Personally I think it's dangerous to minimise and dismiss an adult man shouting and cursing at two girls he's a step father to in their home, and pushing one of them by the shoulder; because he's lost his temper due to a tantrum & being scraped by his toddler.
They were doing nothing particularly out of order or strange for children by laughing.
They've clearly had to deal with quite a bit; breakdown of their parents relationship & household, new household, new man who's become their step father, new half sibling who hits them and has significant tantrums.
(And one wonders what the situation is in their other parent's household).
God forbid they should act like children.
Even if they've been talked to before about not standing around laughing at their little sister's tantrums, the above is NOT the way to deal with it.
And now there's an apology and some sweets from Step Dad ..... after he prioritised doing his work out at the gym of course.
What's he doing to improve his emotional regulation and behaviour under stres, ongoing? Looks like "let's all move on", until the next time.
Very healthy lessons for girls. And people wonder why women get into and stay in abusive relationships.
Is the op abusive for giving him the silent treatment? Someone not wanting to talk to someone else after the incident above is understandable, not abusive.
She is clearly distressed and floundering a bit.
This thread has attracted some of the most "interesting posters" on MN.
So confident saying they would shout at and push around children in those circumstances too ....
well then, you're a shit person and a shit parent.
And you deserve to be pushed around by them when they're big enough, since that's the bar you set.