Things DP said to me while on holiday

[noodlewoo]

Commented on what I was wearing to the airport. He said “you could have made more of an effort. “look at all these girls wearing trendy clothes. You need to start wearing clothes like that” I mean we literally had just got to the airport to go on holiday. Not a great start

Then when we got there he continued to point out what other women were wearing. “I like those gym leggings and sets” Don’t you wish you could wear stuff like that”

Continued to remind me that when we get home I need to get back on my diet. Maybe this is where I’m being sensitive because he said “for your sake not mine”

Then he asked if he thought people would put us together. Wasn’t sure what he meant so I asked him. He said well do you think people would think either of us were punching.

I sometimes have trouble with my back where it “goes” We were on a boat trip and when it was time to get off and stand up I said ouch and told him my back had a little twinge. He said “don’t start”

Then on the morning we were due to go home I came on my period and said I was “angin” for people who don’t know what that means it basically means disgusting

I’ve come home feeling a bit shitty and unloved but I’m not sure if I’m being over sensitive. Seems like he possibly doesn’t find me attractive which if that’s the case then fair enough but how would this make others feel?

He's a dickhead! Dump his sorry arse. He'll continue to make you feel like rubbish and you don't deserve that.

Why are you still with this twat OP ?

Oh my god. Love, no. This isn’t being sensitive this is being verbally abusive.

Please, please, please just get yourself sorted out and ditch him now.

Poor you. What a disgusting pig.

Sorry OP but he's undermining you on purpose.

Hi op,

That is really not on. You clearly are hurt and he should have seen it. Comparisons are unnecessary and mean. Maybe tell him to shut his mouth or find his heart 🤷🏼‍♀️ ??

Physical comments are, especially in a relationship, to be positive. If you want to make a joke and the other one is not laughing…then you are just making fun of someone. I don’t even think he was trying to be funny though tbh.

I am beautiful. Repeat after me. I am beautiful. And repeat again. Next time he says something you tell him that: « I am beautiful. » then go and leave him puzzled or annoyed or both.

From all of us 💪🏼 🌺

I'd dump him/her.

oohhhhh no.

no.

It's not easy but you need to be without him. His negativity will be super damaging for you. Is right now.

He was very mean and I'm afraid he doesn't sound like he is there with you.

I really hope you can just remove yourself from the firing line and find a sweet lovely guy who loves and supports you just how you are

Make an appointment with Citizens Advice and find out what benefits you can get and how to live on them.

Once that is fitted speak with the Council and explain the situation and get him off the rent book.

Then, kick him arse to the kerb. No woman deserves to be in an abusive relationship.

Time to move on from this creep. It won't be any easier to do it in six months' time; in fact it will be harder because you'll have had six months more of his abuse. Get rid now for your own wellbeing.

What a nasty piece of work.
You might want to talk to women's aid, or a local charity specialising in supporting abused women.
He's clearly already undermined your confidence, you need help to see this obnoxious thing out of your life.

HE needs "punching".

You need rid.

I read your post and hastily scrolled back to the title and was very relieved to see DP and not DH, which hopefully means you can kick his ass to the curb. The fact you ask if you're being oversensitive shows how much this has already diminished your confidence. If you want to try and solve it, next time he says something like that give him both barrels, tell him to shut his face or pack his bags. Stand up for yourself. 💐

What a massive bellend. You can lose some weight by immediately by dumping him.

What a tiny non functioning nob!
I would start recording these exchanges incase you need them annd to get more opinions if you want them and start the process of separation.
I know that’s easier said than done given your DCs but do you want them seeing someone who should support you treating you like that. I’d use them as drivers to kick him out as this models what they will come to think they deserve too.

My money’s on him panicking when he realises you have other options and that you don’t actually need him or his shitty coercive behaviour.
you and yours deserve better 😘
(also I’d buy him a set of those crap outfits and suggest he wedge himself while he finds somewhere else to live.)

What a horrible man. Maybe he has nicer moments, but surely this outweighs them?

You are not being over sensitive. He is totally out of order.

Or he could just be a rude, misogynistic twat.

@noodlewoo He sounds like a horrible narcissist bully. This is psychological abuse, please dump him. I promise you will meet someone better.

This is not how someone who loves you behaves. He does not but is too weak to end it himself. Be strong and walk away.

Sounds like he's already left you in his head and is imagining there will be a queue of girls lined up ready and waiting for his clearly quite luscious body. 🙄
I'd tell him to get to the gym and get his stamina up because he'll need it once he's in such demand with the laydeez. 😂

He's 'angin' not you !, tell him to leave and go chase after a gym leggings new model, and see how far he gets, bless you 🥰🥰🥰

He said well do you think people would think either of us were punching.

I’d tell him.

Z”Yes, they’d defo think you are punching. They wouldn’t put you in my league as I’m much cleverer, better looking and have more personality than you.”

Oh my goodness you are absolutely NOT too sensitive!!!!! He (for whatever reason) is pulling you down. To say having your period is disgusting is also misogynistic, for goodness sake! Do you really want to spend any more minutes of your precious time with this person? Is this what you would want for a female friend or family member of yours? You will only realise once you are out of this how much better you feel

Your so called "D"P is a massive twat and you can do better. Much better.