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Survey at work using the term cis woman

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SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:16

So I filled all the survey, very happy at work, public secror.
Note that this survey is outsourced by another survey organisation.

Then I come to the last bit please describe your role in the organisation, did that, and then how would you describe your sex or gender?

( Can’t remember exactly how the question was phrased )but the only option for women was “cis woman.”

Quite cross about this and I’m not sure how to best articulate this to my managers who, to be fair never use this term and will not have had any input to designing the survey. Any input welcome.

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lifeturnsonadime · 06/10/2024 14:27

The impacts on women’s sport are another issue entirely, and on that topic, I wholeheartedly believe that only women born as women should compete with each other. That’s just common sense in my opinion.

Well then you are 'transphobe' too. The activists will not settle for anything less than us accepting males who claim a gender identity in every space which should be reserved for women only.

That's exactly what they want.

Hunnymonster1 · 06/10/2024 14:27

rwalker · 06/10/2024 14:26

Happy to be educated but if
cis women means women
cis man means man

what is the need or purpose of the term cis

It's to distinguish from trans that's all in day to day you wouldn't vocalise ut but written down uts to separate because a trans women may tick she's a woman that's all

NeedToChangeName · 06/10/2024 14:27

MikeRafone · 06/10/2024 14:18

So sick of people making a fuss when there is no fuss to be made about things like this

if there is no fuss to be made - why did someone make a fuss to get cis woman only on a survey, where woman would have sufficed

Very good point!

nosleepforme · 06/10/2024 14:27

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:23

If you're not trans then you're cis. I honestly don't even know what you think it means?!

No, not everyone agrees on that. I would be insulted to be called a cis woman. I’m not. I’m a woman. I don’t want to be called cis and I don’t think I should be forced to identify myself this way! I’m not forcing anyone else to identify a specific way, why shouldn’t we all have that right equally?

lunar1 · 06/10/2024 14:28

Everyone must be allowed to identify however they choose, and the public must support their choice. With the exception of women who have a forced prefix that we don't want.

supercalie · 06/10/2024 14:28

Franjipanl8r · 06/10/2024 14:22

It’s only an afront to women if there’s no “cis man” option.

Incredibly naive.

How many trans men are men arguments have you heard about?

How many men complaining about trans men in men's changing rooms?

How many complaints about trans men in men's sports?

How many men raped in prison by trans men?

Are you completely blind to the asymmetry of men saying they're women vs women saying they're men?

WestwardHo1 · 06/10/2024 14:29

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:23

If you're not trans then you're cis. I honestly don't even know what you think it means?!

The word "woman" has always been sufficient, thank you.

Bumblebeestiltskin · 06/10/2024 14:29

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OchonAgusOchonOh · 06/10/2024 14:29

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:27

That’s an interesting point about the black-and-white thing. I don’t think anyone’s minded putting white have they? Thank you that’s made me think a bit

Nobody would mind putting white if there were sufficient options to describe yourself accurately. Assuming you are white, if the only options you were given are Black and Asian then you would not be able to choose one. Or if your options for religion were catholic, jew, muslim and you are a protestant or an atheist, again you would not have an option to describe yourself.

I would have no problem with ciswoman being listed as an option if there are an initial question asking if you have a gender identity and then if so, are you.....

Hunnymonster1 · 06/10/2024 14:29

NeedToChangeName · 06/10/2024 14:27

Very good point!

I think women should suffice but then trans women may tick that and maybe they are wanting to separate the answers

ClarasSisters · 06/10/2024 14:30

I'd click 'other' and type WOMAN in the box/just leave it as is if there's no box. If they get plenty of replies like that hopefully they'll redesign the form next time.

SassK · 06/10/2024 14:30

If it's an employee satisfaction survey I'd use the opportunity to say I found the dismissal of women employees as mere identities both demoralising and patronising. Cis is an entirely unnecessary prefix, which is why we don't see it used in literature, reporting etc.

Hunnymonster1 · 06/10/2024 14:30

lunar1 · 06/10/2024 14:28

Everyone must be allowed to identify however they choose, and the public must support their choice. With the exception of women who have a forced prefix that we don't want.

Some women lots of us women are ok with the word cis

AnotherCfspers · 06/10/2024 14:31

Waitingforthecold · 06/10/2024 14:05

Because being a women defines your gender, if you don’t believe in gender (as a PP has said) then you only identify with your sex - a biological trait (male or female)

I think the word woman has been around since the dawn of verbal humans, long before anyone had a concept of gender! There's still probably a lot of the world's population who wouldn't recognise what a gender identity is....but how great it is that now we have so many people telling us what to think!

Waitingforthecold · 06/10/2024 14:31

Errors · 06/10/2024 14:22

The irony in you telling everyone to be be kind 😂😂😂

Well our kindness can only really go one way in this instance can’t it?

my last post on here and I genuinely find these arguments so depressing - if you’re a person who still identifies with the sex you were born as, you’re coming from a place of privilege. You can use that privilege to be a tolerant, gentle, kind and supportive person or you can use it to bitch and moan about things that have no real bearing on your existence.

if trans people are the most protected members of society like some of you have suggested, why are literal children being murdered? It’s quite frankly insane to suggest that.

violence against females is overwhelmingly a cisgendered problem. You’ll find sensationalised stories if you seek them out. Fact of the matter is, everyone just wants to live in a way that makes them happy and comfortable and free from hate. Clearly you can’t please everyone, especially those who choose to be offended but something so trivial, so yes unfortunately choices have to be made about who to stand up for and protect.

Bumblebeestiltskin · 06/10/2024 14:31

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:28

I suppose it all boils down to identity and what we feel like describing ourselves as.

Identity is a powerful thing hence I wouldn’t mind ever there being a transgender “box” but also the same respect needs to go the other way I suppose.

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So you're also the type of person who asks where straight pride is, and 'all lives matter'? Grim.

lifeturnsonadime · 06/10/2024 14:31

lunar1 · 06/10/2024 14:28

Everyone must be allowed to identify however they choose, and the public must support their choice. With the exception of women who have a forced prefix that we don't want.

Yes absolutely this.

It's entirely about putting women in our place.

We must be and do as men say.

We must not object to men who say they are women invading our spaces and sports.

It is the most sexist and regressive ideology.

Only a man could put on a dress, claim he is a woman and 'the most oppressed' then call a woman who disagrees a bigot!

HaddyAbrams · 06/10/2024 14:32

louise9422 · 06/10/2024 14:00

Everyone knows what ‘cis’ means. It means ‘born as’ - just tick that and get on with your day. So sick of people making a fuss when there is no fuss to be made about things like this. Be thankful that you were born the sex that you identify with.
So much unnecessary hate and nonsense around all this. Worry about actual issues going on in the world.

and yes, I am a woman, ‘cis’ woman, female, girl, senorita, Mrs, Ms, Miss, whatever - who cares?

If cis means "born as" (which it doesn't btw) then does that mean that transwomen are actually cis men?

OchonAgusOchonOh · 06/10/2024 14:32

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:33

I disagree that there should be only male only female, obviously if you’re transgender this is relevant.

I agree that is may be useful to know if people are trans (depends on the purpose of the study) but it is also extremely useful to know people's sex.

Soshiny · 06/10/2024 14:32

The only issue with ‘other’ is it looks like there’s a lot of people with different gender identities - and may make things worse long term

ilovesooty · 06/10/2024 14:32

MikeRafone · 06/10/2024 14:12

Does it say Cis male?

The OP says it does.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/10/2024 14:33

rwalker · 06/10/2024 14:26

Happy to be educated but if
cis women means women
cis man means man

what is the need or purpose of the term cis

There isn’t one. Cis means on the same side as, and trans means on the opposite side of. If you identify as trans and want to use the term fine. But if you are a natal woman who identifies as a natal woman, no prefix needed.

Screamingabdabz · 06/10/2024 14:33

Hunnymonster1 · 06/10/2024 14:30

Some women lots of us women are ok with the word cis

Well done you for supporting a misogynistic ideology… I bet you go full on with pronouns too don’t you?
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Hunnymonster1 · 06/10/2024 14:33

HaddyAbrams · 06/10/2024 14:32

If cis means "born as" (which it doesn't btw) then does that mean that transwomen are actually cis men?

Yes it does mean that and no because they now identity as trans women

Turnups · 06/10/2024 14:34

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:26

It's like complaining about being asked to identify your race and foaming at the mouth because "just because she's a black woman doesn't mean I'm a white woman". It's ludicrous.

No, it’s not like that, because "black" and "white" are equal sub-categories of women. To agree to be called "cis" means you agree that the term "woman" can be sub-divided into equally valid sub-categories: cis and trans. And I, and many others, don’t agree with that.

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