He called a wasp a moron at dinner

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Ok, this isn't a serious thread exactly just a weird moment

So I was having dinner with my partner, a very nice outdoor meal. Very romantic and looking into each other's eyes etc.

Then a wasp came along and dropped into his wine. He responded by saying 'get out of there you moron' which caused the couple next to us of stop talking and stare at him then me. He then gave the wasp a small pep talk after rescuing it.

I felt embarrassed as I felt it was a really OTT response! I wanted to say was it really necessary to verbally abuse that wasp but seemed an odd thing to say...it just felt like a very angry response

Oh no, is the wasp getting the help it needs at this difficult time?

Let’s not start a discussion on the wasps possible gender please, it’s a rabbit hole!

I'm sure someone will have said this already, but this wins my vote for thread title of 2024.

Is the wasp now in therapy for alcoholism?

This was a test of your sense of humour and also of your unconventionality. OP, you have failed miserably!!! The chap has a great sense of humour and does not care about "what people around him will think". It looks like you definitely did not see the funny side, and also you were oh, so worried about the reaction of people around you. Also, he cares about animals' lives, no matter how he addresses them (did you think the wasp was offended?). My advice: develop a sense of humour and a sense of self, instead of following a convention. I do hope you manage to stay with him. Myself: I would have loved to have a guy like that (in fact my husband is a bit like that and we have been together for 35 years..)

@PIKNIK20 What is absolutely hilarious about this whole thread is that I am a professional comedian and my partner is just about the most serious guy you'd ever meet.

I feel so misunderstood by this one interaction but I can see why! He doesn't think he's funny in the least but isnt giving himself enough credit clearly! I get the message 🙂

This ‘very serious man’ is comedy gold OP, keep him and have him serve you as inspiration for your gigs, you’ll become the next Ricky Gervais. Don’t tell him though, he might get seriously offended and call you a moron 🐝

A lawsuit will "bee" coming forth. Said wasp is in counselling for PTWS (post-traumatic wine syndrome)

He rescued the wasp and gave it a talking to, presumably explaining that the next wine drinker might not be so kind. Your partner sounds fine to me. But, then again, I talk to animals and insects that I enounter and to inanimate household objects so I might not be the best judge.

I was on a packed Nottingham tram a few weeks go, travelling from the Theatre Royal towards Bulwell when a wasp settled on a window next to a young girl and her mum. They both freaked out but looking down on the floor I spotted a discarded plastic cup, used it to trap the wasp whilst another passenger produced the required strip of paper.
At the next stop I told the wasp not to bother anyone again, got off the tram, released it and got back on, much to the amusement of the girl 😊

OMG the poor wasp to be so brutally verbally abused and disrespected in front of all those people. To all all you wasp haters out there, White Anglo Saxon Protestants have feelings too, you know! they are marginalised by society and pilloried for their paleness and religious ambiguity... Damn, makes me so mad.

I am beginning to know how it felt. There are threads on mumsnet that are definitely aimed at making me feel a 'worm and no man'.

I sympathise OP. I had an ex that called a spider a twat. LTB now before he calls an earwig a buffoon.

Did he say it loud enough for folks to think he was saying that to you? Good for you. He would be my X too!

I think you should ditch him without delay. One of you's going to better off.

To be honest OP, I think it's you and the couple sat next to you who are a bit weird and OTT. I've heard wasps called everything from "little shits" to "bastards", but "moron" is a new one on me and I think it's bloody hilarious! And the pep talk too - brilliant! Good for him! 😂

Not sure why that would have attracted such attention from your neighbouring diners. Did they perhaps think he was referring to you?!

He sounds hilarious 😂 Gutted I wasn’t there!

My words of choice are Fucker or Mother Fucker.
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verbally abuse the wasp 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I haven't read the whole thread and it's probably been said before but, moron in welsh means carrot. Perhaps thw wasp reminded him of a carrot 🥕😂

Hehe, moron wasp.

Sorry, it sounds like you're more concerned with what others think than being wrapped up in being with your partner, it's not a great sign over a small thing like that. Are you annoyed with him about something (is he always insensitive, or has he done something you haven't got over), or are you always sensitive about total strangers reactions, do you dread being judged? You sound a bit fragile right now, only you can know why that is.

Maybe you can have PetaUK investigate?

It sounds to me like he was just trying to be funny. If you were embarrassed why didn’t you just tell him in a conversation after dinner “look, I was quite embarrassed by what happened with the wasp at dinner. I know you were probably trying to be funny but it embarrassed me.” Why do people not talk then wonder why there are relationship issues/misunderstandings?

Instead of you thinking he’s weird/bizarre/embarrassing, he might think, oh she’s so uptight.

Who cares what the people next to you thought? You were there with your partner, and if you enjoy his company then great, and if not, at least tell him, and if this kind of thing happens regularly maybe you’re just not compatible. He could find someone who would have found that funny and maybe even joined in and had a laugh about it.

This is deffo my kind of humour! I would have creased up laughing! He sounds fun!