My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

[Glasscabinet]

It’s DD first birthday soon and my mum has asked me to collect an outfit from hers ready for DD birthday.

My mum was laughing as she said that neither me or DH will like it/to our tastes but in her eyes it’s lovely.

What planet would I dress my DD, on her first birthday, in an outfit that caused a round of laughter over.

One hand I could be polite and pretend that DD got it dirty or I could straight out refuse to accept it.

What a waste of money and material. If anything I’m actually quite annoyed.

It's pretty. Not my taste - when my daughter was one I dressed her in dark colours, tartans, blue velvet, for example. But there is nothing wrong with the dress. Say thanks, mum, and dress DD in it. For goodness sake!

It is absolutely hideous. The skirt is OTT and impractical for a baby. As for the headband....urgh. The fact that she bought it knowing you wouldn't like it is worrying. I would put it straight in the clothes recycling bin and, if she asks, would tell her that she was right, I hated it.

Massive overreaction.
Dress DD in it, take a photo and take her out of it again. I've done this on more than one occasion for a bought or second hand given outfit.
Your DD wont care either way

I like the outfit and chose something similar on purpose for the DD for her first birthday but everyone has their own tastes

My MIL did this for our daughter - she wore it once to visit then it disappeared. The dress itself was OK but it had a huge scratchy fake lace collar that irritated my baby's face and kept blowing upwards everytime she moved!

Are you having some sort of party for her first birthday, and your mum has bought it for that? If so, I think it is a bit rude to deliberately buy something you think a one year old's parent will dislike for a birthday party. They're the only ones who will care, it's not like the child will care, so you've purely done it to irritate. It's not the same as an older child with their own preferences.

Personalised clothes are so wasteful, anything like that I assume will go straight to landfill - not likely it can be passed on, is it?

There’s already so much waste, why add to it with something so hideous?

Believe me it’s not worth getting worked up over a bloody dress. As others have said, put her in it for a photo or when your mum comes round and that’s that. When my kids were that age they changed as least 3 times a day, you can easily sabotage it.

Firstly she has a bloody cheek asking you to collect it

and yes

it is tacky !!!

Is your mother always so controlling ?

I agree, OP it is truly hideous. Really very much so.

But I’d do as suggested - put her in the dress, take photo, send to mum, take her out of dress / have nappy disaster whilst wearing it if needs be.

But is is both hideous and impractical.

Is it the dress (not my taste either) or your mother dictating the day that’s bothering you?

I’d be annoyed that she thinks she has the ‘right’ to decide what my child is going to wear on her first birthday also.

I agree, though, one photo, then change straight away. Looks so uncomfortable.

I like the dress.

She probably just wants you to put her in it for some cute baby photos. I think you're overreacting massively. If you don't want to put your daughter in it, just don't.

I personally wouldn't pick that dress out for a child to wear, but ultimately I probably wouldn't be bothered if someone else wanted them to wear it. She's only a baby - it's not really important.

It's not to my taste, but I wouldn't fall out with anyone over it

MN can be so odd about baby clothes

They don't all need to be practical and to your taste - just be polite, say thank you and take some photos. She'll have outgrown it in a couple of months, it's not like she'll be wearing it forever!

Jesus Christ that's hideous 😂 Put her in it, take pics and send to mum, then tell her sorry but the frills got covered in poo when your crawling baby had a tricky nappy change, so it's in the wash. Forever.

I can't believe people think it's cute 😳

@crumblingschools yes you can get "twee" outfits for boys too.
Usually a romper style shorts and a body suit with a printed bow tie and a matching peaky blinders flat cap.

What a bunch of miserable fuckers 😂. Bin the dress and bin your mother.

Kind of irrelevant if all these poster think it's cute - OP's mum knows she won't like it and bought it anyway, and gave it with a smirk by the sounds of the OP.

My MIL had a completely different wardrobe for my daughter for the days she spent with them. She also took her to the photographer to have her first birthday photos taken in a dress that she bought for her.
Did it bother us...no.
We appreciated PIL wanting to spend time with her and their time could be spent the way they wanted it. They loved her dearly and she loved them.
I can assure you that there will be quite a few other things to stress over and argue over whist raising children than a first birthday dress.

I think that is completely different then it will.be the child:s own choice. The grandmother is treating her like a doll to dress up.

Everything.

OP do you have a dog? Or know someone with a dog who likes to dress it up?

I actuallly think it’s adorable 😂
But it is confusing that your DM thinks you’d dress your own child in an outfit you don’t like in a special occasion.

The grandmother is treating her like a doll to dress up.

How is that any different to what parents do everyday?!

I don't mind the outfit but it's your mum's attitude that is the problem, assuming that she gets to choose your dd's outfit for her first birthday, and especially one she knows you won't like.
I wouldn't use it at all and think @sunsu 's comment sounds perfect.

This - not sure I understand why a) she bought a dress at all as , presumably as mum you’d already have some sort of outfit planned, and b) thinks that her buying an outfit means she gets to dictate how you dress her on the day?

I think it’s hideously pink and frou frou. A simple ‘lily is one’ tee shirt would have sufficed and could be worn for a few weeks after her birthday.

Also, as a jaded person with endless safeguarding training, have a huge issue with named clothing, as strangers can use your child’s name to build rapport… it makes for easier grooming/abductions. I’m afraid I’d refuse to let her wear it on those grounds alone.