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Survey at work using the term cis woman

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SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:16

So I filled all the survey, very happy at work, public secror.
Note that this survey is outsourced by another survey organisation.

Then I come to the last bit please describe your role in the organisation, did that, and then how would you describe your sex or gender?

( Can’t remember exactly how the question was phrased )but the only option for women was “cis woman.”

Quite cross about this and I’m not sure how to best articulate this to my managers who, to be fair never use this term and will not have had any input to designing the survey. Any input welcome.

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Yalta · 06/10/2024 15:17

LilasPrettyCafe · 06/10/2024 15:10

I dislike the pressure we get put under to complete these surveys at work. I refused to do it last year as it was so biased towards returning staff to working in the office ie select either “are you a team player who’s happy to return to working in an office full time?” Or “are you focused more on your personal needs by continuing to work from home”. It was bullshit and I wasn’t complying with that. This year they’ve added lots of questions about our parents jobs, education levels etc and I answered “prefer not to say” to every single personal question.

Why would they want to know that?

This interfering and prying has to stop. It is beginning to sound more and more like some ridiculous fiction novel set in some future world where no one a generation ago would believe this would ever become reality

soupfiend · 06/10/2024 15:17

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:23

If you're not trans then you're cis. I honestly don't even know what you think it means?!

Are you a stamp collector?

If not, do you have a prefix in front of your name or other part of your characteristics to highlight you are not a stamp collector?

No?

Why not?

Woman is woman, it means adult human female. There is no prefix needed to woman.

lifeturnsonadime · 06/10/2024 15:17

And given that a male person has been called a cis woman, then there is no word that describes a collection of people who used to be known as women.

I don't think that's acceptable.

Men are not women, they shouldn't have the right to steal our words and spaces and impose regressive stereotypical beliefs on women.

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 06/10/2024 15:18

IMO there are women and there are trans women. Both equal, both valid but not the same. We don't need a third category.

BagettesCheesey · 06/10/2024 15:18

louise9422 · 06/10/2024 14:00

Everyone knows what ‘cis’ means. It means ‘born as’ - just tick that and get on with your day. So sick of people making a fuss when there is no fuss to be made about things like this. Be thankful that you were born the sex that you identify with.
So much unnecessary hate and nonsense around all this. Worry about actual issues going on in the world.

and yes, I am a woman, ‘cis’ woman, female, girl, senorita, Mrs, Ms, Miss, whatever - who cares?

No, everyone doesn't know what a 'cis woman' is!

CarrotsAndCheese · 06/10/2024 15:19

saynotofondant · 06/10/2024 14:07

The criteria by which a male bodied person identifying as a woman understands themself to be a woman, and by which I understand myself to be a woman, are mutually exclusive.

I understand myself to be a woman because that is (was) the word for people with a female body.

A transwoman uses a different criteria - a gender identity, but I don’t know what that is as I don’t have one. I don’t have anything to “identify” with or against.

Do you see the problem? If one of us is a woman, the other cannot be.

It's not just a case of "cis means not trans", if I were to call myself cis it means implicitly accepting for myself a definition of womanhood that I simply do not meet.

If womanhood is redefined as a stated of mind, so it can include male bodied people, it excludes me.

Yes! This.

I don't fit the gender stereotype of a woman for various reasons, but I am still a woman - always have been, and always will be.

Gender identity theory seems to be based necessarily on gender stereotypes, which I don't buy into. What else could it possibly be based on if not gender stereotypes? It's not based on biology.

supercalie · 06/10/2024 15:20

@Namechangefordaughterevasion

Sex - either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and most other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive functions.

Over 99% of living things on Earth reproduce via asexual reproduction.

Ok so I'm not really confident in your answers.

lifeturnsonadime · 06/10/2024 15:20

Partylikeits1985 · 06/10/2024 15:17

If you're not trans, you are not trans. It doesn't make you anything else.

Exactly why are we suddenly being defined by whether or not we’re trans.

Because we are non men.

We are not as important as men who say they are trans.

That's why we should turn at blind eye to them stealing our words and spaces.

Non men must be compliant, non men who are not compliant are bigots.

Catiette · 06/10/2024 15:21

BagettesCheesey · 06/10/2024 15:18

No, everyone doesn't know what a 'cis woman' is!

louise9422 · Today 14:00
Everyone knows what ‘cis’ means. It means ‘born as’ - just tick that and get on with your day. So sick of people making a fuss when there is no fuss to be made about things like this. Be thankful that you were born the sex that you identify with.
So much unnecessary hate and nonsense around all this. Worry about actual issues going on in the world.
and yes, I am a woman, ‘cis’ woman, female, girl, senorita, Mrs, Ms, Miss, whatever - who cares?

Another post that leaves me concerned about a lack of consideration for other nationalities, ethnicities and cultures.

"Everyone" is a huge generalisation.

Are you including English speakers from across the world there? You seem to be, as you refer to "actual issues going on around the world". Issues like Afghanistan? I confess, I didn't know cis- was standard there.

Tooting33 · 06/10/2024 15:21

SuzanneRogers · 06/10/2024 13:33

I disagree that there should be only male only female, obviously if you’re transgender this is relevant.

Male and female are the only options for a sex category,

None, trans or cis or other random stuff like non-binary is fine for a gender identity category.

They should stop trying to categorise two different things with one question.

kolalumps · 06/10/2024 15:22

My young adult children applying for jobs … all employers are asking gender and orientation. The kids are outraged that who they “feel like” & who want sex with is important to employers..

TofuTart · 06/10/2024 15:22

being pushed by the rabid misogynist trans mob

You.make your stance and agenda quite clear right there.
People who are trans are just that, people.
Not lumped together as a "rabid mob'
Dehumanising, hyperbolic language isn't acceptable for other minorities, so why do you think it is here?

Namechangedforthisthreadhere · 06/10/2024 15:23

supercalie · 06/10/2024 15:20

@Namechangefordaughterevasion

Sex - either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and most other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive functions.

Over 99% of living things on Earth reproduce via asexual reproduction.

Ok so I'm not really confident in your answers.

They came from google

jeaux90 · 06/10/2024 15:24

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:23

If you're not trans then you're cis. I honestly don't even know what you think it means?!

Stupid

No one needs a word for people who don't collect stamps.

No one needs the word Cis.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 06/10/2024 15:25

Scutterbug · 06/10/2024 13:25

There really are bigger hills to die on.

Translation: I don’t care about this so you shouldn’t either.

Catiette · 06/10/2024 15:25

Hey @TofuTart. Posts that appear to use such language are easy pickings to argue against. Fancy giving mine a go?

What should we call that group in Afghanistan?

SinnerBoy · 06/10/2024 15:25

AmeliaEarache · Today 15:17

Like Cisalpine Gaul!

Yes, I'm reasonably certain that after Caesar had crossed the Alps, he wasn't met by a horde of Sequani, dressed in lovely frocks, chanting, Do you think we look like ladies?"

BagettesCheesey · 06/10/2024 15:27

kolalumps · 06/10/2024 15:22

My young adult children applying for jobs … all employers are asking gender and orientation. The kids are outraged that who they “feel like” & who want sex with is important to employers..

I feel this too, why do employers need to know??

user1471538283 · 06/10/2024 15:27

No this drives me mad. I refuse to have my identity changed to serve any agenda. I'm a woman.

If you identify as trans that's up to you but I am not and I have never been cis.

SanctusInDistress · 06/10/2024 15:29

Did they have cis man as an option too or just for women?

TheDeepLemonHelper · 06/10/2024 15:29

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KendraTheVampyrSlayer · 06/10/2024 15:30

KeyboardMash · 06/10/2024 13:23

If you're not trans then you're cis. I honestly don't even know what you think it means?!

I'm neither thanks. I thought putting a label on people that they don't identify with wasn't the "kind" thing to do?

cavalier · 06/10/2024 15:30

As women we are being trolled by a small section of society whose poison has seeped out and taken hold and id be bl**dy fuming if that was me
I was angry enough with my letter for a smear saying “for women and people with womb “
honestly … it’s disrespectful and disgraceful to biological born women. A scientific fact we are women

FrippEnos · 06/10/2024 15:30

Rosscameasdoody · 06/10/2024 14:33

There isn’t one. Cis means on the same side as, and trans means on the opposite side of. If you identify as trans and want to use the term fine. But if you are a natal woman who identifies as a natal woman, no prefix needed.

If you go by the stonewall definition "Cis" means not trans.

It the TRAs way of making trans the primary status of being.

supercalie · 06/10/2024 15:31

@namechange

They came from Google - aka you have no idea.

There is no difference.

Your googling has failed to educate you on basic scientific fact but don't let that stop you from answering questions on forums by typing the words into googling and copying and pasting the first answer you see.

This is why the whole debate is stupid. There's zero point arguing with people too lazy or stupid or to think about how ridiculously misogynist their casual anti-female stance is and then claim as a defence of their argument something they looked up for 2 seconds.

Gender means sex up until about the year 2000.

The new definition is nonsense and allowing for them to be different results in there being no clear definition of either.
However the original poster that I actually asked the question of has still failed to answer.

What a surprise.

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