My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

[Glasscabinet]

It’s DD first birthday soon and my mum has asked me to collect an outfit from hers ready for DD birthday.

My mum was laughing as she said that neither me or DH will like it/to our tastes but in her eyes it’s lovely.

What planet would I dress my DD, on her first birthday, in an outfit that caused a round of laughter over.

One hand I could be polite and pretend that DD got it dirty or I could straight out refuse to accept it.

What a waste of money and material. If anything I’m actually quite annoyed.

Oh that is horrid.

But it's a present, and your DD won't care what she is wearing at that age. I would put her in it for a few pictures then change her to something more comfortable for playing in.

Dramatic.

Is it a dress? It looks like a baby grow with a separate tutu to me. The matching socks are cute.

Yes, some people gift clothes you don’t like. Agree with sticking them in it for a few photos then popping it on Vinted. Lily is a very popular name so you shouldn’t have too much trouble passing it on.

Grandma bought an impractical outfit. Pop it on, take pictures, and make grandma ridiculously happy. Take outfit off immediately or at next diaper change.

life doesn’t have to be this hard.

Dress drama, talking about boundaries for a bloody gift? Happy to only have boys.

@Glasscabinet , I don’t like it either. Just dress her in it, let your mum take a couple of photos and then changer her into something more comfortable. Next year provide your mother with a gift list.

Is the frilly bottom bit detachable? If so, take a photo with her in the complete ensemble for Grandma, then ditch the frills and the bows and let her run around in it at home on her birthday.
She will quickly outgrow it and with any luck it will be too small in a couple of months, or certainly by next spring/summer.

I wonder if you Mum is like mine, OP? Has to control every situation, has to be the centre of attention, numero uno all,. the. fucking. time. My mother used to undermine myself and DH constantly. This is the kind of thing that she did that would have made me see red. "I bought something for your child to wear at your first birthday party, taking the decision out of your hands AND I know you will hate it," It's territorial pissing, which is why I voted YANBU.

I love it OP 😊

OP I’m with you, I’d be annoyed by this! She knew you wouldn’t like it, and laughed as she said this. That’s irritating.

I don’t like this style of dresses for babies. My friends little sister dresses her baby in stuff like this and I just think they look really chavvy.

I agree with what other people have said though… put her in it, get some pics for your mum, and then say it got ruined, and put your own baby in an outfit for her birthday that you got to choose!

Haven’t RTFT but even the first page, I am so shocked how many people are telling you to just suck it up! For me it’s awful and I’d be hurt by my mum essentially saying ‘I know your preferences but I don’t care and want you to do what I want’. No way I’d want my kids 1st bday outfit to be something I hated. To me this is completely different to all the outfits you get as gifts for kids that are not to your taste - those I agree, just wear them for the gift giver, take a photo. This has another edge to it and I’d not let anyone shame you into taking it if you don’t want to. Doesn’t need to be a showdown, just ‘like you say, it’s not my cup of tea mum. Why don’t you return it and I’ll put her in something I like.’

It's not at all relevent whether people think it's beautiful/tacky/fun/a waste of money. It's OP's baby. She should have the ultimate say over what she wears especially for a special occasion

You think a grandparent's views on how a baby should be dressed should override the views of the parents? How odd.

Yes. I wouldn’t have bought it if it had been awful. They did like to dress her ungirly so I bought something understated but sweet when I was abroad on holiday. It probably went straight to a charity shop 😕

Yes, it's hideous.

Just say you prefer the individual parts - pair the top with some denim dungarees (bib will cover most up). And the skirt with a plain clashing/striped top or dinosaur t-shirt etc.

Oh dear, the hair-band is a safety risk/got lost - what a pity!

For me the choice between the 2 options (take a few pics to keep the peace, or just don't put her in it) would depend on what you think her intentions are and how she is generally. If you think she genuinely thinks the dress is sweet and she tries her best to support you on the whole, I'd take the pics, but if it's part of a bigger pattern of not respecting your parenting choices I'd think twice, and maybe say you've got her birthday outfit already.

This.
Perhaps OP prefers leggings & a cute teashirt which is reasonable if it's your taste for a 1yr old dd but I love the drama of this dress 😀

It's hideous.

My grandmother wanted a little girl and got a boy instead, so as the first born grandchild born female, I was subjected to godawful clothes like that. I hated it. Hate it now.

Don't put it on your child.

I'm still curious about people saying "birthday outfit" for a one year old.
At one mine would have started off the day in one outfit and gone through several and by the time it would be teatime she'd just be in a nappy and one sock 😂

Hideous, but then I'm not a frills person and thankfully I had a boy!!

I agree. Put it on her for a photoshoot, and then feign a nappy explosion.

I have 3 daughters and relatives have bought them all manner of hideous outfits over the years. You dress them up in them, take some photos, send the photos to the relative and thank them very much for their kind gift. End of story.

I can understand where you're coming from. Especially if you don't like the waste of fast fashion.

It's been designed to be so specific its something that can only be worn on one day of her whole life and can't even be passed on to another child unless you find another Lily approaching her first birthday.

And then it's also essentially your mum choosing what your daughter wears for her birthday.

Just dont dress her in it.

However, I really dont like children's cloges with their names on - it's my gripe, but I'm sure there has been guidance not to use clothing, bags, headbands etc with names on as young children (appreciate your child will be 1!) will trust people they believe know them - eg, using their name to establish a connection to say they know them.

You could mention that as a valid concern to guide about future outfits.

I think it's cute but either way surely there won't only be one birthday outfit worn all day? Can't you just pop it on her for an hour for pictures and once it gets dirty change her into whatever you had planned?

Put it on, take some pics, take it off again and dress her in what you want.

I hate personalised clothes, you can't easily sell them or give them to charity if you don't want them. Especially something like that which has a name AND an age on it, so the chances of finding someone else to palm it off on give it to are next to zero.

That said, you could always cut the skirt off and stick it in the dressing up box (it might not be to your taste but Lily might have fun with it) and then use the T-shirt part as a cleaning cloth. And you can never have too many socks.