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My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

484 replies

Glasscabinet · 01/10/2024 10:35

It’s DD first birthday soon and my mum has asked me to collect an outfit from hers ready for DD birthday.

My mum was laughing as she said that neither me or DH will like it/to our tastes but in her eyes it’s lovely.

What planet would I dress my DD, on her first birthday, in an outfit that caused a round of laughter over.

One hand I could be polite and pretend that DD got it dirty or I could straight out refuse to accept it.

What a waste of money and material. If anything I’m actually quite annoyed.

My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.
OP posts:
Edingril · 01/10/2024 10:48

Personally I think it's awful, but isn't that the point of grandparents? I'm joking

I would just move on, no don't see it anything to get upset about

Appleblum · 01/10/2024 10:48

What's wrong with it? I think it looks very sweet!

Put her in it, take a few photos, then say she got some sick on it and change her out of it.

GreenWheat · 01/10/2024 10:49

It is indeed awful, but luckily babies grow fast. Wear for a few photos then take it off. It won't fit her next time you try it.

AmeliaEarache · 01/10/2024 10:49

She thinks it’s adorable and thinks her granddaughter will look a picture in it. She also knows you’ll hate it.

But she’s not buying it for you, she’s buying it because she thinks it would be gorgeous on the baby.

Put her in it, take photos, job done.

If this is the worst outfit a relative sends, you’re escaping lightly. I speak from experience.

Itsmyshadow · 01/10/2024 10:50

I think it depends on what the expectation is for the outfit. If your mum is expecting that to be what DD wears for the day / for her birthday party / for a cake smash photo shoot then she is being very unreasonable. It’s your DD and it’s your right to choose her outfit for those.

If your mum would just like to see he in the outfit at some point then just put it on and take some pictures, no harm done.

LaerealSilverhand · 01/10/2024 10:50

It's hideous but the real problem is that your mum takes positive joy in overstepping your boundaries. Just say no. Do NOT put DD in it and take photos just for the sake of a quiet life - it will only encourage her.

crumblingschools · 01/10/2024 10:51

Do you get such twee stuff for boys? The DD isn’t a doll

wp65 · 01/10/2024 10:52

crumblingschools · 01/10/2024 10:51

Do you get such twee stuff for boys? The DD isn’t a doll

Yes, this! It's hideous.

GabriellaMontez · 01/10/2024 10:52

I'm on the fence about the dress.

But of I'd bought her a party dress already, then I'd just say that. "Sorry, mum privileges, I get to choose, and I've got one"!

DaisyChain505 · 01/10/2024 10:53

I see nothing wrong with it.

put her in the outfit, take some photos and send them to her.

then change her into something of your choice.

hattie43 · 01/10/2024 10:53

I wouldn't buy something I know the parents would hate , why do that , it's not like baby is old enough to decide what to wear herself .

One photo then in bin. It's far too fussy and impractical for a baby so a photo is all it's good for .

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 01/10/2024 10:53

sunsu · 01/10/2024 10:44

I wouldn’t put my child in that either but the issue isn’t the dress itself, it’s your mum deliberately buying something she knows you and your partner wouldn’t like. It’s disrespectful to you as a mother. I wouldn’t put my child in it and if questioned, simply say ‘you knew I wouldn’t like it and you were right so we picked something else for her’. No need to pacify someone that doesn’t respect you, regardless of who it is.

I agree with this.

Just tell her you've already got an outfit for her birthday.

AutumnCrow · 01/10/2024 10:53

I wouldn't encourage your mother to keep buying things for your DD that you think are awful. She'll keep doing it. Your DD will end up looking like a Strictly Come Dancing professional doing the samba by the time she's on her feet.

Lululemonade11 · 01/10/2024 10:53

The outfit isn't terrible but lots of mums would carefully curate the entire color scheme of the whole birthday and woe betide anyone who interferes😄 #missespoint

Dartmoorcheffy · 01/10/2024 10:53

It's not too bad. Why would anyone laugh at her in it.

Berlinlover · 01/10/2024 10:54

Yes, it’s awful but just as PP said put it on her for a while and take a few photos. Whatever you do, do not include the headband, they are the most ugliest things in existence.

Maria1979 · 01/10/2024 10:55

I'm far from a fashion expert but I thought it was cute. Maybe it's a good thing I don't have any girls..

Bestyearever2024 · 01/10/2024 10:55

It's SO cute! I love it

Dress her in it to please your Mum

There will be great photos too 😍

WandaFishy99 · 01/10/2024 10:55

I don't like it at all, but is a dress really worth falling out with your mum over? Unless the dress is a handy excuse. Maybe you've been looking for a reason.

13Ghosts · 01/10/2024 10:56

What are you going to do when your daughter's taste in clothes is thr complete opposite of anything you like? Tell her everything she likes is hideous?

Put it on her, take a few pics for her DGM and forget about it. It's really not worth the stress.

Soonenough · 01/10/2024 10:56

Annoying but not the hill to die on. There will be others . !

crumblingschools · 01/10/2024 10:57

Is she like this with everything with your parenting of DD?

Daleksatemyshed · 01/10/2024 10:57

I'm with you Op, that's a way over the top dress. I presume your DM wants a pink, girly DGC and she knows that's not your thing which is why she laughed.

RIVERDALEHIGH · 01/10/2024 10:57

I love it.

Put her in it, if only for some pics for your mum.

Chaseandstatus · 01/10/2024 10:57

For me it depends what her name is.