To think DH should pay for DSC school fees

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Just wanted to get your thoughts on this: would you expect your husband to pay school fees for your children / his step children?

If yes, would you expect his to continue to pay school fees if you separated?

My response would be yes to both.

Youre a family, and therefore everything should be shared equally. If you did separate, you should continue to pay the fees the same way you would for your biological children.

Edit: the same would apply if the genders were reversed.

If I were a hypothetical OP, I would give generously to charity, live a humble life and be a paragon of virtue in all things.

School fees are a parents responsibility not a step parent. Fees should be split between the two bio parents (unless some other arrangement is agreed between the parents). I’m not paying a step child’s school fees and would find it bizarre if anyone thought I would.

That is the job of the biological parents

No to both.

No and no!!!!
What a crazy question!

Then I stand corrected. What happens if the biological parent dies leaving their children in the care of the step-parent? Presumably social services remove them since there is no relationship. NB try marrying your step-daughter - you will need her mother to be dead and will need an act of parliament.

Nope and nope. Unless they where going to adopt them so have a legal responsibility then nope and you’d be an idiot to accept a step paying when they can just walk away and stop paying.

Why ask if you’re going to argue your right?

Not if you're separated!

Absolutely not!

So what happens if mother and stepfather divorce and stepfather finds that he can't afford to purchase a home for himself and also fund private education for his stepchildren? is he expected to move into rented accommodation and use his divorce settlement to fund this private education?

Or step father remarries and has his first biological child. Is he expected to pay for private education for your children when it would mean that he can't afford to pay for private education for his own child?

Why aren't you looking to the children's biological father to fund their education?

Has to be a reverse, surely?

Just to add, why do you think child should go to a private school ? What's wrong with a state school? Fine if you or child's biological father can afford it, but if not why should some other poor f**r have to pay?
Do you think you're too posh for a state school? Obvs not if your expecting some one else to psy. Iam astounded at the cheeky fuckery of this!!

Absolutely not

They are not his children so why should he pay for them

Although a step parent may have some duty to pay for step children while he is with their mother I think that any obligation once they have separated would be the bare minimum and not include expensive school
fees when there is a perfectly acceptable free alternative.

Yes, to the first because you are a family. Blended but family.
No, to the second because once the family bond is broken its over.

According to who?

My dad's other kids with other women are not my family. My stepdad is not my family. I don't view any of them as such.

Nope. I have never contributed towards DSC school fees. I contribute towards my own only. They are for their parents to support

Family means what we choose it to mean. Lots of people love their in-laws like their own parents - others consider them purely the relation of their spouse and nothing to do with themselves. Same in step family situations, hence all the controversy about how much/little responsibility step parents should have for childcare etc, the argument over whether grandparents should view step dc as 'proper' grandchildren.

I think a biological parent would be mad to rely on step parent financing school unless the relationship is really really solid or the money has been put in some kind of separate trust which cannot be taken back. If the relationship is shaky or the step parent isn't the type to view the kids as theirs, it is putting the children's security at risk.
Step parents aren't exactly the same as parents and as the actual parent the children are ultimately your responsibility - you have to always think ahead and make the best possible choices for them because in the end the buck stops with you.

My DD has a stepdad and no I wouldn’t expect this, certainly not after we separate. The onus is on me to pay for things for DD - school trips, clothes, pocket money etc. DP does pay for some of this stuff or goes halves without being asked, which I appreciate but don’t expect. If we did split up I’m sure he would continue to have a relationship with DD as he loves her and she loves him, but I certainly wouldn’t expect him to continue to contribute financially to anything. I think that’s very rare that a stepparent separated from their partner would.

This. Or OP, you could earn your own money. Just a thought. I doubt this is a hypothetical either.

Yes, to the first because you are a family.

No one I know does that...
Where is the father? Why isn't he contributing?

Christ. Absolutely not.

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It's purely a hypothetical

I'm not sure if that's the case, but maybe it is. It's a strange post, but as the polls show, you got roasted.