My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

[Glasscabinet]

It’s DD first birthday soon and my mum has asked me to collect an outfit from hers ready for DD birthday.

My mum was laughing as she said that neither me or DH will like it/to our tastes but in her eyes it’s lovely.

What planet would I dress my DD, on her first birthday, in an outfit that caused a round of laughter over.

One hand I could be polite and pretend that DD got it dirty or I could straight out refuse to accept it.

What a waste of money and material. If anything I’m actually quite annoyed.

I don't hate it but I don't see why she thinks she's deciding what your daughter wears for her party. I'd put the outfit on her on a different day, but I always picked my children's outfits for big days until they were old enough to pick for themselves, and I wouldn't let someone else tell me they had to wear something that they picked that wasn't to my taste.

This! I am shocked how many people think you should allow your Mum to have her way. It isn’t funny - it is controlling and if you go along with it this will continue to happen as your daughter grows up when whatever your mum wants instead of you may be more important than a shocking frilly dress and headband.

It’s not my taste, but it’s not awful either.

The main point is she’s bought something she knows you won’t like, for DD to wear on a significant occasion. If it wasn’t for a special occasion, or even a non milestone birthday at a push, it wouldn’t be such a big deal, but this is so disrespectful IMO.

@Cariadm you’re right, it’s a matter of opinion. Your opinion is it’s a tacky dress, my opinion is it’s cute. OP doesn’t have to do anything she doesn’t want to. It wouldn’t hurt to take one picture of baby in the dress then never wear it again. Also she can just say no thanks

Yes, you do 🤣 or like it at least.
That outfit is absolutely HIDEOUS 🤣🤣

Feel your pain it is ghastly and oh so twe
BUT I’d take a photo of lily in it send to Gran
then off to charity shop it goes

it’s hideous but the thought is kind so don’t be mean say you love it and move on

If she's insisting on the same dress when it's "Lily is 15", you've got grounds for complaint...

Zombie thread, I think Lily has had her birthday, has probably also had to wear some awful Christmas outfit her dear granny bought. Water under the bridge. These things pass.

I can see why you hate it, I would too! And I think your mum has overstepped by buying your daughter a first birthday outfit, especially knowing it's one you won't like. You're her mum, you get the fun of buying birthday outfits etc.

I would dress her in it for a photo to send your mum then choose something you like for her to actually wear.