to not want to go on holiday with DH as he’s taking Pot Noodles?

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Hear me out on this, we are off to Italy in a month, a lifelong dream of mine, I had visions of long leisurely lunches and dinners, great Italian food and wine aplenty.

Food on holiday has always been a contentious issue for DH, he believes eating out is a waste of money and would rather sit in the hotel room with a Pot Noodle (seriously). On one holiday he actually went to a supermarket and bought all these pound noodles to try. Now I’m not for blowing money on fancy gourmet dinners but I like to eat nice, good healthy food. We’ve gone all inclusive and that’s usually a great compromise.

So this time I was informing him of the Italian tradition of eating late and it being an event, courses taking a while etc etc and he’s been so annoying about it saying he wants to go to McDonalds or he’ll just have Pot Noodles. He like to eat at 12 noon for lunch and 5pm for dinner on the dot, he eats very fast too. He says he’s going for the sights not for the food.

So I’m contemplating leaving him with his sad Pot Noodle and just taking the DC put for a nice meal on my own. It’s the way he keeps going on about it to get a rise out of me.

Don't think OP was inviting you

He sounds incredibly tedious

Whilst he's entitled to like what he likes, I personally would find it abhorrent that he has no interest in the authentic cuisine of another country and just wants to eat utter crap.

Different holiday priorities!

I like to choose who I go to with on holiday … as I have not found an ideal holiday companion complete!

my partner like historic sights but doesn’t care for food like your DH or clubs or parties.

but I have friend who like restaurants and shopping but they don’t do culture!

so it’s difficult to get it perfect!

What about chicken, fish, seafood, salad, tomatoes, gelato, desserts, risotto, cold meats, soup, bread...?

I might be mistaken but I believe Italy does some of these rather well.

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I would find this so boring and unattractive

I'm team DH (minus the pot noodles) as I'd hate to have to waste precious site/sight (?) seeing time eating. Nice meals out are for when there's nothing better to do. But away in another country with thousand things to experience I'd be deeply frustrated by hours in a resturant. Pot noodles are horrible and unhealthy though. But a sandwich and fruit from the supermarket and I'd be all for that.

I really feel our society is at least a tiny bit fucked when seemingly normal people think a grown man - and father - eating Pot Noodles at 5pm alone in his hotel room when on holiday in Italy is perfectly fine and just a matter of "priorities" rather than the action of a massive man-child with obvious issues of maturity, responsibility and taste.

Do explain. Where's the compromise between a proper sit-down dinner and pot noodles?

I think that if he can't put his culinary fixatedness to one side and lean into the experience to be a good role model for the kids, then this time yes go out and eat without him in the evenings and have a lovely time with the DC. Next time leave him at home with an industrial pack of Pot Noodles, that he can eat at 12 noon and 5pm on the dot every day, the philistine. I can't really think of much that would be more unsexy than this. Good luck to you.

You can't sight see 24hrs a day! Part of a holiday is eating out and trying different foods or just eating out and eating the same old foods it doesn't matter. Do you not eat on holidays because it's wasting time?

I'd leave him at home op, he sounds so miserable.

Amen!!

OMG, he sounds like the man who sat in our plane aisle going to Greece one year. Id never been and he had said he had gone twice a year for many years so I asked him about the food. He didnt have a clue, he had a suitcase of "English Food" with him .......

My DH was never adventurous with food when we met, like yours in a way. We tend to do B+B or self catering now and do brekkie and lunch at the apartment/hotel and eat out in the evening- be dammed if Im cooking and eating out is part of the holiday experience. But being self catering, theres always food DH can eat if the meal out didnt float his boat.

Is he neurodiverse? One of my dsd does this when we go away as she has sensory issues

Unfamiliar food? It's Italy! Home of the world's most popular international cuisine!

Your husband sounds insane. 🤣

I’m also a bit aghast at all the people who seem to think that pizza and pasta comprise the entirety of Italian cuisine. 🤣

This is a fun thread.

Just stick with main dishes then? Pasta is a starter, and there's plenty if alternative starters.

My oh is autistic and only eats chicken and McDonald's. He comes to restaurants with me and I go to KFC or McDonald's with him. You can make it work, or go separately either works. No need to give him a hard time about it.

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If you are doing AI then your food is already paid for so surely he is wasting money buying pot noodles over and above this?

This reminds me of my boyfriend and our differences when it comes to food. It really makes me rethink the relationship more than I should admit

Not having gravy with a roast is an abomination.

In all seriousness I couldn’t deal with this, the fact he won’t even try! Eating out on holiday and trying different foods is one of the best parts, plus some Italian cuisine on offer is hardly the most out there, he can have plain pasta or a pizza surely? Not like you’re asking him to eat eel or a really spicy dish every night.

‘Foreign muck’ 🤣🤣🤣

No. I can honestly say I don’t know anyone like this in real life. Yay!

No reason to worry.

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