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Survey at work using the term cis woman

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SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:16

So I filled all the survey, very happy at work, public secror.
Note that this survey is outsourced by another survey organisation.

Then I come to the last bit please describe your role in the organisation, did that, and then how would you describe your sex or gender?

( Can’t remember exactly how the question was phrased )but the only option for women was “cis woman.”

Quite cross about this and I’m not sure how to best articulate this to my managers who, to be fair never use this term and will not have had any input to designing the survey. Any input welcome.

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supercalie · 06/10/2024 19:18

Savingthehedgehogs · 06/10/2024 17:37

I genuinely can’t understand why a trans box is an issue. It’s surely about time there was clarity around terms. Trans is an empowering term and conveys and respects a change of identity as it is supposed to. It also means they are adequately represented in stats results accurately.

Trans box isn't what the OP is bothered about. It's the cis box.

If there were two boxes
"Christian" and
"Infidel"
I think we'd see people understanding rather quickly why the infidel box is completely unacceptable and only a result of pandering.

soupfiend · 06/10/2024 19:19

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 06/10/2024 19:06

What I loathe are these knee jerk generalisations, assumptions about and hatred for people who are just people living their lives and dealing with their own challenges — and honestly not trying to get in the way of anyone else.

That's marvelous. As long as they stay out of women's toilets, sports, prisons, rape crises centres, swimming sessions, and anything else segregrated by sex, we'll have no problem then.

Dont forget male crimes being categorised as women's crimes sexual assaults and violence etc.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/10/2024 19:19

I couldn’t give a toss about what ‘activists’ say.

That makes two of us then. I don't really give a toss that some male people think they're women (live and let live but I don't believe they are) in any other sense than where it affects my own rights to safety, privacy and dignity and to advocate for the rights of female people.

supercalie · 06/10/2024 19:23

@NewFriendlyLadybird
Have we found a definition of sec and gender yet?
What are the definitions

A response I would give a C- for a year 8 essay was given earlier, by which I mean someone quoted the first thing they got off Google - and then laughably actually admitted and defended that decision as if it made what they said true.

Do you have a coherent definition of the two terms sex and gender?

Rosscameasdoody · 06/10/2024 19:24

Hunnymonster1 · 06/10/2024 18:07

Yes they hate it but they are not being honest . Whenever I have encountered racists hey nevr admit it it's like those that write on here . They know they don't want trans people to exist yet can't say it can they chicken shit

I don’t give a flying fuck whether trans women exist or not. Just as long as they don’t try to take away my long and hard fought for rights as a natal woman they can do what they like.

supercalie · 06/10/2024 19:24

Sorry for a year 8 answer. Obviously for an essay it would be a fail.

nietzscheanvibe · 06/10/2024 19:26

PiggleToes · 06/10/2024 16:08

It literally just means a woman who isn’t a trans woman. If you had no issue with trans women it wouldn’t offend you.

It’s just a word that recognises that some women are trans and some are not. It’s simply descriptive and inclusive.

It doesn’t hurt or affect you in any way.

Edited

Why should women have to define themselves as 'not trans'? There are women, and there are transwomen, no 'cis' is required!

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 19:27

Rosscameasdoody · 06/10/2024 19:18

So basically they can wave their male genitalia round in womens’ changing rooms and we just have to accept that because they’re a ‘woman’. Righty ho.

Edited

In all my many years, I've never seen anyone waving their genitals around in changing rooms.

NewFriendlyLadybird · 06/10/2024 19:28

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 06/10/2024 19:06

What I loathe are these knee jerk generalisations, assumptions about and hatred for people who are just people living their lives and dealing with their own challenges — and honestly not trying to get in the way of anyone else.

That's marvelous. As long as they stay out of women's toilets, sports, prisons, rape crises centres, swimming sessions, and anything else segregrated by sex, we'll have no problem then.

Ah, ‘they’.

Am I right in thinking that your anti trans stance only really applies to trans women? You’d happily accept a trans man in a female only space — except you probably wouldn’t because you’d think he was a man, invading women’s spaces.

I grant that there are men who have seemingly pretended to be trans women in order to sexually assault women. But those aren’t trans women, those are men. And there’s a very small number of them. And I totally agree that trans women shouldn’t compete in sports where their residual muscular strength will give them an unfair advantage. But again there are only a tiny number of cases. In fact, I can only think of one.

Even if an actual trans woman has personally harmed you, that is still no reason to stereotype a whole group.

Waitwhat23 · 06/10/2024 19:28

SpudleyLass · 06/10/2024 19:03

They are not knee jerk reactions, though.

Women have lost jobs and livelihoods over this farce.

Women and girls have been raped and sexually assaulted in spaces that were supposed to be women only spaces.

Mridhul Wadwha or whatever his name is, was eventually quietly let go from the job at Edinburgh Rape Crisis centre that lawfully, should have gone to an actual woman. He doesn't even have a GRC.

If you want to reference hatred, let's not forget all that has been said about JK Rowling, Maya Forstater etc.

Women's feelings and lives matter, too. When we want single sex spaces, it's not a question of luxury but simple necessity so we can simply participate safely in society.

Is that really too much to ask?

We're all dealing with our own challenges - so why am I asked to redefine myself and accept myself not as a woman but "merely" female, simply because I disagree with sexist stereotypes?

Mridul Wadhwa resigned rather than being let go.

Sandy Brindley, CEO of SRC, remains in post despite the shocking failures indicated in an independent review, following an excoriating Employment Tribunal - https://www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk/resources/ERCC-Review-Report-FINAL1-.pdf

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 19:28

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 19:27

In all my many years, I've never seen anyone waving their genitals around in changing rooms.

Really? I once saw a woman blow drying her fanny in a gym changing rooms.

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TofuTart · 06/10/2024 19:28

nietzscheanvibe · 06/10/2024 19:26

Why should women have to define themselves as 'not trans'? There are women, and there are transwomen, no 'cis' is required!

When was the last time you referred to yourself as anything but a woman in RL?
I called myself a woman the other day..As I am
I'm not erased, nobody expired, I can still call myself a woman.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 06/10/2024 19:29

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 19:27

In all my many years, I've never seen anyone waving their genitals around in changing rooms.

Presumably because you are a woman and women don't have genitalia that can be waved around?

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 19:30

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 19:28

Really? I once saw a woman blow drying her fanny in a gym changing rooms.

😂
Thanks for that mental image lol 😭🤣
Haven't seen anything like that, no.
Would definitely be like WTF if I did

Rosscameasdoody · 06/10/2024 19:32

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 19:27

In all my many years, I've never seen anyone waving their genitals around in changing rooms.

Twice. Once on my own, once with a young niece. First time around a man dressed in a skirt and top brought several changes of clothes into the open changing room. Stripped off, no underwear. Took their time changing, by which time myself and a few other women had flung our clothes back on and fled. Second time, similar. In a dress - clearly an intact man when they undressed to try things on. Niece was horrified and was shaking by the time we got back to the car. You think this acceptable. I don’t give a shit if it doesn’t happen often. Once is too often.

Waitwhat23 · 06/10/2024 19:33

NewFriendlyLadybird · 06/10/2024 19:28

Ah, ‘they’.

Am I right in thinking that your anti trans stance only really applies to trans women? You’d happily accept a trans man in a female only space — except you probably wouldn’t because you’d think he was a man, invading women’s spaces.

I grant that there are men who have seemingly pretended to be trans women in order to sexually assault women. But those aren’t trans women, those are men. And there’s a very small number of them. And I totally agree that trans women shouldn’t compete in sports where their residual muscular strength will give them an unfair advantage. But again there are only a tiny number of cases. In fact, I can only think of one.

Even if an actual trans woman has personally harmed you, that is still no reason to stereotype a whole group.

https://www.nationalreview.com/news/transgender-sex-offenders-placed-in-womens-jails-in-scotland/

<a class="break-all" href="https://archive.ph/2022.10.04-232359/www.thetimes.co.uk/article/half-of-scottish-trans-prisoners-changed-gender-after-convictions-pftqbbhg6" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://archive.ph/2022.10.04-232359/www.thetimes.co.uk/article/half-of-scottish-trans-prisoners-changed-gender-after-convictions-pftqbbhg6

www.scottishdailyexpress.co.uk/news/scottish-news/anger-trans-inmates-revert-males-25840252 (this is also in The Times but I don't have a share token).

Survey at work using the term cis woman
NewFriendlyLadybird · 06/10/2024 19:34

supercalie · 06/10/2024 19:23

@NewFriendlyLadybird
Have we found a definition of sec and gender yet?
What are the definitions

A response I would give a C- for a year 8 essay was given earlier, by which I mean someone quoted the first thing they got off Google - and then laughably actually admitted and defended that decision as if it made what they said true.

Do you have a coherent definition of the two terms sex and gender?

Sex is biological; gender is constructed, including social, cultural, and behavioural characteristics.

TwistedWonder · 06/10/2024 19:34

Of course it’s only a tiny number of violent men who claim to be trans women who assault women - oh wait!!

So what’s the number that’s ok before we accept that it’s not just the odd couple of outliers?

Survey at work using the term cis woman
supercalie · 06/10/2024 19:35

A newborn baby doesn't feel like a boy or a girl. And if it did you can't ask it and get answer to find out.

So do we have newborns that are girls or boys?

Any at all?
None?

Only those who assert at birth how they feel?

Rosscameasdoody · 06/10/2024 19:36

NewFriendlyLadybird · 06/10/2024 19:28

Ah, ‘they’.

Am I right in thinking that your anti trans stance only really applies to trans women? You’d happily accept a trans man in a female only space — except you probably wouldn’t because you’d think he was a man, invading women’s spaces.

I grant that there are men who have seemingly pretended to be trans women in order to sexually assault women. But those aren’t trans women, those are men. And there’s a very small number of them. And I totally agree that trans women shouldn’t compete in sports where their residual muscular strength will give them an unfair advantage. But again there are only a tiny number of cases. In fact, I can only think of one.

Even if an actual trans woman has personally harmed you, that is still no reason to stereotype a whole group.

It’s not stereotyping. It’s one more example of how men harm women. This time by hiding in plain sight.

TwistedWonder · 06/10/2024 19:36

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 19:27

In all my many years, I've never seen anyone waving their genitals around in changing rooms.

Though I presume you’re familiar with the nurses currently going to court over this very issue?

SpudleyLass · 06/10/2024 19:37

NewFriendlyLadybird · 06/10/2024 19:28

Ah, ‘they’.

Am I right in thinking that your anti trans stance only really applies to trans women? You’d happily accept a trans man in a female only space — except you probably wouldn’t because you’d think he was a man, invading women’s spaces.

I grant that there are men who have seemingly pretended to be trans women in order to sexually assault women. But those aren’t trans women, those are men. And there’s a very small number of them. And I totally agree that trans women shouldn’t compete in sports where their residual muscular strength will give them an unfair advantage. But again there are only a tiny number of cases. In fact, I can only think of one.

Even if an actual trans woman has personally harmed you, that is still no reason to stereotype a whole group.

Pretended to be transwomen?

SO how do we tell those who are pretending from those who are genuine?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/10/2024 19:37

I grant that there are men who have seemingly pretended to be trans women in order to sexually assault women.

Are you really not aware how many actual "trans women" have sexually assaulted women? It's not just other men pretending.

TwistedWonder · 06/10/2024 19:38

Rosscameasdoody · 06/10/2024 19:36

It’s not stereotyping. It’s one more example of how men harm women. This time by hiding in plain sight.

And the issue is once male bodies start invading female single sex space how do we tell the ‘good’ guys apart from the ones with an anterior motive? So surely the best safe guarding is that we continue to segregate by sex

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/10/2024 19:38

Males pose a risk to women. Not "cis men" or whatever obfuscatory jargon.

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