Do you care what your Partner does for a Living?

[Aquarius1234]

Do you or would you care what your partner / boyfriend/ girlfriend does for a living?

I don't and I'm in late 30s. I probably was judgemental in 20s. For no reason, just false assumption, like thinking trades people earnt low money, which isn't true.

Another example, someone might be embarrassed if their boyfriend was a bin man or bus driver.

Once you have the initial conversation s out the way, I don't think it matters at all.
It's not like your going to work with them.
(If you are that's another conversation)

I care. I wouldn’t be with

• drug dealer/ not even if a cartel boss with millions
• arms dealer
• mercenary
• assassin

anyone who regularly kills people as part of their job,

I mean I wouldn't ever want to be in a relationship with someone who was a bailiff/traffic warden/police.

Agree!

I’ve done the whole marrying ( and divorcing) someone who flitted from one low paid job to another while ‘finding himself’. Lived off me for years. Costs a fortune to divorce ( all ‘my’ assets were ours and he had fa!)

after that experience, I’d never consider someone who wasn’t financially secure.

and it’s not just about the potential drain on you. It says a lot about someone’s work ethic, self respect and values if they have a job they work hard in. I’d say it’s less about the actual job ( or even the pay) but more about what it says about the person

Sort of. I think it's attractive if they have passion and enjoy what they do. There's something about being a go-getter that I like. I think it's more about having a zest for life, not really about salary.

Tbf - OLD may be a shitshow, but even there you’d struggle to find many assassins 😆

drug dealers on the other hand…

I'd care if he was arms dealer, yes.

There’s loads of assassins on dating sites surely? What other jobs do all the men do who say they work ‘in the military’ or ‘in the government’ but it’s top secret and they can’t tell you want they do and it also stops them answering calls and texts sometimes, usually evening and weekends? 🤔 😂

😀

I absolutely care what DH does for a living. Surely anyone with half a brain has some limits. Tory politician, contract killer, people trafficker?

And my FIL is a retired binman— he is dealing on a daily basis with the longterm painful physical damage caused by hefting metal bins in the days before wheeliebins. It’s not a job I’d wish on anyone (though I’m assuming physical conditions are far better now.)

Sanitary bins, definitely niche eh

No I looked for a loving partner never cared what job as long as he wasn’t stood there with his hand out.

Saying that I wouldn’t want a heavily orientated career man, find that a turn off as I wanted a man who prioritised family not his job over his family.

I wouldn't mind in terms of the things you have mentioned OP, which seem to be differentiating between what used to be known as 'blue collar' and 'white collar' jobs.
But it is important to me they have a good work ethic.
It is important it is legal - so no drug dealing, running brothels, people trafficking etc.
In truth I wouldn't be keen on being with someone in the armed forces who was constantly having to be posted to different places.

As long as he's not selling his arsehole it's up to him what he does.

Well Indeed. No thanks.

I want him to wake up happy to go to said job, have job satisfaction while he's there, and come home happy he's done a good job. I don't care what that job is, I just care he's happy in it.

Logistically I care that, between us, the bills are paid but I'd happily cut my cloth if his heart was in a lower paying position than his current role

I care that someone has enough get up and go to get the job they want. I also care that I’m supported enough financially to take maternity leave to look after all 3 children.
i wouldn’t have married someone that I didn’t see potential in (we were young and both on lowish salaries at the time). I would not want to be with someone that don’t have enough drive to try and achieve their ambitions.
If he were desperate to try something new, I would support him through it, even if it wasn’t as well paid, but there would have to be some give in family dynamics for him to support kids/home more.
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Fair point! 😂

I respect you for accepting shorties. All the tiktok girlie's don't go under 6'5.

As long as he’s happy and contributing financially I don’t care.

Not what they do so much as what they earn.

I'm not picking struggle and I'm not supporting a man.

If we get married and he falls ill or disabled we'll figure it out, but I'm not starting at broke. I've experienced struggling on my own and don't feel the need to experience it accompanied.

When I was on the look-out for husband number 2, I genuinely didn't care what they did for a living or how much they earned, I just wanted to find somebody who wasn't an arse.

It definitely matters for me. As does salary/salary potential. Wouldn't be embarrassed to date a bin man or a trade. Would love that. However I can't say that profession doesn't matter.

I genuinely don’t understand why you’d be embarrassed for your partner to be a bin man or bus driver. Why are those embarrassing jobs? They’re always going to be needed, steady work, possible flexible shifts and contributing to society.

I’d be embarrassed if my partner was a politician with unpleasant views, but imo the jobs you’ve cited are decent honest jobs so I don’t get it!

Hmm. When dating, I cared that they were driven and had a work ethic, with a career ahead of them. I wanted to be with someone who was in some way related to my field of work, because I'd briefly dated people who just had no interest, and it felt rubbish. It's a passion as well as a career for me. So, as snobby as it might sound, they needed to be intellectual and academic/creative. I had future plans and didn't want to be with someone who wasn't interested in coming on an "adventure" with me (and me with them!).

So I suppose I was a bit fussy really. DH whirled in and ticked all the boxes.

Funeral director is a no for me actually.
Oh and nursery assistant/ clown.

I don’t care so much what they do (as long as it’s legal and doesn’t negatively impact my family life). But I need someone who commits to a job. When the going gets tough will they drag themselves out of bed and get to work? Will they quit their job because someone pissed them off? I need stability in my life. My I don’t have any job snobbery and find it funny when I see people look down on my husband because he’s a tradesman; he’s out-earned me for most of our twenty years together.