too fussy about my blind date's shoes???

[VinegarTits]

Went on a blind date on Friday night, nice looking guy, tall (6 ft 6) and handsome in a rough looking way, we got on very well and he liked me a lot, in fact he told me yesterday in a phone conversation, that when he saw me come across the pub car park he was blown away! but i didnt like his shoes and its really putting me off him....

In my effort to not let this affect my perception of him, i agreed to go out with him again yesterday for lunch, in hope he would be wearing better shoes.....

His shoes were not as bad this time, but not great either, and i didnt like his t-shirt...wtf is wrong with me, i know IABU, why am i being so fussy when i cant afford to at my age!

Can i take him shopping for new shoes??

Vinegar - This post made me laugh out load, because I met my husband on a blind date and he had the most hideous outfit on you have ever seen!!!

He arrived at Victoria station wearing a resonable long sleeved pale blue t-shirt AND extremely baggy chinos (the ones from the 80's)! BUT THE WORST OF ALL some oxblood red broques, which I couldn't take my eyes off the whole time, he really didn't have a clue!

We had the most fantastic day, I knew I was going to see him again, he moved in 8 weeks later and now we have been married for five years and have a baby girl!

It took me precisely 6 weeks to change his wardrobe and those dreadful shoes, I just happened to buy him a pair of shoes as a present one day and he loved them, just had the HiTec trainers to get rid of then!! He got a pair of Reeboks for his birthday and we were sorted! And now he is the biggest fashion victim going, he loves his trendy clothes!

Don't dis the guy cos of his shoes, he may be the one and shoes can be changed! Plus at 6'6 he sounds divine!

Hope things work out for you!

lol nbn. Willow - so there is hope for him. Have agreed to see him again tomorrow night. It will be a make or break date, if he hasnt dramatically improved his dress sense and bought a clean hankie it will be our last date.....will keep you informed

Hope it goes well VT, I'm LOVING this thread! I hope he's decided to toe the line, that you're well heeled and you get some hanky panky not a manky hanky x

Well I've just spent an age reading this whole thread and what I need to know is... why are doodle's posts all removed?

lol..themoon66...thats what i'm wondering!

Did you find out why doodles posts have gone?

Her messages have been deleted on other threads too...very strange, and making me even more curious

themmj

is she ok?

I do agree that all these things are peripheral but if you really liked him you almost certainly wouldn't have noticed the shoes etc on the first date.

When I met dh I just thought he looked nice and I remember thinking something a bit stronger when I looked in his eyes - some thing along the lines of phwoar!!.

It wasn't really until date 3 that I noticed all of the following

He was wearing trousers that were torn
He was wearing very scruffy cheap trainers

When I saw where he lived I asked where his mop was (as a joke on seeing his kitchen floor), he seriously replied - I'm not sure I've only been here 6 months!!

I'm sure the toilet wasn't too clean either.

He wore shorts with sandals and black socks on our 5th date - I kid you not!! -

Luckily for him (and me) we had slept together by then and nothing was going to stop me doing that again - black socks and sandals or no!

Though his wardrobe is a lot better now because I've insisted, it certainly would not pass the test of a lot of women on mn and never will.

What can I say I love him and wouldn't have him any other way now.

As for the idea that scruffy/pale /unshined shoes show a lack of self-respect and low sex drive, I am p**ing myself at the though of that applying to dh.

Low sex drivge is not something anyone could accuse him of and as for self-respect, this has nothing to do with it, he just genuinely has no idea why anyone would be interested in that stuff.

Tonight...going out with him again tonight, although i am having doubts about it, i think i need to do it to convince me that seeing him again was a mistake iyswim

Your right, but dont worry i wont settle for a minger, im way to fussy, he just texted me to say he has tickets for the comdey club including a meal, so he is making an effort at least, it would be rude to pull out now wouldnt it?

I just know im going to get 'i told you so' from you tomorrow tmmj, i actually feel quite bad that i have dissapointed you

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ok, big big mistake going out with him again, huge mistake. Will never ignore your good advice again tmmj