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To think that gay and lesbian people should be able to have a conference in peace

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nothingcomestonothing · 11/10/2024 19:10

Transactivists have tried to disrupt the LGBA conference by releasing insects into the venue. It's disgusting . Because they don't think gay men and lesbians should be allowed to meet peacefully without them.

No one is stopping transpeople from having events by themselves, why shouldn't gay men and lesbians be able to meet if that's what they want to do? It's just repackaged homophobia - same sex attracted people aren't allowed to have their own conference.

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PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 22:04

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 22:02

Wikipedia provides a pretty good summary as far as I have read
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender-critical_feminism

No, it provides an extremely biased "summary".

It’s obviously written from the perspective of someone who does not share gender critical views, but what specifically do you disagree with in terms of the summary of gender critical ideas?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 22:05

Are same sex attracted people who refuse to date all members of the opposite sex including those trans members of the opposite sex "transphobic" @PiggleToes

It's a simple question.

WasThatACorner · 13/10/2024 22:05

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 22:02

I don’t know why you are still struggling to understand this.

Everyone has the right to bodily autonomy. No ifs , no buts. This is a fundamental principle that is without exception.

However , who people chose to include or exclude within their dating pool absolutely can be influenced by all types of prejudice- transphobia being a very common and powerful one.

This does not mean that people should be coerced into dating anyone they are not attracted to.

Both things can and do exist at the same time- sexual boundaries can be (and often are) influenced by prejudice (amongst other things); it is never ok to violate someone’s sexual boundaries, through pressure, coercion or violence.

I don't know what you're struggling to understand.

Sexual attraction is something ephemeral that most people can't 100% explain for themselves.

It isn't transphobic to not feel that attraction.

The pressure on young lesbians to 'rid themselves of prejudice' is disgusting.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 22:07

"Gender-critical feminists equate "women" with what they consider to be a "female sex class", and view historical and contemporary oppression of women as being rooted in their being female, while "gender" is a system of social norms which functions to oppress women on the basis of their sex.["

This is the entire basis of feminism. Not just some fringe "transphobic" idea.

Boiledbeetle · 13/10/2024 22:08

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 20:57

These kids are being used as useful stooges by 2 prominent and violent trans activists...one of whom frequents this site regularly ....
I believe one of the kids mums was also waiting outside for their child !!!

Yes, one of which allegedly (boasted about it) was this guy

https://www.thepublica.com/uk-attempted-murderer-and-kidnapper-who-cut-off-own-testicles-in-prison-incites-violence-against-women-critical-of-gender-ideology-during-trans-pride-rally/

Baker was originally jailed as a young man for kidnapping and torturing the brother of his step-mother. When he was 21, he was then convicted of attempted murder after he broke into the cell of another prisoner and tried to kill them via strangulation. He served over 30 years behind bars in total and is often referred to as the UK’s longest serving transgender inmate.

In December of 2017 while still incarcerated, Baker cut off his own testicles.

Also, after the attempted murder of the other prisoner Sarah Jane was moved to another prison where Sarah Jane raped Sarah Jane's male cellmate. Then, prior to cutting off Sarah Jane's own balls (which we only have Sarah Jane's word that that actually happened), Sarah Jane escaped from prison (HMP Leyhill) and whilst on the run for 3 and a half months Sarah Jane did that most womanly of things that women do and fathered a child.

Sarah Jane Baker is a danger to everyone, regardless of the sex they are or the gender they identify as! I would not want Sarah Jane within a mile of anyone, woman, man, or child!

The parents of those kids if they knowingly let their child even stand next to Baker in a bus queue need their bloody heads examined!

nothingcomestonothing · 13/10/2024 22:08

So what I have learnt, catching up on the thread, is that you cannot have a conversation unless words have meanings everyone involved understands.

You can't have a discussion if people are using different definitions of words like lesbian, phobia, or for that matter, vegetarian. Words have an agreed meaning.

Same sex attraction is defined and protected in law, and it's existence doesn't threaten anyone else's existence.

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Talkinpeace · 13/10/2024 22:08

So, @PiggleToes
thinks its transphobic
if heterosexuals exclude the same sex from their dating pool
and its transphobic
if homosexuals and lesbians exclude the opposite sex from their dating pool
so
everything is transphobic
cool

MaryEllenWaldron · 13/10/2024 22:09

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 21:43

Imagine if life were that simple, and the earth was flat, and we’d all feel safe, living on a pancake in a snow globe 🙃🫠

The Earth is round and there are two sexes - Science.

The Earth is flat and there are multiple genders which may not correspond with the body they inhabit. - Ideology with no basis in science.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 22:10

It's never more obvious how many misogynistic men moderate Wikipedia. There's a ridiculous spat on the talk page as to whether "settling out of court" is a win for the claimant or a "draw". The claimant brings the case and they receive a payment or an apology. That's obviously a win.

WasThatACorner · 13/10/2024 22:13

nothingcomestonothing · 13/10/2024 22:08

So what I have learnt, catching up on the thread, is that you cannot have a conversation unless words have meanings everyone involved understands.

You can't have a discussion if people are using different definitions of words like lesbian, phobia, or for that matter, vegetarian. Words have an agreed meaning.

Same sex attraction is defined and protected in law, and it's existence doesn't threaten anyone else's existence.

Apparently same sex attraction does threaten other people's existence though.

And gay people are homophobic if they say that someone who has a penis isn't a lesbian.

And Wikipedia is a solid source to cite.

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 22:16

DrBlackbird · 13/10/2024 22:03

I find this an odd choice supporting your position. How on earth does ‘what happened’ to Carole Hooven support a sweeping, unsupported, generalisation that those in academia from the science disciplines reject gender critical feminism?

Never mind that many scientists are very likely ignorant of such debates but nonetheless hold the view that sex is binary and immutable.

Do you study at Aston by any chance?

Anyhow, we’ve gone off topic. Apparently some posters were at the LGB conference and sat in on all the sessions so can confidently post here that the only topic under discussion was how awful trans people are… I’m adopting a more sceptical view until some evidence of this alleged transphobia is provided.

why do you think she is an odd example? I mentioned her as she is an evolutionary biologist who was teaching a popular course about hormones at Harvard, until she went on Fox News and started talking about how gender ideology was infiltrating science and her view that binary biological sex as an unassailable truth was under attack . Sounds pretty gender critical to me? she was forced to resign from her position at Harvard and now works for a right of centre think tank .

Never mind that many scientists are very likely ignorant of such debates but nonetheless hold the view that sex is binary and immutable

yes, absolutely there are scientists who do not work in any related area who may latently hold this view as it is a socially dominant one. But amongst academics/ scientists who work on related issues across disciplines - the vast majority do not give gender critical ideas any sort of credence . Nor does the vast majority of academic literature produced , reviewed and published on related subjects .

Do you study at Aston by any chance?

No, why?

Totallymessed · 13/10/2024 22:18

It's becoming more and more obvious how utterly homophobic many in the "transgender community" are. Just a couple of days ago, a homophobic hate crime was committed by people who are currently being applauded by their fellow community members on Reddit. And the total homophobia of telling lesbians it's offensive for them to not be attracted to men.

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 22:21

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 22:07

"Gender-critical feminists equate "women" with what they consider to be a "female sex class", and view historical and contemporary oppression of women as being rooted in their being female, while "gender" is a system of social norms which functions to oppress women on the basis of their sex.["

This is the entire basis of feminism. Not just some fringe "transphobic" idea.

No, the language of “female sex class” is decidedly specific to gender critical feminism.
In terms of definitions of gender and sex, how how these concepts function to oppress women, ideas are extremely diverse across different strands of feminism.

Dymaxion · 13/10/2024 22:21

And Wikipedia is a solid source to cite.

Just checking because I am currently dipping my toe back in the pool of academia, that would be sarcasm ? If it isn't you have just made my reference search a whole lot easier Grin

Totallymessed · 13/10/2024 22:24

Wikipedia is absolutely not a solid source to cite for anything, it can be edited by anyone. I'm surprised anyone would seriously suggest that.

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 22:24

WasThatACorner · 13/10/2024 22:05

I don't know what you're struggling to understand.

Sexual attraction is something ephemeral that most people can't 100% explain for themselves.

It isn't transphobic to not feel that attraction.

The pressure on young lesbians to 'rid themselves of prejudice' is disgusting.

Sexual attraction is something ephemeral that most people can't 100% explain for themselves.
It isn't transphobic to not feel that attraction.

So is it your claim that a person’s sexual attraction can never be influenced by prejudice? Racism, ableism , homophobia, misogyny, for example? Or is it just transphobia that can never influence someone’s attraction? Why?

nothingcomestonothing · 13/10/2024 22:29

yes, absolutely there are scientists who do not work in any related area who may latently hold this view as it is a socially dominant one. But amongst academics/ scientists who work on related issues across disciplines - the vast majority do not give gender critical ideas any sort of credence . Nor does the vast majority of academic literature produced , reviewed and published on related subjects .

You're not actually saying that scientists don't think that humans come in two sexes which can't be changed?

Because that's not a belief. Belief is something immeasurable, like belief in god. Humans coming in two sexes isn't a belief, it's a measurable fact.

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MaryEllenWaldron · 13/10/2024 22:29

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 20:55

My opinion is that this is not a complete or universal definition of “lesbian” since there are lesbians who are attracted to trans women .

They're not lesbians then. Who do you think you are, changing the meaning of words?
Lesbians are not sexually attracted to people with penises.

People with penises cannot be lesbians.

Leave our language alone.

Totallymessed · 13/10/2024 22:29

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 22:16

why do you think she is an odd example? I mentioned her as she is an evolutionary biologist who was teaching a popular course about hormones at Harvard, until she went on Fox News and started talking about how gender ideology was infiltrating science and her view that binary biological sex as an unassailable truth was under attack . Sounds pretty gender critical to me? she was forced to resign from her position at Harvard and now works for a right of centre think tank .

Never mind that many scientists are very likely ignorant of such debates but nonetheless hold the view that sex is binary and immutable

yes, absolutely there are scientists who do not work in any related area who may latently hold this view as it is a socially dominant one. But amongst academics/ scientists who work on related issues across disciplines - the vast majority do not give gender critical ideas any sort of credence . Nor does the vast majority of academic literature produced , reviewed and published on related subjects .

Do you study at Aston by any chance?

No, why?

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I'm not familiar with Carole Hooven, but I'll assume you know what you're talking about, are you seriously saying you support an academic being forced out of her job because she doesn't agree with your belief system? That's actually terrifying, if you're really an academic. It's like we're regressing to the middle ages.

MaryEllenWaldron · 13/10/2024 22:32

WasThatACorner · 13/10/2024 21:47

We don't have to imagine, life is that simple.

Imagining is for men who want to imagine that they are lesbians with a penis and other lesbians are totally cool and hot for that.

I think you've just described piggletoes.

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 22:33

Totallymessed · 13/10/2024 22:29

I'm not familiar with Carole Hooven, but I'll assume you know what you're talking about, are you seriously saying you support an academic being forced out of her job because she doesn't agree with your belief system? That's actually terrifying, if you're really an academic. It's like we're regressing to the middle ages.

No I never said I supported her being forced to resign. I simply said it was a fact that she was. This and other similar examples are indicative of how unpopular and discredited gender critical ideas are within academic/ scientific communities, despite their popularity and influence on social media sites like mumsnet.

MaryEllenWaldron · 13/10/2024 22:33

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 20:50

So, men who are men but who are desperately and sometimes violently trying to force people to accept that they are women must always have their way, in your view.

An example of the completely transphobic premises that people bring forward to this debate.

An example of you matey.

ColdinSeptember · 13/10/2024 22:34

Men who don’t want to date trans women are not transphobic.
They are heterosexual. That is a man who is attracted to woman, based on their sex, not their gender.
The vast majority base their sexuality around sex. Only a small number of people base it around gender, but want to change it for everyone.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/10/2024 22:35

Wikipedia is absolutely not a solid source to cite for anything, it can be edited by anyone. I'm surprised anyone would seriously suggest that.

It would make me doubt the person's academic credentials, if I didn't know what an absolutely laughable shitshow "queer" academia and male inclusive "feminist" academia is. So no, I can believe it.

PiggleToes · 13/10/2024 22:35

MaryEllenWaldron · 13/10/2024 22:29

They're not lesbians then. Who do you think you are, changing the meaning of words?
Lesbians are not sexually attracted to people with penises.

People with penises cannot be lesbians.

Leave our language alone.

So to be clear, you are telling lesbian women that they are not in fact lesbians?

And this is not homophobic?

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