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Survey at work using the term cis woman

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SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:16

So I filled all the survey, very happy at work, public secror.
Note that this survey is outsourced by another survey organisation.

Then I come to the last bit please describe your role in the organisation, did that, and then how would you describe your sex or gender?

( Can’t remember exactly how the question was phrased )but the only option for women was “cis woman.”

Quite cross about this and I’m not sure how to best articulate this to my managers who, to be fair never use this term and will not have had any input to designing the survey. Any input welcome.

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TofuTart · 06/10/2024 16:35

People who are trans exist though - so surely it makes sense to have a word that clarifies if you're talking about a trans man or a trans woman or one who isn't trans?!

sarsaparillatree · 06/10/2024 16:35

NewFriendlyLadybird · 06/10/2024 16:28

So all you people who are being so rude about trans women — what do you feel about trans men?

You see, I think you imagine that trans women bring with them all the privilege they enjoyed as men — except that, as they were supremely uncomfortable in their bodies I doubt that they really did enjoy that privilege very much. And they don’t bring any privilege with them. Indeed, as so many of these threads demonstrate, they get rejected by women too. I don’t think I would go through that unless I was very, very sure I was born into the wrong body.

Unless it's changed recently they still enjoy the trappings of privilege

https://www.spectator.co.uk/article/should-a-trans-woman-inherit-a-peerage-over-their-older-sister/

Should a trans woman inherit a peerage over their older sister?

It’s House of Lords reform, Jim, but not as we know it. Matilda Simon has applied to contest the next by-election for hereditary peers, in the hope of taking her hereditary seat as Baron Simon of Wythenshawe. Matilda, Lord Simon? Here, in one story, is...

https://www.spectator.co.uk/article/should-a-trans-woman-inherit-a-peerage-over-their-older-sister

Manxexile · 06/10/2024 16:36

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:26

It's like complaining about being asked to identify your race and foaming at the mouth because "just because she's a black woman doesn't mean I'm a white woman". It's ludicrous.

Do you believe "race" is a thing then?

I thought it wasn't...

Theeyeballsinthesky · 06/10/2024 16:37

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 16:35

People who are trans exist though - so surely it makes sense to have a word that clarifies if you're talking about a trans man or a trans woman or one who isn't trans?!

Then they can use the term trans woman - woman is perfectly fine for actual biological women. It doesn’t need a qualification

IAmAWarriorPrincessHonestGuv · 06/10/2024 16:37

DogsAkimbo · 06/10/2024 16:28

Well they refer to themselves as ‘trans’ so that’s the (linguistic) clue.

You make a good point about accurate data collection though. It certainly became a big issue when we started to include men within women’s data sets.

Edited

True. In Australia they are running a national survey about women’s pain - from conditions that only affect women. Unfortunately they will have their data skewed because they have invited men to participate as if they were women. It’s particularly sad to see this as women’s health is so under-researched anyway.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 06/10/2024 16:38

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 16:35

People who are trans exist though - so surely it makes sense to have a word that clarifies if you're talking about a trans man or a trans woman or one who isn't trans?!

We have transwoman, woman, transman, man. No need for cis anything.

Catiette · 06/10/2024 16:38

Come on! Someone, please, tell me why Afghan women (and women internationally) no longer need a word. Please?

There are so many posts above about the horrors of discrimination, the importance of inclusion, the need for respect for self-determination - yet a resolute refusal to even mention this group.

Please at least try to explain, people! It's starting to look as though you can't, or, worse, as if this group doesn't matter to you...

Here's another attempt from me to engage with this...

My solution is that, in a majority of contexts, the word "woman" needs to be retained as a necessary descriptor for the 51% or the population oppressed due to their biology. My reason is that it seems dangerously short-sighted and complacent to support the forcible removal of this word's meaning (used for millennia) from people who want to retain it, and to characterise this removal as a progressive or trivial change.

This group I'd like to keep a word for (women) only got the vote about 100 years ago in the UK. Still in the UK, women were, in a very real sense, seen as their husband's property when marital rape was entirely legal about 30 years ago. Women in Afghanistan are still, effectively, enslaved.

If women's need for a word was acknowledged and respected, I think I'd actually be OK with referring to transwomen as women in a wide range of contexts as a simple courtesy that costs me little.

As long as women's need for a word is denied, and framed as bigotted or trivial (the irony of both these accusations is, frankly, terrifying!) how can I possibly risk making such concessions?

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 16:38

NewFriendlyLadybird · 06/10/2024 16:28

So all you people who are being so rude about trans women — what do you feel about trans men?

You see, I think you imagine that trans women bring with them all the privilege they enjoyed as men — except that, as they were supremely uncomfortable in their bodies I doubt that they really did enjoy that privilege very much. And they don’t bring any privilege with them. Indeed, as so many of these threads demonstrate, they get rejected by women too. I don’t think I would go through that unless I was very, very sure I was born into the wrong body.

Yeah, exactly - all the prejudice, judging, abuse out there (in general, not just on here) -why on earth would you put yourself through all that and the risk of attack etc if you weren't really trans?!

Theeyeballsinthesky · 06/10/2024 16:38

NewFriendlyLadybird · 06/10/2024 16:28

So all you people who are being so rude about trans women — what do you feel about trans men?

You see, I think you imagine that trans women bring with them all the privilege they enjoyed as men — except that, as they were supremely uncomfortable in their bodies I doubt that they really did enjoy that privilege very much. And they don’t bring any privilege with them. Indeed, as so many of these threads demonstrate, they get rejected by women too. I don’t think I would go through that unless I was very, very sure I was born into the wrong body.

Not so uncomfortable that they don’t retain their penis 🤷🏻‍♀️

PiggleToes · 06/10/2024 16:38

ChishiyaBat · 06/10/2024 16:35

How do you know transwomen aren't clicking the cis woman option? I've seen plenty of transwomen argue that they are "biological" or "actual" women, blind self check surveys are bollocks really because you don't know who is lying about who or what they are.

Well of course you can never control how people answer surveys, but I’ve never met a trans person who identifies as cis because cis is simply a descriptive word that means not trans.
Trans women do however identify as women, so how would you like data collectors to design the survey to distinguish between you and them?

Savingthehedgehogs · 06/10/2024 16:39

There is no such thing as cis. It’s meaningless.

I would cross it all out and put woman in block capitals and then make a formal complaint regarding your situation- it’s discrimination.

What options were given to biological natural males?

PiggleToes · 06/10/2024 16:39

Theeyeballsinthesky · 06/10/2024 16:38

Not so uncomfortable that they don’t retain their penis 🤷🏻‍♀️

Transphobic comment.

DogsAkimbo · 06/10/2024 16:39

Scutterbug · 06/10/2024 13:25

There really are bigger hills to die on.

You’re right that women have many ‘options’ of hills to die on. Best that we can organise and identify ourselves by language in order to protect ourselves accordingly.

Savingthehedgehogs · 06/10/2024 16:40

Is there such a term as cis men?

republicofjam · 06/10/2024 16:40

Hunnymonster1 · 06/10/2024 14:30

Some women lots of us women are ok with the word cis

Are those women in the room with us now?

PiggleToes · 06/10/2024 16:40

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 16:35

People who are trans exist though - so surely it makes sense to have a word that clarifies if you're talking about a trans man or a trans woman or one who isn't trans?!

Exactly!
Thats all it is 💁🏼‍♀️

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/10/2024 16:40

It’s just sometimes useful to collect more detailed demographic data, so you can understand the experiences of different groups (same reason we have ethnic subcategories , as well as umbrella terms etc) Most people on this thread are the first to point out that women (not trans) and trans women have some different life experiences!!

Women are female, "trans women" are male. So have male and female (and clarify that this relates to their born sex, not legal fiction GRC), then a separate, clearly worded question (unlike the census) asking people if they would like to declare a gender identity.

Or are you suggesting "trans people" can't be trusted to fill in a form with their actual sex?

Theeyeballsinthesky · 06/10/2024 16:40

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 16:38

Yeah, exactly - all the prejudice, judging, abuse out there (in general, not just on here) -why on earth would you put yourself through all that and the risk of attack etc if you weren't really trans?!

Put yourself through what exactly??

the only requirement is to say you identify as a woman. No surgery, no hormones, don’t even have to wear stereotypical ‘female’ clothes

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 16:40

Savingthehedgehogs · 06/10/2024 16:40

Is there such a term as cis men?

Yes.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 06/10/2024 16:40

NewFriendlyLadybird · 06/10/2024 16:28

So all you people who are being so rude about trans women — what do you feel about trans men?

You see, I think you imagine that trans women bring with them all the privilege they enjoyed as men — except that, as they were supremely uncomfortable in their bodies I doubt that they really did enjoy that privilege very much. And they don’t bring any privilege with them. Indeed, as so many of these threads demonstrate, they get rejected by women too. I don’t think I would go through that unless I was very, very sure I was born into the wrong body.

You've heard of detransitioners surely?

Even Mermaids have stopped using the utter nonsense that is "born in the wrong body". There's no such thing.

TeaMistress · 06/10/2024 16:40

PiggleToes · 06/10/2024 16:26

That’s fine- you are a woman. Only if we just use “woman” we won’t know which women are trans and which women are not, so it will limit the collection of demographic data in important ways 🤷🏼‍♀️

"Trans" women are men. Not women.

Namechangeforadhd · 06/10/2024 16:40

There are two sexes, female and male. They are binary and immutable, irrespective of presentation, size of penis, hysterectomy, breast size or anything else.
'Woman' includes all adult human females.
'Woman' does not include 'transwoman' , because a 'transwoman' is male. Irrespective of presentation etc (see above).
Females are not 'labelling' males. They are simply stating that males are indeed males.
Some males however appear intent on 'labelling' females with 'cis' (and don't get me started on that whole 'but it's Latin' thing, which always shows a total ignorance of its actual Latin usage). This seems to be an attempt to show that females are a subset of males. So there are male males, male females (TW) and cis females.
This is scientifically, linguistically and logically nonsensical.
I wouldn't fill in the survey at all. Fewer responses will be of more concern to whoever wants the info than the depressing alternative of 'Other'. We're not other. We're women.

ChishiyaBat · 06/10/2024 16:41

PiggleToes · 06/10/2024 16:38

Well of course you can never control how people answer surveys, but I’ve never met a trans person who identifies as cis because cis is simply a descriptive word that means not trans.
Trans women do however identify as women, so how would you like data collectors to design the survey to distinguish between you and them?

They can use transwoman, that is what the trans is for, I am simply a woman no prefix needed.

PiggleToes · 06/10/2024 16:41

Savingthehedgehogs · 06/10/2024 16:40

Is there such a term as cis men?

YES Of course there is!!!!! It’s to distinguish between trans men and men who are not trans.

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 16:41

republicofjam · 06/10/2024 16:40

Are those women in the room with us now?

Yes.

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