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too fussy about my blind date's shoes???

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VinegarTits · 21/04/2008 09:37

Went on a blind date on Friday night, nice looking guy, tall (6 ft 6) and handsome in a rough looking way, we got on very well and he liked me a lot, in fact he told me yesterday in a phone conversation, that when he saw me come across the pub car park he was blown away! but i didnt like his shoes and its really putting me off him....

In my effort to not let this affect my perception of him, i agreed to go out with him again yesterday for lunch, in hope he would be wearing better shoes.....

His shoes were not as bad this time, but not great either, and i didnt like his t-shirt...wtf is wrong with me, i know IABU, why am i being so fussy when i cant afford to at my age!

Can i take him shopping for new shoes??

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DoodleToYou · 21/04/2008 12:45

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mousemole · 21/04/2008 12:47

Bad shoes are a no no. Especially cheap bad shoes.

Sidge · 21/04/2008 12:53

VinegarTits you are a hard woman to please.

I think you need to date this man

Flibbertyjibbet · 21/04/2008 12:55

A bit like Brocolli -
When I was in the 'blind date years' I noticed everything from shoes to whether they'd had a shave or not. I usually didn't see them again and was continually accused by the people who set up these dates, of being 'too fussy'.

Then I met dp on a blind date. The first moment I set eyes on him I just thought 'oooooohhhhh he's nice' and noticed NOTHING ELSE.

Not even the fact, until date 4, that he had thinning hair and wore the rest tied back in a pony tail. Honest I didn't notice and thats why I'm on this thread to say to you that if you LIKED him you would not have noticed the shoes etc.

Two kids and 9 years later he could wear a bin liner and shoe boxes on his feet but I wouldn't notice as long as he's here and just being himself.

Don't see him again, your 'ooooohhhhh he's nice' moment still awaits you but not if you are on the arm of Mr grubby shoes/snotty hanky/dirty car.

themildmanneredjanitor · 21/04/2008 13:00

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Fimbo · 21/04/2008 13:09

I was actually feeling sorry for the poor guy until I saw the shoes/gold chain.

Bin him at once.

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VinegarTits · 21/04/2008 13:15

Thanks, you lot have certainly helped me make my mind up about if i am going to see him again....now just need to think how i am going to break the bad news to him next time he calls me

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Flibbertyjibbet · 21/04/2008 13:23

Just keep being evasive/too busy etc for any arrangements that he tries to make.
Always worked for me - apart from the one that turned into a stalker who was a bit harder to shake off. (Sorry!!)

Me I am only wise on relationship things because I learned from sooooooo many mistakes

TenaciousG · 21/04/2008 13:24

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Monkeytrousers · 21/04/2008 13:26

Oh get to know him a bit more - see his house. he might just be a bohemian type.

You can alwasy dump later

Flibbertyjibbet · 21/04/2008 13:30

What more about him do you need to know???? Dirty shoes, skanky hanky, dirty car, dirty home...

Sorry but no willy would be big enough for me to compromise on those other things!

Btw its not the fact that he HAD a hanky thats bothering me so much as - he had a runny nose - eeeewwwwwww

themildmanneredjanitor · 21/04/2008 13:43

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Monkeytrousers · 21/04/2008 13:56

omg, just read about the loo. Dump him - and tell him!

WinkyWinkola · 21/04/2008 14:53

The picture is much more detailed now. He's definitely not the one for you, OP. Or anyone?

TheDevilWearsPenneys · 21/04/2008 15:02

There's no pictures of you on your profile, so I can't decide to point and laugh or not.

WHAT a sweety though! I want to kiss her cheeks!

A very merry unbirthday.

TheDevilWearsPenneys · 21/04/2008 15:03

Wrong thread! Gah I hate that.

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VinegarTits · 21/04/2008 15:18

Phew! glad it was the wrong thread. i though for a minute you wanted to see what i looked like so you could laugh at me and my bad tatse in blind dates!

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GetOrfMoiLand · 22/04/2008 12:55

Skiddy toilet woul be the deal breaker for me. That and the used hanky (who in the name of moses uses handkerchiefs in this day and age (other than my Uncle Terry).

VinegarTits - I presume that you haven't seen his underwear. What is it likely to be:

Yellow nylon y-fronts with brown elastic waistband - step away immediately

Baggy old boxers - hmm, same as the shoes

G string a la Peter Stringfellow - frightening

Normal, clean, Calvin Klein style pants - OK

No underwear - have to thing about the hygiene perspective

What if he has skids in his pants as well as the loo???

Nighbynight · 22/04/2008 20:42

oh god I have just read the rest of the thread! agree, skid marks in the loo would be a killer.
Its not much to expect from a 39 yr old, that he knows what a toilet brush is for!

zippitippitoes · 22/04/2008 20:53

well you lot are quite harsh this guy sounds just like me except he is younger and he has a bad toilet

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VinegarTits · 23/04/2008 12:47

Do you use a manky hanky too zippi? please buy a clean one, and dont blow your nose over lunch

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Nighbynight · 23/04/2008 21:00

...or VinegarTits wont go on a second date with you

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