To feel slightly suspicious of dp

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Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

No. Because its such a poor cover for being up to no good. Unless you aren't on speaking terms with his parents, it would be so easy for him to be caught out if it was a lie, I doubt anyone with any sense would do it. If he were up to some early morning misdemeanour then it would make more sense to claim to be jogging or at the gym than bring other people into it.

Is anything else happening? Sudden change in appearance or going to the gym. Irritable or more affectionate? Constantly has his phone....

Well, yes I have no relationship with his patents we do not speak. We had a fallen out years ago.....

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A few weeks back he was extremely irritable we were having arguments everyday and now he's quite affectionate , 0 arguments. I don't notice anything else. When he leaves in the morning in his normal clothes he makes sure to put on his £400 watch that I bought him he loves it. But he can't wear this at work due to the nature of his job so I have questioned this in my head too.

It's odd. But - it's a weird time to have an affair. Is he coming home late? Has he changed job and not told you?

I think any sudden change in behaviour can be worrying.

And yes his explanation for the much earlier start and not wearing his work clothes doesn't really make sense.

Has their been any other change in his behaviour? How is your relationship generally?
Edited to say I've just seen your update and yes, it is worrying behaviour.

What time does his father start work? If he was starting earlier than your husband for years maybe he had a word with him about responsibilities and the future? Or maybe your husband is having an early morning rendezvous and picking your fil up afterwards. Time to stick a tracker in his car or follow him.

Does he go to his parents after work too and get changed before coming home?

When my ex started cheating, he was irritable and started arguments about nothing. He also began treating me very disrespectfully.

I think the signs to look out for:

They take their phone everywhere
New interest in appearance
Change in how they treat you
New moves in the bedroom

I'm sure there are more but I'd just keep an eye on things if you have suspicions.

Yes, I would be.

He's hardly leaving himself enough time to brush his teeth, let alone have a shower/wash.

I doubt he's having an affair.

His dad is just as easy going as dp, 9 is the earliest they start. Some days they start at 10. His dad doesn't even work everyday. Sometimes dp comes home and says his dad didn't go to work today because xyz..... and I'm like why do you not ring him the night before to see if you need to collect him? And he's just like "it's easier for me to drive up and see"

Sometimes he does go to his parents after work because he leaves his dad home. He comes home to me in his work clothes

I would find this suspicious, yes. How is he with his phone? Is he taking better care of his appearance than usual?

If the parents are only 5 minutes away and his work place 2 minutes away, can't you follow him or loiter about somewhere to see what's going on?
Also is he definitely still working for them? No falling out, sacking or new job he doesn't want you to know about?

I have thought of this , he's too quick... he always showers before bed so maybe this is too save time in the morning I know really he should shower in the morning too. He drowns himself in spray before he leaves, although he is always been like this.

I’d follow him, secretly.

Was he fired from his job?
Maybe he has a new one and for whatever reason is keeping it from you.

Wouldn't necessarily think affair as it's a bit early isn't it. But it is odd. Could there be anywhere else he's going?

Could he have lost or changed his job?

Still definitely works for them! He comes back very dirty (nature of his job) and if he did lose his job and didn't want to tell me he's not doing a good job as he's making thing's obvious by completely changing his routine.

As the title says.... He would come to my house for an hour before work.

I highly doubt he has lost or changed his job.

Why would his dad fire him?
He comes home in his work clothes and very dirty as his job always leaves him.
Would he not just tell me? We talk to each other about literally everything it's not something I can see him hiding tbh

Have you said to him...how come you're leaving at 6:45 when you don't start work til 9 or 10? Could he be wanting to get to theirs of a morning for some breakfast/cuppa with his parents?