My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

[Glasscabinet]

It’s DD first birthday soon and my mum has asked me to collect an outfit from hers ready for DD birthday.

My mum was laughing as she said that neither me or DH will like it/to our tastes but in her eyes it’s lovely.

What planet would I dress my DD, on her first birthday, in an outfit that caused a round of laughter over.

One hand I could be polite and pretend that DD got it dirty or I could straight out refuse to accept it.

What a waste of money and material. If anything I’m actually quite annoyed.

I'm with you OP, I think it's hideous 🤣

My mum is always buying DD frilly pink dresses and such even though I've repeatedly asked her not to. I put her in them to take a photo and then give them to the charity shop 🤷‍♀️

Why?

Jesus wept.
It's a granny buying a frivolous and silly dress for her baby grand daughter.

If that's the worst problem you have faced you have been a lucky person.

This ^ for me.
Of course she can buy her granddaughter a dress but it’s up to you at this stage if you want DD to wear this dress at all or if you want DD to wear it on her birthday. The problem is that your Mum bought something she knew you wouldn’t like but bought it anyway. FTF???

The range of reactions on here (some people love it, some don't) show the varity of people's choice of how to dress a one year old.
a) be glad you have a mother who is alive
b) be glad you have a mother who is prepared to spend money on her grandchild - even if it is something you wouldn't buy

Yeah it’s hideous 😂 I’d put the baby in it for one photo and then take it straight off lol

Not my taste because of the wording but I would have appreciated the gift from grandma as being something lovely foe my daughter to dress in on her birthday.

We were camping in France on the wettest holiday ever for DS' first birthday. He spent it in a filthy waterproof onesie thing.

Not my taste, not yours either. But as others have said, children will challenge your sartorial preferences.

Have you asked your mother why she has gone to the trouble of buying a frilly outfit that she knows you won't like for your daughter? What does she think her granddaughter is missing out on that this dress will provide? If she actually just wants to see her DGD looking frilly and feminine 'for once' would it kill anyone to put the child in the dress, take a photo for posterity, then donate/recycle/bin the bloody outfit?

Unless there is a massive backstory in which your DM is actually (in mumsnet parlance) a 'controlling narc' then I would have thought this is one you can easily ride out, and say, 'for future reference, no more frills or pink please - we like clothes from x retailer in this style.'

I think it's ghastly but I'd let your mum put the dc in it and take a few photos (for her own use, def not posting on sm).

Definitely not the kind of thing I would choose and yanbu to say to your mum "sorry mum it's just not my taste and I would like to be able to choose my daughter's birthday outfit myself".

She has had her time to dress her children the way she wants to, now it's yours.

Where did the OP say it was the worst problem she has faced? I must have missed that post...

The dress is vile in my opinion. I don't understand deliberately buying something for a baby the mum doesn't like - after all, who is going to dress the baby? Why would you dress your child in an outfit you think is naff? I'd charity shop it and not give it a second thought, personally.

I get where you’re coming from- it’s not about whether it’s nice or not so the posters saying there’s nothing wrong with it are missing the point IMO. It’s the fact your mum bought your daughter an outfit for a special occasion that she knew you wouldn’t like. And that is quite annoying.

Well the outfit is hideous but more to the point, your mum bought something she knew you and DH would hate…that’s the problem

Why not make your mum happy and let the baby wear it, but in future ask your mum about suitable clothes before she buys them. I doubt she will still be buying stuff when the baby is no longer small and cute!

ps wait till you see what your daughter wears when she becomes a rebellious teenager! You will have no say then.

It's hideous!

Can't bear ridiculous frilly stuff on babies.

But yes to the photo, and possibly photoshop in a pic of your Mum next to her wearing a t shirt saying 'Granny is 1...nutcase'.

I can see your point OP, the outfit is dreadful. What was your mother’s intention with this? To deliberately wind you up, or is she desperate to see her GD in a cute outfit and it was nervous laughter as she knew you wouldn’t approve?

If the latter I would be inclined to do a couple of photos then change your DD. She can wear the bodysuit with practical bottoms and the socks without the ridiculous bows. Lose the headband obviously (just why?). In a few months time when she’s taller she may love the tutu for dress up.

It’s awful & in your position I’d assume she bought it to wind you up (she knew you’d hate it). I wouldn’t think twice about binning it tbh. Wanky behaviour from her.

I would never buy a personalised outfit for DGS’s first, or any birthday/Christmas, because I don’t think it’s a grandparent’s place to do that. It doesn’t matter if you think the parents will like it or not, it’s their baby so they should get to choose what they wear on such a special occasion.

That being said I did buy DGS an outfit from JoJo Maman Bebe that I didn’t think DDIL would like, but I knew DS2 would love it and he’s his baby too. As it turns out DDIL did really like it, so the risk paid off, and DGS looks absolutely adorable in it.

My in laws and parents buy my DCs loads of clothes I don’t like but they get enjoyment out of doing so and it’s harmless. I’m glad they love their DGC. I usually just put the clothes on for nursery or for going to visit GPs.

I’d just put it on for a picture then change DD into something you’ve chosen. If your mum complaints then, you have a problem.

It’s awful, I get you! She’s your DD, choose an outfit you like.

I agree with you, it certainly isn't to my tastes and looks uncomfortable and impractical. Like for a little dolly. Can't stand those little head bows, they look so uncomfortable and are just unnecessary.

However, I think the dress isn't the problem, is it? It's the fact that she chose an outfit for your kid to wear on a special occasion, knowing you really wouldn't like it and would probably like to choose one yourself for that particular day.

For the people suggesting you're odd for wanting to choose an outfit yourself... I'm curious. Why does the pleasure of Grandma getting to pick out a special occasion outfit (who has presumably had the opportunity to do this with her own children when they were little) override the enjoyment that the parents might get out of doing the very same thing?

I think I'd be diplomatic, put it on for a quick photo then dress her in whatever you've chosen yourself. Blame a poonami as others have suggested.

You think a child's first birthday party is all about her grandmother?

Why?

Put daughter in it - take a few pics. Share with mum.

Put daughter in another outfit - take a few pics. Don't share with mum.

Seriously what is the point of getting riled over this?!

Agree it's ghastly but hey it's a baby outfit, not an interview suit. Unless your mum is known for pinprick ways of undermining you, you're overthinking this.

As pps said, pictures then poo explosion.

Does she have history of not considering you?

I'd do a little pre birthday photo shoot with pink balloons and send her photos, then put her in what you want on her birthday.