to not want to go on holiday with DH as he’s taking Pot Noodles?

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Hear me out on this, we are off to Italy in a month, a lifelong dream of mine, I had visions of long leisurely lunches and dinners, great Italian food and wine aplenty.

Food on holiday has always been a contentious issue for DH, he believes eating out is a waste of money and would rather sit in the hotel room with a Pot Noodle (seriously). On one holiday he actually went to a supermarket and bought all these pound noodles to try. Now I’m not for blowing money on fancy gourmet dinners but I like to eat nice, good healthy food. We’ve gone all inclusive and that’s usually a great compromise.

So this time I was informing him of the Italian tradition of eating late and it being an event, courses taking a while etc etc and he’s been so annoying about it saying he wants to go to McDonalds or he’ll just have Pot Noodles. He like to eat at 12 noon for lunch and 5pm for dinner on the dot, he eats very fast too. He says he’s going for the sights not for the food.

So I’m contemplating leaving him with his sad Pot Noodle and just taking the DC put for a nice meal on my own. It’s the way he keeps going on about it to get a rise out of me.

I’m not going to say your husband is ND op. But he reads exactly like my ex, who wouldn’t eat most of the things you listed either. But he is autistic so 🤷‍♀️. Some people are just all about the beige life, not for me personally. Much like going on holiday with someone who’d only eat pot noodles but I guess that’s why I never had a holiday with the ex (though his hyperfixation of frozen cardboard pizza probably would have had us kicked out of Italy…).

My parents went to Italy with some friends of theirs. Well you would have thought that the husband was being expected to eat a plate of dog shit covered in arsenic. Imagine their (well his, but his wife never said no to him) delight on discovering a "pub" that sold all English food, full breakfast and a roast on Sundays. They never ate out again with my parents and my parents gave them a hard NO when they asked to go on holiday with them again.

I am with you on the food and him being an arse but I have to ask why you are surprised that he squashed your vision so completely? You know what he is like, you know that he eats at 12 and 5 on the dot and doesnt do "forrin muck", so I dont understand why you expected him to be on board with late lunches, late leisurely dinners and anything that doesnt come with chips.

He eats dinner at 5pm? Is he a child? How is he even home from work in time to eat dinner at 5pm.

I hear you OP, I couldn't even contemplate going to Italy with someone who would take Pot Noodles with them.

Providing it’s not got herbs or a sauce on it or anything related to cheese 🤣🤣😊

Oh my god he sounds like my exh!

When I go on holiday, I like to taste the country (so to speak) as much as see it. Why is the sense of sight so much superior to and more important than that of taste - or any other sense?

My ex basically thought food in general was as a waste of money.

I can tell you such stories of being in France, Portugal and other wonderful countries for food and not being allowed to eat any of it! (I was young at the time - but I did insist on going out to eat at least some of the time)

LOL, this reminds me of one Chinese lady whom I met on a solo trip to the Isle of Wight. She used to go on holidays and eat pot noodles and saved so much

I am with you on the food and him being an arse but I have to ask why you are surprised that he squashed your vision so completely? You know what he is like, you know that he eats at 12 and 5 on the dot and doesnt do "forrin muck", so I dont understand why you expected him to be on board with late lunches, late leisurely dinners and anything that doesnt come with chips.

Yes me too. Why did you expect a different response? Surely you knew it wouldn't be up his street at all?

Anyway I think just let him have his pot noodles at 5, and he can either come with you all later on anyway, or not. But don't let it stop you enjoying yourself.

Go out and eat!

I do not know how you got past dating though.

Good job pizza and pasta are just a tiny fraction of Italian food then! It’s just the stuff that’s caught on abroad.

Sometimes the wait for a man has been long and any man without big problems will do. This one is a small problem

How utterly depressing.

Why can't he have his pot noodle at 5pm and then come out to the evening meal? A tiny pot noodle isn't going to fill up a fully grown man! Or is it simply he's just being too tight to pay for one evening meal?

Some people like what they like. Will he sit at a family meal and have drink to be apart of the table? Some people just can't eat outside their comfort zones.

It really doesn’t. And, honestly, even the umbrella of ‘Italian food’ is pretty misleading, as it varies so massively (and deliciously) from region to region. I could travel across Italy for a month and eat a different dish for each meal, every single day, with neither pasta nor pizza touching my lips.

😂

At last, an intelligent comment! We used to do road trips in the US, 4/5 weeks, and the most liberating thing was deciding that we didn't have to always eat out every evening, especially after a long day driving and site seeing.

Well. I’m glad YOU are married to him. What an act of sacrifice for womankind. I don’t mean that…but FUCK ME that’s one way to suck all the joy out of life.

Ah, just leave him alone with his pot noodles while you show your child what amazing food is. In Italy. You, my dear, deserve it too.

Anyway, I'd leave a man who couldn't feed himself or me or DC with nutritious fabulous food. It's the basis of life. And one of its pleasures.

If he lives on crap food like that, he has a problem....

That’s a very narrow view of Italian food…

I know I was like "WTF?"

For me a holiday is so much about the food, from getting up early and taking a walk down the village/town, picking up fresh bread and eggs, and evening trips down and having tapas ( bar snacks ) here, main course there, dessert elsewhere...

Im happy with picky food, a bit here and a bit there, DH is a meat and veg man ( he hated Greek food on the Island we were on ) so we compromise . I refuse to cook but will throw a salad together, stick a pizza on ( thats not cooking in my eyes) so he will still come and eat out and enjoy the evening, knowing if theres nothing he likes , he will get fed :)

He loved the food in Italy though and would go back in a heartbeat. Theres always something that the most pickiest of eater can find to eat in Italy, food is lovely

A few posts in and it's "is he neuro diverse", and a poster saying it's "abhorrent" not to eat all types of food. Op, you'll be lucky on this thread if you aren't being advised to go to couples therapy.

We had a gorgeous holiday starting with 2 days in Barcelona.

The first thing DH wanted to do was go to McDonald's to get a McRib.

I feel your pain

He did make up for it though as we went to Cecconi's both night (thanks Amex)

Where are you going to be, approx, OP? I love Italy and Italian food. Make sure you try fritto misto (deep fried shellfish with occasionally bits of veg) it's utterly divine.

Honestly?? I wouldn't go with him. I couldn't be married to someone who didn't enjoy their food. This sounds like my idea of hell!!

We used to do road trips in the US, 4/5 weeks, and the most liberating thing was deciding that we didn't have to always eat out every evening, especially after a long day driving and site seeing.

Utterly different scenario. Hardly in Italy on holiday or road trip for 4/5 weeks, then you'd get an apartment with a kitchen, duh.