To think that 5 children growing up motherless because their Mum wanted cosmetic surgery is absolutely tragic *edited by MNHQ

[AngeloMysterioso]

And actually a damning indictment of the state our society and the pressure placed on women to conform to increasingly ridiculous and unattainable standards of “beauty”??

A woman in her early-30’s has just died after having a Brazilian butt lift procedure in Gloucestershire, leaving 5 children who will now grow up without their mother. She’s not even the first woman to die after this procedure, which is known to be the most dangerous cosmetic surgery procedure commonly available- just the first to die after having it done in the UK.

What the fuck is going on?? Why are women literally putting their lives on the line trying to mimic some cartoonish Kardashian aesthetic? Is it that we place so little value on our own lives or so much value on appearance? Is it that these surgeries and treatments which were once the preserve of the rich and famous, are now available to pretty much anybody and can be performed by people with next to no qualifications?

I feel so angry for that woman, and desperately sad for her children.

Probably explains why I’m single then… 😒

I’m not the poster you are addressing but I live in an average standard British town. When I look around me most women have different styles. I don’t believe women are all lemmings who buy, wear and do things because they are told to like robots. People might get inspired to do things from others, but because they like it rather than thinking they HAVE TO because society says so.

Some unfortunately aspire to look like clowns and have the fake lips etc, but it’s always down to personal choice. People need to take responsibility for their own actions.

I think that the first reaction should not be to blame "society" and the expectations it puts upon us, but to blame the stupidity and shallowness of the women themselves who go along with it. She knew she had five kids to raise and still chose to take the risk for the sake of a bulbous backside. It's on her really.

I thought western men hate Brazilian buts , but prefer slim, tall, blonde women with some boobs but not bums - blimey

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Women have been practicing body modification for as long as there have been women. Women rotted their faces with lead powder in the tudor times and fainted from corsets in the 1800's. We should hardly be surprised that people risk their health for their looks now too. Very sad all round.

People can only buy what's available to buy unless they make their own clothes. Therefore they're buying what's in 'fashion'.

Women are pressured to look youthful, various creams are advertised that are said to help with this and women buy them.

Women are socialised to wear makeup and to shave body hair.

Women are pressured to look thin and many go on diets.

You can deny all you want that no woman in Britain feels this pressure and I'll show you how much money they hand over to achieve it.

Lots of me are damaging the crap out of themselves with roids etc tho

What tosh.No normal person wants injections in their honey in order to inflate it like a blow up doll.

I described her as acting all female dog, can't remember the exact verb and CBA to look back. Maybe you need to brush up on your reading, not me, if you can't see the subtle difference!!!🙄

I am overweight. A close family member just went abroad and nearly died due to a gastric sleeve. She was "lucky" she made it back to the UK... Let's just say that.
I said similar to my husband...that I'd rather be the "fat mum" than leave my kids without one.
(Though my kids are spurring me on to do it naturally anyway...)

But as I said the ones doing this are doing it because they want to. Personal choice. Not pressure from society.

And the fashion comment only applies if you are the type of person who throws out every item of clothing you own regularly. Most people don’t do that. They add to what they already have, therefore developing a style of their own.

Im a woman and I don’t do a lot of what you have listed.

How can ANYONE look at that "Lip King" guy and his assistant, and come to the conclusion that he is just the person to inject your face/arse.

Such asses have been on black and latina women for years, and yes we've been mocked plenty for them. That's what happens when you don't fit the beauty standard of the time.

Then you're an anomaly. You don't wear makeup, shave, dye your hair, diet, buy clothes from shops or use anti aging products.

My point about fashion is that we have no choice about what's available to buy in the shops, not that people throw out their clothes every season.

You're reducing women into helpless idiots who buy into every trend there is to fit in!! All clothes available are not 'fashion'. I personally prefer to buy what suits me and what is practical. I don't dress for anyone - I like wearing lovely clothes because they make me feel good about myself.

I don't buy 'fast fashion'. I never have and never will. I choose items that are primarily classy, classic and well-cordinated, most importantly that they suit my body shape, but preferably something I'm not going to meet Mary, Jane and Anne wearing down the street.

I wear makeup for the same reason - it makes me feel good about myself. I wear it less often since Covid and the sky hasn't fallen in yet. I wear quite basic makeup compared to my daughters who have a plethora of brushes, lotions, potions, creams, skin enhancers, most of which I haven't even heard of! I don't care!

Although I probably should at my advanced age, I don't use any creams to make me look more youthful. I cleanse and I tone. I don't even moisturise. I have naturally quite good skin.

I haven't been on a diet in so long now I don't even remember. My appetite reduced as I got older and I lost weight naturally.

I hand over very little money for beauty products. Most of it is just a con anyway.

So you can take your stereotype and kiss it goodbye. Women are not all the same and you do us a disservice by claiming that we are!

Not everything in the shops is considered to be high fashion!

I think that then runs the risk of it being even more dangerous as then dodgy underground clinics would just perform these procedures.

There are plans afoot to only allow doctors, nurses and dentists to perform things like botox, which I believe will make it much more safe.

DH and I were saying exactly the same thing today @AngeloMysterioso

What a waste of a young woman's life. And yeah, those poor wee children. Knowing their mama died because of a vanity procedure. Devastating. 😢

I understand that you think the world revolves around you but I wasn't talking about you specifically. I was talking about the pressure in society to conform to certain expectations.

Could you explain why the beauty, diet, fashion and anti aging business are thriving, multi dollar industries? It's a head scratcher since no woman buys into them.

Western men prefer white models? Is that what you're saying? What Western men?

I'm a thin girl with a big booty and boobs and huge curly brown hair. I'm an ex model but not very tall and I have yet to have a man turn me down because I'm a curvy brunette. In fact most men have commented on how nice my ass is.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be happy with how you look although recognising that some current "beauty" standards are always unattainable and should be ignored is necessary. Then there is is the utter dysmorphia that lead this woman into think having fillers put in her backside by unqualified people who have deformed themselves was a good idea.

At least in my youth we realised that few of us were ever going to be catwalk models meeting some impossible "ideal", as cosmetic surgery was only for Hollywood stars and the super rich. We therefore just got on with things with slap and a dodgy perm.

Some of these posts are pretty cruel and in poor taste tbh. @Applesonthelawn

I get irate seeing people who are so plastic and looks obsessed myself. But the lady died, and has kids who don't ever need to hear half of this cruel criticism.

As with many things, the actual level of risk is not clearly understood. Some people believe these beauty practitioners are more capable and all knowing than they are. She was naive and ill informed.

The industry is exploiting people terribly. Look at all these celebs with ridiculous faces. There's a surgeon/ practitioner going along with all this. Some people therefore won't question it. Add something like body dysmorphia into the mix.

I believe she had no clue on earth this could actually happen to her.

It’s so sad. I’m angry that the supposed qualified person who did this still hasn’t removed the before and after of this dead woman from their Facebook page