Do you care what your Partner does for a Living?

[Aquarius1234]

Do you or would you care what your partner / boyfriend/ girlfriend does for a living?

I don't and I'm in late 30s. I probably was judgemental in 20s. For no reason, just false assumption, like thinking trades people earnt low money, which isn't true.

Another example, someone might be embarrassed if their boyfriend was a bin man or bus driver.

Once you have the initial conversation s out the way, I don't think it matters at all.
It's not like your going to work with them.
(If you are that's another conversation)

Nope. DH does a manual job and I love that it keeps him fit, like a free gym 🤣 at one point he didn't work while he looked after the kids and I worked. Loved that too.

Nope it doesn't bother me.When we met DH fit car alarms for a living. Now nearly 30 years later he is CTO at a large international web hosting business. He is more stressed now which I don't love but he doesn't hate his job and he likes the money so swings and roundabouts! I don't feel any differently about him now than I did then - whatever he does he works hard which I do like as I don't find laziness or lack of ambition attractive.

No but I gave my school sweetheart up because he wasn't ambitious

Not really about high pay but someone who wasn't intelligent with a bit of drive, wouldn't really do it for me.

So would it be OK for our partners to not be happy with what do? For the woman that chose to work that is and not go the man is a plan route

Ambitious is funny word. I don't particularly use it. Can be mis leading.
Men use it about women they want to date but nearly always it's about money.

That's an interesting one! They'd have to be a bit mad scientist, I reckon. Maybe a bit Dr. Frankenstein. I'm crap at maths and science stuff, so they'd need to really make it interesting. 😂

Yes men do judge. PP mentioned online dating. Man wanting a minimum salary or masters degree etc before entering a relationship..

We met at university so I didn't know how he'd do in his career, but I liked that he was ambitious and wanted to earn well. I wouldn't have been attracted to someone who wasn't like that. We'd both grown up without much money and wanted better lives.

So yes, I suppose if mattered.

I can understand this, why world you want another dependent person? But apart from this consideration, I can't see why anyone would care.

I’ve split up with loads of people because they didn’t like what I did for a living! (Doctor, they wanted a wifey)

I don't care about pay at all, but I would avoid certain jobs. Anything that involved working incredibly long hours, because I don't see the point in being in a relationship with someone that you barely ever see. I also wouldn't date a politician because the majority of them are liars, or a chef because I spent years working in pubs and most of them were grumpy bastards with alcohol issues.

Yes, everyone is allowed a preference. I wouldn't care if someone didn't want to date me because of my job.

There are some professions I just blanket wouldn’t get involved with. It would have to be an exceptional circumstance to change the way I feel about that. Military, police, any of the armed forces, any profession which meant staying away from home for long or frequent periods or working late hours.

I do care about pay, but I care about pay for myself too. Pay wouldn’t necessarily be a dealbreaker like the above would however.

Yes this. Someone who is really good at what they do and cares about it.

I would not completely mind what it is but there are some things I would find off putting. Advertising or politics. I like people to be straightforward!

Don't think I would be looking again if things went wrong with DH though so it's hypothetical.

I have always said I respect anyone’s job provided that they have one (or are currently unemployed through redundancy and actively looking for work/in full time studies/retired/caring for a very sick or very disabled relative - think I have covered all acceptable exceptions)

Me too!

I once dated a very lazy man who had a very low skilled job and took every possible opportunity to dodge his responsibilities at work. It used to irritate me beyond endurance. Such a turn off.

Dh earns significantly less than me but is hard working and intelligent and productive. It's not the money that's the issue it's the work ethic.

I do care, to be honest. I prefer to be with a man who is more or less on my level in terms of intelligence, values, ambition, etc, and while I'm not particularly high-flying, I want someone who is motivated to earn a decent living, within his abilities. On the other hand, I wouldn't want a man who was snobbish about the importance of his job or would rather spend every moment working instead of having a more balanced life.

His job isn't the most important thing, but I would find it unattractive if a man was too easily satisfied with a job that didn't provide well for his family when he could exert himself a bit more and be a better earner. It's more about the practicalities of earning potential than a high-status title, for me.

Of course MN care about profession, you can't have the commoners mixing with the upper class you know.

I care about certain aspects. I want him to work to his best ability. I want his job to be reasonably ethical.

Hope you told them to shove it up their ass!

Yes. Had a lovely boyfriend when I was 16 but really struggled to get over the fact that he worked as an undertaker. Had to end things when physicality was on the horizon. Couldn’t get beyond it.

Same here, too.

That's quite specific.