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Survey at work using the term cis woman

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SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:16

So I filled all the survey, very happy at work, public secror.
Note that this survey is outsourced by another survey organisation.

Then I come to the last bit please describe your role in the organisation, did that, and then how would you describe your sex or gender?

( Can’t remember exactly how the question was phrased )but the only option for women was “cis woman.”

Quite cross about this and I’m not sure how to best articulate this to my managers who, to be fair never use this term and will not have had any input to designing the survey. Any input welcome.

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unsync · 06/10/2024 13:28

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:23

I’m not cis

I’m a woman.

This. What was the option for the men? Were they also described as cis? If not, I'd be raising that as an issue too.

lifeturnsonadime · 06/10/2024 13:29

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:23

If you're not trans then you're cis. I honestly don't even know what you think it means?!

This is rubbish.

To be 'cis' you have to agree with gender ideology.

Most women know that gender is absolutely rubbish and is harmful to women as a sex class and won't be described as such.

You can't force language or an identity we don't believe in on us against our will.

WomanWithoutNeedOfPrefix · 06/10/2024 13:30

@KeyboardMash I disagree.

Only giving the options cis and trans means that they are assuming everyone believes in the concept of gender identity. I don't. This is not inclusive, and is not ok for the public sector which must not impose beliefs on its staff.

The term cis-woman also implies that women are happy to accept the sexist and regressive stereotypes placed on them due to their sex. Again, I am very much not ok with this. I am a woman without need of prefix.

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:30

No, there was a cis man thing

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Nanny0gg · 06/10/2024 13:31

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:23

If you're not trans then you're cis. I honestly don't even know what you think it means?!

No.

She is a woman.

Not a subset.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 06/10/2024 13:32

Thfrog · 06/10/2024 13:20

Can you choose other or prefer not to say? If you don't identify with the options given that seems the best response

I'd do this too. I'd rather make their data collection rather pointless (it's actually not helpful for me to say "rather not say") than participate in gender identity bollxks. Sex M or F is all that's required

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:33

I disagree that there should be only male only female, obviously if you’re transgender this is relevant.

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SocksAndTheCity · 06/10/2024 13:35

Nanny0gg · 06/10/2024 13:31

No.

She is a woman.

Not a subset.

Exactly. There are not categories of women.

Tearsandsmiles · 06/10/2024 13:35

I am a women .

I am also a ‘disabled women’ and happy to refer to myself as such when relevant to the situation.

I don’t expect women without disabilities to constantly describe themselves as ‘an able bodied women’ or ‘non-disabled women’ it’s just not necessary.

Hence this is why I myself do not use the term ‘cis-women’ It is not necessary.

‘Women’ covers it fully and accurately when asking my gender.

I have never identified as being ‘cis’ - that is a label inflicted on me by others and I refuse to use it as it is not needed.

Tautumnal · 06/10/2024 13:35

I wouldn't complete it and would feed back that you don't have a 'gender identity' as you don't subscribe that that belief system but that you are happy to provide the information based on sex.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 06/10/2024 13:36

I suppose it all boils down to identity and what we feel like describing ourselves as.

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And nail is hit on head ... it's about what one feels like. Which can't be quantified, measured or in anyway verified. And you can change it daily if you like to one of the gazillion different genders you have to choose from.

And to compare it to race and the hundreds of years of real and actual, often violent oppression suffered by people of colour - and still being felt today - is actually offensive. So yes there may be bigger hills and all that but every hill starts with a teeny tiny, barely perceptible incline.

DerekFaker · 06/10/2024 13:36

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:26

It's like complaining about being asked to identify your race and foaming at the mouth because "just because she's a black woman doesn't mean I'm a white woman". It's ludicrous.

No it is not. People mostly agree that race exists. Not everyone has a gender identity.

Radiolala · 06/10/2024 13:37

I wouldn’t complete it. It doesn’t have an option for me as a woman.

DietrichandDiMaggio · 06/10/2024 13:37

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:26

It's like complaining about being asked to identify your race and foaming at the mouth because "just because she's a black woman doesn't mean I'm a white woman". It's ludicrous.

That analogy doesn't make sense at all.

Females do not need to add anything to the word woman, because that is the correct word for an adult human female.

BobbyBiscuits · 06/10/2024 13:38

If it's got an 'other' box to write stuff then I'd put 'I'm female. I do not agree with the term 'cis' and find it offensive.'
I guess you could also contact the survey company, and also voice your views directly to them. Though the decision on phrasing it that way may have been with your employer.

Pollenandbloom · 06/10/2024 13:42

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:26

It's like complaining about being asked to identify your race and foaming at the mouth because "just because she's a black woman doesn't mean I'm a white woman". It's ludicrous.

No it's not - a direct comparison would be if someone was asking you to select 'black woman' or 'non-black white woman'. 'Woman' is fine as it is, it doesn't need a qualifier.

AmeliaEarache · 06/10/2024 13:43

@KeyboardMash Tommyrot.

To be Cis means your gender identity corresponds to your natal sex.

The OP and I - and many others replying in this thread - do not have a gender identity, so we cannot be cis women.

We are women: female adult humans.

TeenToTwenties · 06/10/2024 13:45

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:26

It's like complaining about being asked to identify your race and foaming at the mouth because "just because she's a black woman doesn't mean I'm a white woman". It's ludicrous.

I think it is more like being asked your religion and being offered Christian, Muslim, Hindu, Judaism, Sikh and not being offered athiest or agnostic.

Many people think genderism is a belief system. You shouldn't be asked about a belief system without being given the option to say you don't believe in it.

BeachRide · 06/10/2024 13:47

Scutterbug · 06/10/2024 13:25

There really are bigger hills to die on.

There really aren't.

SoupDragon · 06/10/2024 13:49

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:26

It's like complaining about being asked to identify your race and foaming at the mouth because "just because she's a black woman doesn't mean I'm a white woman". It's ludicrous.

It's not the same at all and it is ludicrous to try and suggest that it is.

"Woman" covers it perfectly. No need for this CIS bollocks.

The options are man, trans man, woman and trans woman*. Quite straightforward.

*I'm ignoring the neutral/non binary/whatever other options there are in this instance

YouveGotNoBloodyIdea · 06/10/2024 13:50

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:23

If you're not trans then you're cis. I honestly don't even know what you think it means?!

If you'e not a Catholic then you must be a Protestant?

No - I do not buy into your bonkers, unscientific belief system so do not use your preferred terms HTH.

nietzscheanvibe · 06/10/2024 13:52

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:26

It's like complaining about being asked to identify your race and foaming at the mouth because "just because she's a black woman doesn't mean I'm a white woman". It's ludicrous.

It's not the same at all. And the term 'cis' is ludicrous, 'woman' (or 'man') should be sufficient. The term 'woman' (and 'man') has a specific meaning which should require no further explanation by qualifiers such as 'cis'.

Tootsurly · 06/10/2024 13:54

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:23

If you're not trans then you're cis. I honestly don't even know what you think it means?!

Transwomen Are Women, but actual women are "cis women", ergo only transwomen can be women.

Bit ridiculous, is it not?

ilovesooty · 06/10/2024 13:56

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:30

No, there was a cis man thing

So how have the men reacted?

Waitingforthecold · 06/10/2024 13:56

For the purpose of the survey you’re filling out, you’re a cisgendered woman. It’s semantics. The fact you’re getting remotely wound up about it suggests you do in fact have an issue with trans people and how them becoming more visible in society is changing the language we use.

do it feel upsetting to have the identity you relate to most denied? 😉

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