How on earth are we allowing porn like this to access

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Surely aggressive and violent porn and all the other filth must be affecting people? I worry so much about what children get to see. Surely it must have an effect on men, it’s just so shocking the things that are out there.
We never had access to this before, just some magazines, Page 3, a few videos…what’s available now surely must have a psychological affect on people

Wow! Talk about tarring everyone with the same brush.

I know countless Single Mothers and can't think of any that involved new partners with their children early in a relationship. Especially not ones where it was just sex.

@ATenShun how does that help the child AFTER the fact? Especially if it doesn't stop at "seeing" something and worse things happen?

Sorry don't understand your question.

Bukkake??? better look that up….FFS just did. Boak.

Porn should be banned, full stop. All of it. Anyone who watches it should go to jail for a long time.

I get the tube to work and often wonder how many of the men sitting near me watch violent, degrading porn, then share train carriages with women and girls. What are they thinking? Are us females completely dehumanised to a large percentage of them?

back before modern media and internet, you had nexus books then nancy friday books of various erotica topics

Anyone thinking parental controls actually work on tech don't have a clue. They don't.

The online safety bill was supposed to solve all this, but again it's absolutely useless.

What should be done and by whom!?
It's all very well stamping your foot and complaining, but that isn't helping.
What ideas do you, as a member of the society that this is affecting, have?

You will find plenty of women are happy with it. Try to have a conversation about romance no longer being a thing and many men and women will shut it down.

There are few good people left who have the time and tenacity to make changes. The horse has already bolted on this and many things.

Parental controls

Those saying "porn has always been around", have visited a mainstream porn site recently? Are you really familiar with the "normal" pornography that "normal" males are watching? You really think the endless horrible degrading stuff they carry in their pockets 24/7 is the same as a book, or the odd VHS?

@redalex261

Did you just fancy telling them you're a Pornhub watcher or did this come from them looking at it????!

I think this too. I think a lot of men - even the “good” married ones see women like an appliance. You see it all the time in the relationships board, if their “appliance” stops working (doesn’t want sex anymore for any reason, becomes disabled etc) they’ll just swap it for a new one.

You think having no male role model has no bearing on a boys outcomes? Ok.

And in hindsight ‘single parent families’ would have been better wording.

This does actually happen a lot.

Not - I hope - making out on the couch.

But a lot of mums do bring every new boyfriend around and get them involved with the kids. It's not all that uncommon for the kids to have lived with quite a few boyfriends over the years.

It's really, really hard on them. Not to mention the risk.

@OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays What can I do?! What can you do?!

@Charley50 Yes exactly this, even our partners and sons (I don’t have any) surely this has to change their way of thinking

Ideally ban violent and degrading porn. Ban children from social media until they're 16 and over. If your child is found to have looked at porn then you are prosecuted for child neglect.

You do realise a lot of what you want to ban is illegal and breaks many jurisdiction law. The reality is you can't put the cat back in the bag.

The only way to progress is information and early open conversations about sex, consent and possibly there is the expansion of ethical porn. I still haven't gotten fully informed on this aspect yet.

I have boys they learn consent and respect by being shown consent and respect. My absolute barmy parenting, according to my ex's family, of asking their consent for hugs etc.

That was the foundation of their shared values. Open discussion and acknowledgement of that being 16 yes they may or may not want to consider a sex life. They are difficult and challenging conversations.

Talking about their and others boundaries. Admitting and working through where I made mistakes in relationships, around communication, not respecting my boundaries will hopefully enable them the space to make small mistakes in inconsequential areas. And hoping they bring that knowledge with them.

If we are aware if we have open dialogue hopefully we can change the trend.

You do realise a lot of what you want to ban is illegal and breaks many jurisdiction law.

What's illegal to ban? I'm not sure what you mean. In Australia social media is being banned for under 16s. Porn is restricted in many countries already and exposing children to porn is considered neglect.

What you're suggesting isn't enough and unlimited access to porn is rewiring children's brains and having a very detrimental effect. It also adversely effects girls and women leading to serious injuries, abuse and in some cases, death.

Lots of boys had watched it at a young age back in the 80s/90s/00s from my/dh experience of growing up.

The only reason you haven't seen it is because I'm guessing you are female, I hadn't watched it until I was 18 but much different for boys.

My dh had said boys would share magazines, find videos from older siblings etc... which I find a bit gross but my point being porn has always be accessible.

How and why should is be illegal? There are lots of restrictions on pornhub about what is acceptable ie. No violence / rape etc. How would it be enforced? Lots of programmes have sex scenes etc.

Banning something you find offensive, no matter the content is ridiculous. Ensuring it's "safe" is a better idea.