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to not want to go on holiday with DH as he’s taking Pot Noodles?

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Astridastro · 30/09/2024 21:08

Hear me out on this, we are off to Italy in a month, a lifelong dream of mine, I had visions of long leisurely lunches and dinners, great Italian food and wine aplenty.

Food on holiday has always been a contentious issue for DH, he believes eating out is a waste of money and would rather sit in the hotel room with a Pot Noodle (seriously). On one holiday he actually went to a supermarket and bought all these pound noodles to try. Now I’m not for blowing money on fancy gourmet dinners but I like to eat nice, good healthy food. We’ve gone all inclusive and that’s usually a great compromise.

So this time I was informing him of the Italian tradition of eating late and it being an event, courses taking a while etc etc and he’s been so annoying about it saying he wants to go to McDonalds or he’ll just have Pot Noodles. He like to eat at 12 noon for lunch and 5pm for dinner on the dot, he eats very fast too. He says he’s going for the sights not for the food.

So I’m contemplating leaving him with his sad Pot Noodle and just taking the DC put for a nice meal on my own. It’s the way he keeps going on about it to get a rise out of me.

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Chowtime · 30/09/2024 21:09

i think going to a restaurant just you and the kids for a nice meal whilst your husband is eating pot noodle in the hotel room means that everyone has had what they want! It's a win win situation.

Do you eat "family style" at home?

TheOriginalEmu · 30/09/2024 21:10

It just feels like you have different priorities on a holiday. Neither is right or wrong, but I’d let him eat his pot noodle and you go do your nice meals.

Ziplob · 30/09/2024 21:11

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MintyNew · 30/09/2024 21:11

Yanbu. That's actually sad and pathetic. The food is a big part of a holiday and if you can afford it then enjoy it. Leave him and go out with the kids with his Sad noodles.

StormingNorman · 30/09/2024 21:12

Presumably you knew this about your husband before you booked the holiday. I think you both need to compromise for the sake of harmony.

Bigearringsbigsmile · 30/09/2024 21:13

How on earth did you end up with him?

TheChosenTwo · 30/09/2024 21:13

Sounds like you have very different priorities and like you enjoy different aspects of a holiday.
We are a very food focused family, I would really struggle with his attitude to be honest but this can’t be coming as a surprise to you?

PrincessPeache · 30/09/2024 21:14

Neither of you are wrong. Take the kids and have some quality time with them whilst he sits with his pot noodle 😂 and he can take them out for a bit of sightseeing to give you some alone time too! Win win!

olivepoems · 30/09/2024 21:14

Jesus Christ imagine going to Italy and not enjoying all their lovely food 😭😭

I know this may sound OTT to you OP, but I couldn't have married someone who was this weird about eating out. It's one of the great pleasures in my life.

Would he not even go out for a pizza?? Definitely take your kids out for dinner. Pot noodle is barely real food.

Cosyblankets · 30/09/2024 21:14

This won't be a surprise
Let him do his thing and you do yours
It's not something I'd be happy with but you must have been ok with it enough to marry him and have kids

Sexyshrek · 30/09/2024 21:15

Let him take his Pot Noodle to the restaurant. I'm sure they'll give him some hot water to make it.

CookieCrumbles23 · 30/09/2024 21:15

Is it a chicken and mushroom pot noodle or original curry flavour?

DreadPirateRobots · 30/09/2024 21:15

Yes, absolutely, leave the saddo alone with his Pot Noodle and go out with the DC.

Duckingella · 30/09/2024 21:15

Is he neurodivergent or had a very limited menu as a child?

This smacks of someone who's afraid of unfamiliar food and eating out in public;does he normally have social anxiety?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 30/09/2024 21:15

olivepoems · 30/09/2024 21:14

Jesus Christ imagine going to Italy and not enjoying all their lovely food 😭😭

I know this may sound OTT to you OP, but I couldn't have married someone who was this weird about eating out. It's one of the great pleasures in my life.

Would he not even go out for a pizza?? Definitely take your kids out for dinner. Pot noodle is barely real food.

This.

Bloody hell, I would take someone else on holiday and leave him at home.

Pigeonqueen · 30/09/2024 21:16

Oh wow have you married my ex?? He was exactly like this. Just so tedious and annoying. It was one of the main reasons (of many) we ended up divorcing.

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BrendaSmall · 30/09/2024 21:17

Italy isn’t for me
I don’t eat pasta or pizza!

Phase2 · 30/09/2024 21:21

Can you compromise? We go to Italy a lot and I never do the many courses thing just bread and then everyone has pizza/pasta/other served at the same time. Sometimes pudding but we usually wander to an ice cream shop. Maybe it's the idea of several courses of unfamiliar food that's off putting?

fashionqueen0123 · 30/09/2024 21:26

I’m surprised a pot noodle would fill a man up.
my DH would eat that as a snack.

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Astridastro · 30/09/2024 21:27

Ps he is not English can’t even blame that 😀

chicken and mushroom of course nothing too exotic like curry or a Bombay bad boy

I do actually think part of it stems from his upbringing his Mother didn’t cook any “foreign muck” and she had 6 dinners she cooked every week, fish and chips on a Friday of course. He didn’t even have gravy on his Sunday roast until he met me, or cheese, curry, pasta.

We have proper family meals and I’m quite an adventurous cook but he’s still quite plain. I said get chicken, oh it’ll have some weird Italian sauce on it I don’t like (how do you know unless you try it?)

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Astridastro · 30/09/2024 21:27

Ps he is not English can’t even blame that 😀

chicken and mushroom of course nothing too exotic like curry or a Bombay bad boy

I do actually think part of it stems from his upbringing his Mother didn’t cook any “foreign muck” and she had 6 dinners she cooked every week, fish and chips on a Friday of course. He didn’t even have gravy on his Sunday roast until he met me, or cheese, curry, pasta.

We have proper family meals and I’m quite an adventurous cook but he’s still quite plain. I said get chicken, oh it’ll have some weird Italian sauce on it I don’t like (how do you know unless you try it?)

Omg is he Irish. The only other person I've heard say 'foreign muck' or 'foreign shite' about food is my uncle. And I'm mixed Irish/Asian so pull him up on it each time but he does not care 🙄🤔

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 30/09/2024 21:31

Tell him to make sure that the hotel has a kettle then! It's been a long time since I stayed in an Italian hotel, but the self catering properties I've been to in Italy tend to have coffee makers or the stove top thingies rather than kettles.

OverthinkingOlive · 30/09/2024 21:32

I couldn't stand this. It's not called being English it's called being a stingy, boring bastard. I'd never shag him again.