How on earth are we allowing porn like this to access

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Surely aggressive and violent porn and all the other filth must be affecting people? I worry so much about what children get to see. Surely it must have an effect on men, it’s just so shocking the things that are out there.
We never had access to this before, just some magazines, Page 3, a few videos…what’s available now surely must have a psychological affect on people

@ATenShun you are correct. But, as a parent, you cannot control what your child is exposed to when other individuals share such content from their own devices.
It is all pervasive and the main media (films, advertising etc) also full of over sexualised imagery as well. All inspired by porn.
The inflatable look lots of young 'celebrities' have adopted also inspired the same way.
Ultimately a very high level of depravity and violence has been filtering through and I'm convinced a very high percentage of very young teens have bee marked in a very negative way having had exposure to video and photographic content. And they grow up thinking or expecting it to be the normal.
It really is awful for girls and women growing up complying to such expectations and thinking it is normal. It really is awful for boys and men who have been conditioned in a way and are convinced this type of sex is normal and they need it.
It's all very very very wrong.
And even at low level, why would magazines such as Cosmo would advise on anal sex for example. Why do I open my £10 Tuesday offers email from Boots to see sex toys. Why is all this stuff small and big everywhere.
Porn available now should absolutely be banned but I can't see how it can be done. If it exists, young teens will access it regardless of parental rules. It's a worldwide problem.

I am middleaged and we were able to watch zoophilia, beheadings and rape including knife cuts when we were 11.
All of us are married with normql sex lives

I think you're being a little over dramatic, extreme porn has been around for millenia, you know that famous Japanese artist who painted the pictures of the wave? Well you probably shouldn't go look at his other work.

What are we talking about when it comes to violent porn, bdsm, rough sex or are we talking about things like CNC etc because last time I checked it was extremely hard to access and not something kids are likely to just stumble upon.

I think the best course of action is to have open dialogue with our kids about healthy relationships (age appropriate of course) and be proactive in safeguarding them where we can.

Btw, Salo - 120 Days of Sodom was filmed 50 years ago.

And written in 1785!

One good thing is nowadays there doesn't seem to be so much animal porn around as there used to be. Endless VHS tapes passed around school, I seem to remember they were often made by the same Danish woman.

I don’t think I’m being over dramatic at all! The things that are written about the description of the videos and the implications of rape or young girls, even if legally they can’t say it outright, it’s implied. The vile language etc it’s all messed up

Absolutely, and I really worry about the impact it's having on men (and therefore on the woman they interact with).

An orgasm is an incredibly powerful conditioning tool.

I never saw animal stuff either.

I remember finding The joy of sex and Playboy type magazines under my dad’s side of the bed as a kid in the 80’s. Then a bit later I did find a porn video hidden and wish I hadn’t as it should have been hidden more. It was German I think, fairly tame by today’s standards, basic sex, some threesomes etc and I think anal which I was shocked at. I remember feeling really uncomfortable, not sure what age I was. I was a snooper, but they should have hidden that much better

I agree OP. Even the homepage of Pornhub is horrifying - graphic, violent, degrading pornography. And that's just the mainstream stuff, available everywhere, 24/7. I hate that it's become normalized, and as mum of 3 small boys it really worries me.

Hmm I’m not so sure about that. There’s (sadly) a whole world of sickening animal related stuff.

Recent case - warning distressing content -

www.bbc.com/news/articles/cd109z73ek3o

I know it isn't only men watching porn.

But it IS only men who watch porn showing females being strangled and then strangle woman in real life. I mean, how many women have watched that type of porn and then strangled a man to death in real life? And how many women have watched porn showing an unconscious partner being fucked and then drugged their partner and fucked him and allowed other women to come and do the same?

See, men just can't be trusted with it.

The internet became a cess pit not long after its creation. It’s a multitude of reasons not just ‘porn’, to think of a few…

#Lack or reduction of cultural norms
#Carefree ‘cool parenting’
#Single mums and the lack of a male role model
#Social media
#Parents with poor IT skills not monitoring mobile and broadband usage

“Just checked and my mobile provider blocks 18+ websites as standard until you ask for it to be unblocked. That's comforting to know”

^ this, is not going to cut it, your child’s mobile phone will get round that in 10 minutes.

@Rav3 — you actually typed the words “Single mums” in your multitude of reasons? Really? Idiot.

Omg not single mums 💀

But as a parent you can report other parents who's children are accesing this content.

Sexualised and sometimes more 'exotic' sexual imagery has existed in the mainstream for as long as I can remember. I recall Film4 broadcasting films with full aroused genitalia and insertion way back in the 90's.

The Chucky films were paraded at one point as turning our children into psychotic little killers. Especially after the Bulger case. Grand Theft Auto likewise. What have both those got in common...they are over 18. It isn't the content that is causing the issue. It is shit parenting.

As I believe a previous poster said, 50 shades was everywhere not long ago. Read and chatted about by majority Women.

You as an adult getting an email saying you can buy a vibrator alongside your thrush cream shouldn't really require pearl clutching. Talk in an adult woman's magazine about sex does not a pervert make. If your children are seeing these, then that is on you. Not anyone else.

Basically OP there's no will at societal (or governmental level) to do anything about it. So we just plod along and pretend/hope it just happens to somebody else.

I can parent my own kids but I can't parent all the boys my daughter is going to meet.

To be honest it always existed since film existed. All that has happened is accessibility. Snuff porn films were investigated at the commencement of the FBI. They were found on cinefilm post world wars.

As soon as men had film they made horrific fantasies for what was then elite sick. Now Joe and Josephine soap can access it on their mobile.

Tv is even getting weird
There are those tv shows where the parents are dating and the kids are watching them make out.
And there was that other one were dads and sons were competing for the same women.
All weirdly voyeuristic. And porn sites love the whole stepdaughter/step mum thing

Single mums made the internet a cess pit?! Please do explain that.

But other parents can report to the police, school, social services etc if a child has shared pornography with schoolfriends. They just choose not to.