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Original poster

To ask how long can you all keep it tight before you need a blow out?

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Coatsoff42 · 18/09/2024 22:44

Only because after a whole Sumer of keeping it tight and responsible and the return to school stuff I am ready to drop the plough and cut loose. It feels like long enough.

An I unreasonable to say there is a limit on how long you can be good and work hard before you go mad?

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CanYouHearThatNoise · 20/09/2024 07:44

Eh????

MrsBobtonTrent · 20/09/2024 09:45

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 20/09/2024 01:49

I want to go out dancing. But I can't because society has decided I'm too old. My friends are all boring farts too so if we go for a meal they are yawning at 10pm. I wish there was an early night club for over 40s where it's acceptable to turn up alone just to dance. And plays contemporary chart stuff too.

There are loads of daytime nightclubs about now. Some of them tour about so google your area. I haven't been to one, but am intrigued to try it if I can find a date/location that works.

StolenChanel · 20/09/2024 09:46

Coatsoff42 · 18/09/2024 23:51

@Demonhunter
im going to start my own cult but call it a book club. Get to another town and cause havoc every now and then. Dress up like mermaids or mountaineers or pirates. Sing and shout and cry and dance.

how can I find anyone to join, I think everyone is happy with the grind? I was wondering if generally people are happy with their status quo. People seem very calm.

This sounds like a cult I could get on board with.

StolenChanel · 20/09/2024 09:47

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 20/09/2024 01:49

I want to go out dancing. But I can't because society has decided I'm too old. My friends are all boring farts too so if we go for a meal they are yawning at 10pm. I wish there was an early night club for over 40s where it's acceptable to turn up alone just to dance. And plays contemporary chart stuff too.

This is what bottomless brunches and day parties are for!

mamaandbabas · 20/09/2024 18:15

I felt like this last week, a fantastic lunch and drinks with my big sis put me out of my misery.... Get out there do what you need to do to get ur mojo back

Beautifulweeds · 20/09/2024 19:16

Just get yourself out then? Arrange a night out, meet up and go for it! X

Beautifulweeds · 20/09/2024 19:18

Coatsoff42 · 19/09/2024 00:19

@Lifeomars yes but does everyone else feel like breaking out, or is everyone else content is probably the question.

Oh yes! Not as much now but when I was younger I needed to get out and have some real fun with my friends.

Itabsolutelyispossible · 20/09/2024 19:19

Try Genki.

WinterFrog · 20/09/2024 19:27

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 20/09/2024 01:49

I want to go out dancing. But I can't because society has decided I'm too old. My friends are all boring farts too so if we go for a meal they are yawning at 10pm. I wish there was an early night club for over 40s where it's acceptable to turn up alone just to dance. And plays contemporary chart stuff too.

You need this thread!
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5168614-to-go-to-a-rave-on-my-own?page=1

To go to a rave on my own? | Mumsnet

I've called it a rave as its literally going to be a rave - its the Prodigy!! The support acts are brill on their own merit. It's a very late finish....

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5168614-to-go-to-a-rave-on-my-own?page=1

unsync · 20/09/2024 19:27

Judging by some of the threads here, I suspect some people cut loose on here. Not quite what you mean though, you want to get shit faced, cry havoc and let slip the dogs of war - that kind of thing?

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 20/09/2024 19:36

It’s all work and then a very photogenic holiday with massive expectations.

I get the work bit - but your holidays shouldn't all be like that. Obviously if you have young children you can't completely relax when you're away with them - but why the massive expectations?

Have you got friends where you can have a weekend away - a mini hen-night type thing without the wedding? Or just have a few cocktails and go clubbing ?

Original poster
Coatsoff42 · 20/09/2024 20:22

Itabsolutelyispossible · 20/09/2024 19:19

Try Genki.

I might google this but I am slightly nervous.

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Coatsoff42 · 20/09/2024 20:27

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 20/09/2024 19:36

It’s all work and then a very photogenic holiday with massive expectations.

I get the work bit - but your holidays shouldn't all be like that. Obviously if you have young children you can't completely relax when you're away with them - but why the massive expectations?

Have you got friends where you can have a weekend away - a mini hen-night type thing without the wedding? Or just have a few cocktails and go clubbing ?

I had a lovely holiday that was very active with the kids, not so much cut loose as discuss eating fruit and vegetables and apply sunscreen.

I don’t think a hen night will cut it, I want to absolutely scream at the stars and dance in ecstasy and spin in circles until I fall over. Like just completely go off. Shout awful swear words. That sort of thing.

Hen parties are super judgey and documented.

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Notmollybutdolly · 20/09/2024 20:53

I get it!! I get out my nut every 6 months or so and dance and smoke and be wild and talk to every single person in the club and make up weird stories about myself xxx

WinterFrog · 20/09/2024 20:59

Coatsoff42 · 20/09/2024 20:27

I had a lovely holiday that was very active with the kids, not so much cut loose as discuss eating fruit and vegetables and apply sunscreen.

I don’t think a hen night will cut it, I want to absolutely scream at the stars and dance in ecstasy and spin in circles until I fall over. Like just completely go off. Shout awful swear words. That sort of thing.

Hen parties are super judgey and documented.

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I definitely think you need to dance around a fire or something!

RamonaRamirez · 20/09/2024 21:29

@Coatsoff42 you should go to a nice metal gig

No, seriously, do that. I’ll come too

it’s therapeutic

anxioussister · 20/09/2024 21:42

Totally understand this. After after three week of PTA and parent rep meetings, bed times, reading practice, piano practice, homework, batches of overnight oats + ironing school uniform I get itchy…

Then I go and drink a too much wine with my favourite former-party-girls-turned-pretend-grown-up-school-mums - sometimes it’s on a sofa, sometimes we go out and dance on tables. Then we wake up and feel hideous and swear we’ll be grown up forever now. And we are for a while - but then we start itching again... Everyone’s tolerance cycle is different - I think I have to go and be silly about once every 6-8 weeks - and if I don’t then DH sends me because I get disorganised and grumpy…

PinkStingray · 20/09/2024 22:57

I put loud music and dance around the house.
Weight lifting also helps, nothing like doing some squats with heavy weights to spend some pent up energy.

ClassyJen · 20/09/2024 23:17

I feel what you really need is an invite to a traditional brandy-fuelled gypsy party, with whirling dancing around a fire, increasingly pacy folk violins, top hats, full skirts, bare feet barking dogs, piebald ponies and an old man cleaning a pistol. Or just google local wetherspoons.

AtLeastMyCatLikesMe · 20/09/2024 23:23

Coatsoff42 · 19/09/2024 07:55

I do have a DH, he is very content in his life and does not feel any need to cut loose. And my friends seem happy enough with a couple of glasses of wine and a catch up.

But I feel like I want to go to a rave, or a carnival, or be a whirling dervish and get out of my head and stop worrying about being a good parent and nice person all the time.

I totally get what you’re saying! I feel the same. Would love an opportunity to go a bit wild. But there don’t seem to be any after a certain age.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 20/09/2024 23:34

Hen parties are super judgey and documented.

I just meant go out with your mates, have a few drinks and a laugh . Sounds like you need some new friends, or possibly a different view on life in general . That's twice you've referred to your life being photographed/documented. It all sounds a little too inauthentic.

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Coatsoff42 · 20/09/2024 23:41

@ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea
maybe, I do really like my friends, they are all very happy with a more low key social life, that’s why I asked here.

I don’t like the idea of going mad on the dancefloor and someone filming it. Thats a bit of a spontaneity crusher.
Hen parties in general are a real mixed bag of who’s invited.

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AnOldCynic · 21/09/2024 00:05

@Coatsoff42 can I come?

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Coatsoff42 · 21/09/2024 00:08

AnOldCynic · 21/09/2024 00:05

@Coatsoff42 can I come?

Hell yes!

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Soosi · 21/09/2024 01:09

I am so with you on that coatsoff42. Hope you get the chance.