My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

[Glasscabinet]

It’s DD first birthday soon and my mum has asked me to collect an outfit from hers ready for DD birthday.

My mum was laughing as she said that neither me or DH will like it/to our tastes but in her eyes it’s lovely.

What planet would I dress my DD, on her first birthday, in an outfit that caused a round of laughter over.

One hand I could be polite and pretend that DD got it dirty or I could straight out refuse to accept it.

What a waste of money and material. If anything I’m actually quite annoyed.

I like it!! Why is anyone laughing?

It's awful!
Stick it on vinted op.
Say it got list in the post?

I agree, it’s horrendous.

My mum gets my kids lots of holiday specific clothes that they’d wear max once. It annoys me. I put it on once or never or send it as backup clothes when she’s babysitting. If I put it on I send her a picture. then I donate because someone else wants it for next year. My toddlers love halloween and want to be skeletons year round, so I am the one buying all the once worn halloween outfits from the thrift.

Lily is hardly an unusual name, it has consistently been near the top of baby name lists for years now. I really don't think the OP will struggle to sell it on.

The onesie is cute. Put her in that and the socks with a pair of jeggings in the morning and say she wouldn’t be able to move around in the skirt. Then change her later into the outfit you want her to wear.

It's cute and appropriate for photos for a baby's birthday.

Is your Mum doing it to be funny or to be nasty/make a point?
I wouldn't put my child in that but everyone has different taste - however, if you think your Mum is actually mocking you then I would be annoyed

I'd have said it was about all of the child's family celebrating together. So the parents and the child are of course the most important, but surely it's good if everyone can get some enjoyment? Seems a bit tight not to let Granny have a 10 minute photoshoot, if it's something that's special to her.

If the onesie is separable then I’d do this.

I hate the fact that people start impeding little girls’ movement when they’re only one.

I'm with you, it's hideous. But even if it was nice that's not the point is it, she bought it even though it's not something you'd like. Just why?!

The first birthday is more about the parents than the child really. I spent ages picking a lovely outfit for my children to wear on theirs, something meaningful, no way would I put them in something I didn't choose or like.

If you want to be nice then do a photoshoot with it the day before and send "birthday eve" pics to your mum, then stick it on vinted.

It would be different if Granny had planned the whole day.

This is pretty much the point of these dresses.

YABU - much ado about nothing really.

Just don't collect it and don't put her in it. 🤷🏻‍♀️
You get to choose what to dress your own child in for a while yet.

I don't like it either.

This

What's right with it? 🤣

I wouldn't even bother taking a photo in that monstrosity, what child deserves to have such a photo in existence? The mother definitely wouldn't keep the photo to herself!

I think this really depends on what your mother is like generally and if she expects this outfit to be an “official” birthday outfit or just something for a couple of pictures. If she tends to be controlling, I can see the issue. If you have a good relationship in general and she’s just a little giddy over your daughter’s first birthday, I’d take a few pictures and then move on.

As to the outfit by itself - I get that it’s not everyone’s taste, but some people are being just nasty about it. “Hideous,” “awful,” “vile tat”…I hope that in real life your sneering attitude doesn’t come across to people who dress their little girls like that.

Why would people laugh at it? It's a perfectly reasonable outfit.

If my mum had gone to the trouble, I would put her in it in the morning to take some cute photos for her, but then change her into something I had picked myself for the party, if questioned I'd just say "she wore it for a bit earlier, I'd already bought her an outfit I wanted her to wear today".

Why do people have to make every little thing into a drama...

So you're suggesting she says one thing (please consult me before buying baby's clothes) but does the other (puts daughter in mum's chosen outfit).

Actions speak louder than words, it will just give her licence to do the same again, especially given mum is the sort of person who knew the outfit wouldn't be to her taste but went ahead and bought it anyway.

PS yes teenagers wear clothes we don't like, 5 year olds want tacky princess dresses etc. All the more reason for the child's own mother to dress her daughter in clothes that SHE chooses while she has the chance!

I wouldn't even humour the grandmother by putting the little girl in the dress for photos.

You’re fuming because your mum has spent her own money on something she thought would be nice for your daughter? Totally fine if it’s not to your taste, just say thanks and put her in something else on the day.

No need for the total overreaction though, she’s bought her a dress not strapped her to the roof racks of a car and driven down the M25.

I certainly wouldn't collect an outfit I wouldn't put my child in. How strange of her to suggest that.

My mum used to buy all sorts of shit for my son and his cousins. My sister and I recycled them as appropriate. She was a bit like your mum OP, for some reason couldn't resist buying crappy tat. She still did it despite us telling her that they got put in the charity bag immediately. She said she didn't care and that buying it makes her happy. Her money, her choice.

(edited to correct typo)

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it because it might spur her on to keep doing this. Take some photos for her (that aren't worthy of printing on a massive canvas etc) so you can't be called ungrateful and then take it off. It looks like some sort of hazard anyway.

My mum buys crap like this all the time for my DD. It’s as if she never looks at what we dress her in it drives me mental.

All of its off terrible tacky sites like Temu. All of it goes straight on vinted and I use the money to buy her something we actually like.

Put her in it for pictures to pretend she wore it and then flog it.