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Survey at work using the term cis woman

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SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:16

So I filled all the survey, very happy at work, public secror.
Note that this survey is outsourced by another survey organisation.

Then I come to the last bit please describe your role in the organisation, did that, and then how would you describe your sex or gender?

( Can’t remember exactly how the question was phrased )but the only option for women was “cis woman.”

Quite cross about this and I’m not sure how to best articulate this to my managers who, to be fair never use this term and will not have had any input to designing the survey. Any input welcome.

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Rosscameasdoody · 06/10/2024 20:06

CorruptedCauldron · 06/10/2024 18:16

I do not identify as a woman. I am one because that’s how I was born - with female biology. I have no inner feelings of gender or femininity, I just have my female-sexed body and my personality and interests. There are infinite ways to be a woman; the only thing all women have in common is that we are adult human females. I am not cis because I have no gender identity, I see it as an unprovable belief system akin to a religion.

Some people have gender dysphoria and may decide to transition. That is their right, but people who transition can only imagine what it feels like to have been born with opposite-sex biology. People with gender dysphoria deserve sympathy and compassion but the erasure of the female sex class in service of a contested belief system is something I cannot and will not tolerate.

Spot on.

Elsvieta · 06/10/2024 20:06

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:18

No issue with transgender women have worked with them before, but the fact they’re transgender does not make me a cis woman

Cis means "not trans". That's all it means. So regardless of whether you've ever worked with (or met, for that matter) transgender "women", you are.

Puddingcakes · 06/10/2024 20:07

You are a cis woman. It really isn’t worth getting worked up over.

Thfrog · 06/10/2024 20:08

Rosscameasdoody · 06/10/2024 19:53

Google it.

I did it's a film?

SpudleyLass · 06/10/2024 20:08

Puddingcakes · 06/10/2024 20:07

You are a cis woman. It really isn’t worth getting worked up over.

And trans''women'' are men. Not worth getting worked up over.

MellersSmellers · 06/10/2024 20:08

Regardless of how you chose to answer it, I would feedback to your managers or whoever organised the survey that you objected to that term otherwise how will they know?

EasternStandard · 06/10/2024 20:08

Puddingcakes · 06/10/2024 20:07

You are a cis woman. It really isn’t worth getting worked up over.

I don’t think you get a say on what the op feels

And she’s not unless you buy into gender ideology

Thfrog · 06/10/2024 20:08

Puddingcakes · 06/10/2024 20:07

You are a cis woman. It really isn’t worth getting worked up over.

You can't tell someone else how they identify

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 20:09

SpudleyLass · 06/10/2024 19:49

Not what I said, but thanks for playing

You said you hate the word inclusion, and not just on this topic, so I was just asking where else you hate the word inclusion? As in what other topics?

SpudleyLass · 06/10/2024 20:09

Elsvieta · 06/10/2024 20:06

Cis means "not trans". That's all it means. So regardless of whether you've ever worked with (or met, for that matter) transgender "women", you are.

''Man'' just means to be an adult male. Thats all it means. Its not a judgement, its a statement of observable fact.

There are only two types of gametes. Which one you produce, ultimately determines your sex.

And man and woman have always been terms relating to sex, not ''gender''.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/10/2024 20:09

Elsvieta · 06/10/2024 20:06

Cis means "not trans". That's all it means. So regardless of whether you've ever worked with (or met, for that matter) transgender "women", you are.

Cis does not mean ‘not trans’. How many fucking times does the term have to be explained ? It’s a Latin prefix meaning on the same side. Trans means on the opposite side. If someone born a man wants to identify as a woman then they use the word ‘Trans’ - the opposite gender from that of their birth. Someone born as a woman who identifies as a woman doesn’t need a prefix for that. They are a woman. Man, woman, male, female are all terms to describe sex, not gender.

FrippEnos · 06/10/2024 20:10

Elsvieta and Puddingcakes

Except that under trans ideology rules you are wrong to incorrectly gender somebody as that's literal violence.

LittleCharlotte · 06/10/2024 20:11

JHound · 06/10/2024 19:58

If you don’t like the terms just say “prefer not to say” but it seems silly to me. “Cis” just means “not trans”.

in most circumstances it’s not necessary but it seems here the organisation wants to count the numbers of women who identify with the sex they were born and the ones who don’t.

This is akin to a survey on women of different ethnicities and somebody not wanting to select “black woman” and instead just wanting to select “woman”. Ok - but that does not help with the survey.

It's not because a survey on women of different ethnicities wouldn't say "black woman" - it would say black, white, mixed-race, Indian, Chinese, etc. because the survey is already about women.

Everyone has an ethnicity, but not everyone has a gender identity.

TheAntiGardener · 06/10/2024 20:11

The irony of being ‘educated’ by people who think cis is the Latin for ‘born as’ / simply means you’re not trans, and that the word ‘woman’ relates to gender only.

People whose posts make clear haven’t or won’t actually think this thing through.

With respect to the word woman, you do realise that there are transwomen who insist they are female? Whatever word you try to reserve to describe the female sex will be targeted as the aim here is to deny any meaningful distinction between transwomen and women. This has a number of ramifications that some of us care about.

Namechangeforadhd · 06/10/2024 20:11

Being GC is not upholding the patriarchy by 'painting females as vulnerable' in the sense of being somehow pathetic, needy of males or anything with some kind of negative connotation.
The 'vulnerability' comes from the sexual differences between males and females, which have nothing to do with gender. As a sex class, women are weaker, smaller and slower than men; we also cannot rape - often used as a weapon of war - because we don't have penises; many women also go through pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, which makes us physically more vulnerable during those times. It is also clear than men are far more violent and far more criminal than women, and that is irrespective of 'gender'.
It is of no relevance whatsoever that many men are good and kind, or that some/many women are tough as old boots; the issue is that at population level, we are vulnerable to male violence.
That is a fact, like sex.
This is not to put women down. Being bigger, stronger, faster and more violent than us does not make men better than us. Some may say rather the opposite. But it does mean that if we want an 'equal' society, women do have to have sex-based rights.

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 20:12

Thfrog · 06/10/2024 20:08

You can't tell someone else how they identify

If your sexed body matches up with your gender, and you don't feel any mismatch, then you're cis.
Whether you like the term or not.
It's like someone saying "I'm not straight, I'm just normal! I don't need another word!"

DadJoke · 06/10/2024 20:12

It means not transgender. If you are not transgender, then you are cisgender.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/10/2024 20:12

No, I'm not cisgender. I don't identify that way.

SpudleyLass · 06/10/2024 20:12

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 20:09

You said you hate the word inclusion, and not just on this topic, so I was just asking where else you hate the word inclusion? As in what other topics?

No, you insinuated that I hated including people. That is not what I said.

The term ''inclusion'' is no longer necessarily the positive force it once was.

Including men in spaces that were designed for women to take a breather from men, is not inclusion because it harms women and girls. Sexual attacks on women and girls increased in mixed sex spaces. I'm happy to throw a couple links on that here if you'd like.

But to answer your other question, SEN. Or ''Inclusivity in mainstream'' - for many SEN children, they simply cannot cope in mainstream provision, like my daughter cannot.

So trying to spin it as a positive without putting in the support needed to make it work for children like my daughter, means its virtue signalling at best - ignoring SEN support needs in order to save money at worst.

Forcing gender neutral spaces does nothing for women and girls and actually puts them in danger. But we hear the word ''inclusion'' and supposed to think ''ah well then, it must be alright''.

CoffeeGood · 06/10/2024 20:13

Puddingcakes · 06/10/2024 20:07

You are a cis woman. It really isn’t worth getting worked up over.

I am NOT a cis woman. I am a woman. You do NOT get to decide what I am. And it absolutely IS worth getting worked up over. I'm apparently not allowed to argue that a transwoman is a man and should only be able to identify as such. That goes both ways.

EasternStandard · 06/10/2024 20:13

DadJoke · 06/10/2024 20:12

It means not transgender. If you are not transgender, then you are cisgender.

Only if you subscribe to gender ideology

Not everyone does

Women can reject it as they wish

FrippEnos · 06/10/2024 20:14

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 20:12

If your sexed body matches up with your gender, and you don't feel any mismatch, then you're cis.
Whether you like the term or not.
It's like someone saying "I'm not straight, I'm just normal! I don't need another word!"

Edited

Again by your own rules you are not allowed to mis-gender or force a gender identity on a person as that is literal violence and offensive.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/10/2024 20:14

I think it's clear that some people view calling women "cis" as a power trip.

Thfrog · 06/10/2024 20:14

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 20:12

If your sexed body matches up with your gender, and you don't feel any mismatch, then you're cis.
Whether you like the term or not.
It's like someone saying "I'm not straight, I'm just normal! I don't need another word!"

Edited

According to Google it only became a word in 1994

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 20:14

Tbh I don’t care about Latin

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