am trying to listen but it is just honestly baffling that I can’t even get past the first post

hey sorry just saw this part of the post. The problem is that these things are really complicated and people don’t want to hear that on social media - they want quick and simple explanations that are easy for them to understand or can directly observe and they mistake that for “facts” and “science”.

I have lots of information I could share and explanations that I could offer, but they are complex and nuanced. There’s just not point really unless people are open to that.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:16

Ah yes, those evil forces pushing for diversity and inclusion.

They aren't though. Have a read of Orwell's 1984, maybe? There's this interesting concept called Newspeak.

Although ignorance is strength, obvs.

SinnerBoy · 14/10/2024 09:16

PiggleToes · Today 08:51

I have a 5 year old and she certainly doesn’t accurately understand the science of sex development. I see no evidence that you do either.

Ah, bless your heart! As you know, that's not what I said.

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:17

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 14/10/2024 09:09

That’s what you are doing. The irony has whooshed right over your head.

Point to me once where I have told anyone how they should define their sexuality? It hasn’t happened once.

Meanwhile there are people all over this thread telling large numbers of lesbians they are not lesbians. Discussing when and it what circumstances the same man , with the same attraction, is or isn’t “straight” etc.

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:18

DrBlackbird · 14/10/2024 09:14

Is the word ‘empirical’ also being redefined now too?

Goodness, of course accusations of any kind need explaining. And whilst I haven’t read all 32 pages, I haven’t seen any evidence pointing to the transphobia at the conference.

However, irrespective of that evidence, the original OP was about releasing live insects into a legal event being held by gay people. That, in my opinion, is cowardly, childish and despicable. Not to mention shockingly and openly homophobic. Utterly disgraceful.

If you disagree with claims, then stand up and present a reasoned opposing argument. The act of releasing the insects, however, was just another deeply unpleasant means to tell people to shut up and I’m surprised that you could support such an underhanded act. It is not how intelligent people work out their differing views.

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If you disagree with claims, then stand up and present a reasoned opposing argument.

or rather than asking me to repeat myself you could just read the thread

Igmum · 14/10/2024 09:20

It's difficult to believe you are up for nuanced and complex debate Piggletoes when you won't offer it. You simply assert your own (unnuanced) view with increasing force. Given that here you are supporting a disturbing disruption of nuanced debate it is difficult to believe you support it. If you did you would condemn this disruption and ask LGB Alliance to a discussion.

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:21

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:17

Point to me once where I have told anyone how they should define their sexuality? It hasn’t happened once.

Meanwhile there are people all over this thread telling large numbers of lesbians they are not lesbians. Discussing when and it what circumstances the same man , with the same attraction, is or isn’t “straight” etc.

Point to me once where I have told anyone how they should define their sexuality? It hasn’t happened once.

and then you say..

Meanwhile there are people all over this thread telling large numbers of lesbians they are not lesbians.

That's it right there ^^ That's you doing what you're accusing us of. Don't you get it?

DrBlackbird · 14/10/2024 09:22

Ah well. There we are, I’ve read a lot of the thread. Haven’t seen any evidence supporting claims of transphobia at the LGB conference. But, again, irrespective, my view is that releasing those insects was a despicable and homophobic act. It seems you’re okay with that so we must leave it there.

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:22

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:21

Point to me once where I have told anyone how they should define their sexuality? It hasn’t happened once.

and then you say..

Meanwhile there are people all over this thread telling large numbers of lesbians they are not lesbians.

That's it right there ^^ That's you doing what you're accusing us of. Don't you get it?

eh? You are telling lesbians they are not lesbians. I’m questioning the validity of telling a lesbian she is not a lesbian.

timenowplease · 14/10/2024 09:23

PiggleToes · 14/10/2024 09:22

eh? You are telling lesbians they are not lesbians. I’m questioning the validity of telling a lesbian she is not a lesbian.

I'm a lesbian telling you that heterosexual men can't be lesbians.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:24

Haven’t seen any evidence supporting claims of transphobia at the LGB conference.

The position being advanced (badly) here is that the very existence of LGB Alliance existing is unacceptable "transphobia" because trans people are ok to complain when things don't work for them, but not anyone else.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/10/2024 09:24

Are you a lesbian @PiggleToes ?

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