to not want to go on holiday with DH as he’s taking Pot Noodles?

[Astridastro]

Hear me out on this, we are off to Italy in a month, a lifelong dream of mine, I had visions of long leisurely lunches and dinners, great Italian food and wine aplenty.

Food on holiday has always been a contentious issue for DH, he believes eating out is a waste of money and would rather sit in the hotel room with a Pot Noodle (seriously). On one holiday he actually went to a supermarket and bought all these pound noodles to try. Now I’m not for blowing money on fancy gourmet dinners but I like to eat nice, good healthy food. We’ve gone all inclusive and that’s usually a great compromise.

So this time I was informing him of the Italian tradition of eating late and it being an event, courses taking a while etc etc and he’s been so annoying about it saying he wants to go to McDonalds or he’ll just have Pot Noodles. He like to eat at 12 noon for lunch and 5pm for dinner on the dot, he eats very fast too. He says he’s going for the sights not for the food.

So I’m contemplating leaving him with his sad Pot Noodle and just taking the DC put for a nice meal on my own. It’s the way he keeps going on about it to get a rise out of me.

Yeah, that makes sense to me. I love sitting down to a really fancy meal with lots of courses, but if you are eating out lots on holiday, all the sitting around can get really boring. Street food is great.

Sigh. So, you’re proud of the British government because it’s not as corrupt as some governments? That’s the extent to which you feel the English care more about good government?

Your bar is so low it’s a tavern in hell.

I'm sorry OP but I just don't think I could be with someone like that. Not because you're right and he's wrong (he is though - imagine being that tedious and rubbish - the food and enjoying nice meals is one of the absolute best things about going on holiday, especially to Italy of all places) but because it just seems so vastly incompatible in terms of just approach to life / joy.

You cannot deduce that I am proud of the British government, I did not say that, I said the British (actually I said the English) are more worried about government than about food. That statement has no correlation even, with what you said I might be proud of - though having a country that rooted out corruption in high places during the nineteenth century, when others did not bother, is something to be proud of. Only the British middle-classes despise their own country. And having a government which is reliably not corrupt all the time is something of which to think well e.g. when the scandal over procurement of covid protection broke it was a major furore and also a shock - because our governments are expected not to do this sort of stuff.

It isn't. It is political and social suicide to be corrupt in government.

There's nowt as queer as folk.
Nuff said.

A tavern in hell.

LTB

Have you actually been to Italy? We have just returned from Venice and the food is wide-ranging. They do meat, beautiful fish dishes as well as the expected pizza and pasta. There is a huge variety of food, you don’t have to do the stereotypical pizza/pasta thing at all. OP, I would let your husband carry on with his pot noodles and just take the kids out to enjoy the food there. Having authentic Italian food is all part and parcel of the learning experience for them. As someone else said, eating out whilst on holiday is really part of the experience and the fact that you both want different things shouldn’t hinder your enjoyment. Food clearly isn’t high on the agenda for your DH.

Exactly this!!!

Sad and pathetic. Make sure you take yourself and the kids out for meals to sample all that amazing country has to offer. I actually can’t abide fussy eating in adults, unless they ARFID or are neurodiverse.

Some of these replies seem harsh. Eating limited things and eating bang on certain times suggests neurodiversity to me, and anxiety of being away from familiar things in a different environment.

Neither do most Italians

I would actually divorce him over this.

But yes definitely go for nice meals with DC and leave DH to his Pot Noodle if that’s what he wants.

That's quite twattish unless there's a very good reason; doubly so since you've already paid for the food!

Thanks for sharing, but the OP is going to Italy, as is her DH, so I'm not sure how the fact that BrendaSmall doesn't like pasta has any bearing on the situation.

If she'd asked for recommendations for some comfortable sandals to take with her would you have come on to say that you only wear Wellington boots?

Nothing gives me the ick more than a grown man eating a pot noodle. I hope he’s not expecting any sex on this holiday because I’d be dry as.

This.

But I also found OPs gleeful ‘update’ that DH ate spaghetti meatballs rather pathetic too. Congrats on the man child.

I'm just confused as to why you've gone AI if you want to eat out every evening and he wants to eat pot noodles in. That seems like a huge waste of money to me.

they haven’t gone AI.

"Neither do most Italians"

🤣🤣 Italians don't eat pasta??

They haven't.

Update - we had a fantastic holiday without a Pot Noodle in sight! DH ate out every night, pizza, carbonara and cacio e pepe. Food was amazing.

Great news @Astridastro Glad it all went well in the end and you all had a great time!

That super news. So glad you had a good time.