My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

[Glasscabinet]

It’s DD first birthday soon and my mum has asked me to collect an outfit from hers ready for DD birthday.

My mum was laughing as she said that neither me or DH will like it/to our tastes but in her eyes it’s lovely.

What planet would I dress my DD, on her first birthday, in an outfit that caused a round of laughter over.

One hand I could be polite and pretend that DD got it dirty or I could straight out refuse to accept it.

What a waste of money and material. If anything I’m actually quite annoyed.

Oh just humour her - you might find it irritating but she would be so happy to see your dd in it. It’s a thousand times better than the horrendous frilly dresses my Mil bought for my dd. It makes them happy and it’s their money …

it's her first birthday. seems very presumptuous to assume they get to choose what she wears. this is a big milestone for you as parents, and surely they'd know you'd want to dress her for the occasion in something of your own choice.

I wasn't implying babies had an opinion

I was saying that whether a parent likes an outfit (or not) is just as irrelevant as whether a poster on here likes it. OP doesn't even take her baby out in public - just put the baby in it, take a photo or two, send a nice thank you message to grandma and donate it to charity. Job done.

I'm not sure why there's so much angst over it.

Let's be honest - she's one - she's likely going to go through multiple outfits anyway so why can't this just be one of them? Put her in it, feed her something and it'll inevitably need changing anyway.

It’s the same rule for all clothes you don’t like for your child: Thanks, photo, send then choose from unfortunate accident / too special so have put it away / be sure your dc is wearing it the next few times they see them so they’re satisfied.

“whether a parent likes an outfit (or not) is just as irrelevant as whether a poster on here likes it.”

Right ok so your opinion on what your baby wears is of the same importance as the opinion of a random person on an internet forum?! Ok then.

I think the dress is horrible, but you are really over reacting and being unreasonable. There were occasions when my mum and mother in law bought things for my daughter which I loathed, but I gritted my teeth, said they were lovely, and made sure that they saw her either wearing or using what they had given her.

What a fuss about nothing! I do hope that when Lily grows up she will be kinder to the op than she is being to her mum!

It's pretty hideous. I would struggle with that.

I would be annoyed if my mum did that knowing it wasn't to my taste, very annoyed.
I dont really like the dress btw

I would say thank you mum, but I dont mean to be rude/ungrateful but I dont really like the style of it

Well, yes, as in it doesn't really matter what anyone thinks of it. It's just a dress, it's not like she's been given a Nazi uniform or a copy of Mein Kampf.

It's not hard to take a few photos of the baby wearing it and donate it. It really doesn't have to be the big deal you're making it into.

It's so cute!

I’m not making it into a big deal, just pointing out what a ridiculous statement it was that the parent's opinion on what their baby wears is no more important than that of an internet stranger. Clearly you can’t see that so I’ll disengage now.

It’s awful and I wouldn’t be putting it on my daughter.

No, it's not, but the chances of finding someone who has a baby named Lily who is about to turn one and wants to take this outfit off her hands are quite low.

Oh dear. Awful dress. I agree that you should take a photograph of her in it and send it to her granny. No harm in that. When your daughter is 2 or 3 and starts to have - ya know - opinions, will you let her wear something like that if she likes it, or do you have to approve?

I remember DP's mum bought my eldest a little pair of camouflage style trousers when he was about 18 months. I hated them, but I put them on him to visit her. And he absolutely loved them FFS🤣 Couldn't prise them off him. They were practically in shreds by the time he grew out of them.

I can’t understand why she needs you to collect it from her either? Can she not just give it to you when she sees you as a present?

(Have already replied saying YANBU for other reasons)

Pretend you love it, spoil her fun. Do a photoshoot.

Well, it can just be stuck in the bag for charity then.

Jesus that’s so tacky. Why are people defending it?!

Do people really not care how wasteful it is to spend their own good money, and the earth's dwindling resources, on something that will be worn grudgingly for 2 minutes? Does that really give you pleasure?? If you think a dress is cute, but you know the only person with a child the right age to wear it would hate it, why not just admire it on the rack for a few seconds and then go about your day? I really just don't get it.

And then it's not just the one photo... it then takes up space in your (very limited) drawer space, making you feel guilty until you eventually cart a massive bin bag of clothes to the charity shop (because people like this never just do it the once, it's every other bloody week a new useless item you have no need for, that you specifically told them you don't want). It's not about you, it's not being thoughtful and generous, it's purely about their consumeristic desire to BUY BUY BUY OOOH SHINY PRETTY BUY BUY BUY. If you're so obsessed with buying things for the sake of it, just get a doll and buy it some clothes and clutter up your own house.

I was taught to change the way I react to things rather than try to change others (all in relation to my mum riding roughshod over me years ago and me getting upset about it).

My reaction would be... "oh how cute, she will look lovely. Photo photo... oh no, she's pooed in it, what a shame I'll need to change her". Off it goes! Everyone happy.

So glad I’ve got a boy!

Hideous, but why not stick her in it for a few photos. It's just a dress albeit not a very nice one.