To ask how long can you all keep it tight before you need a blow out?

[Coatsoff42]

Only because after a whole Sumer of keeping it tight and responsible and the return to school stuff I am ready to drop the plough and cut loose. It feels like long enough.

An I unreasonable to say there is a limit on how long you can be good and work hard before you go mad?

For the 100th time in my life, I wish I could lose myself in dance or music. I envy those who can! Glad you enjoyed yourself.

I'm the worst dancer and I am usually so self conscious I never ever dance, I don't know what it was about that night but I just completely let loose!

Highly recommend sticking some headphones on and doing this, even if you have to drive far away from where you live if you don't want to get spotted, it's so freeing. Obviously wouldn't recommend anywhere too secluded with headphones on though.

Such nonsense 😂 you have to opportunity to go wild any time - get DH or if single a babysitter and go out with your mates. It’s not a “mums don’t have any opportunity” thing at all and is ridiculous to say so 🙄

From the title, I thought you were talking about holding in a fart while in front of the vicar/elderly aunts/new boyfriend and couldn't wait to let it rip.

A few years ago on an early weekend day out to a local museum there was a woman, maybe early mid 20s roller skating with headphones on, dancing on the plaza outside the museum, free as a bird, not giving one shit what anyone thought of her. I think that’s what you’re after, it’s not about nights out it’s finding those spaces to just cut loose with confidence on your own.

24 years and counting here. Nearly done DCs are 17 & 20. Planning on cutting hours and cutting loose in 8 years time.

I hear you, I'm in.

I hear this!
It’s the constant thinking about and for everyone else, and being stable and reasonable so that our world continues more or less in tact that tips the day to day into a grind sometimes.

I’d love to have a big tantrum and then a big nap, sprawled anywhere I fancy. I would then waken and go a-roving and do whatever I wanted and fuck the consequences 🤗

Then would return and make sure everyone has done their homework and we’re all eating enough high quality protein and that three generations of people are all safe and nurtured and socially responsible. Whilst not swearing loudly.

Have you considered hiring a babysitter and then going down the pub?

Fantastically well put

I think Butlins in Clacton has whole weekends dedicated to nutso religious ceremonies.

Ngl I thought you were referring to bumholes.

Do it. Do it. Do it.

If you need some you time, enjoy it. Go out out. With gin.

Come to Germany - it is Oktoberfest season! 👀🍻

Actually the Germans are really quite good at having a number of different village -piss ups- festivals spaced throughout the year. So no one has to work too long before the next opportunity to dress up and go a bit bonkers!

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I think this is why I like rollercoasters.

Hurtling towards the ground at 60mph is a real removal from the real world.

Only you can change your life

if your not happy do something about it

i hate normal day to day life so don’t do it

we packed up and left with our kids for months to travel it’s bliss

I totally get it 💯 I was going to post Queen ‘I want to break free’ too!

I always try and be professional at work and a reasonably sensible parent to my now grown up DC. They see me having a laugh and getting tipsy but cringe if I get a bit wild. A few things I’ve done that I’ve loved and been surrounded, mostly, by like minded people are the adult weekends at Butlins and the Day Fever events all round the country 🙌 lots of people of a similar age having a real break from the sensible ness of day to day life.

If it’s something more spiritual you fancy what about booking one of the festivals next summer. Especially the ones that have a retreat vibe. A friend goes to the Big Retreat in Wales and another to Fearne Cottons one.

I did exactly this on occasion when my children were young. They're quite well rounded individual as adults ( well no worse than me anyway!)
I say go for it @Coatsoff42!! Or how about a gong bath or a good old pagan festival?

I hear you OP.
I love the sound of the solo drunk beach evening.
I do go clubbing in our city about 5 times a year with regular pub/party/nights out in addition.
My dc are 13 and 15 but done this since they were born. Didn't think it was unusual tbh.

I actually know what you mean! I don't need to go wild though, I reach a point where I need to do something that involves no thought or responsibility, just enjoyment. Might be an evening out with a friend (or better yet, a weekend away), not quite at the needing to start a cult point (yet!).

Well it’s mn I’m surprised no one has suggested a spa day or highlights,panacea for all malaise. Apparently
Medieval apprentice’s used to get totally munted on shrove Tuesday. Fight,brawl,and have a mad one.

I knew exactly what you meant in your OP. Not sure what the answer is. Maybe it's having a little me time each day or maybe a blow out every few weeks. This is what nights out with friends are for. Do you have a partner ?

Can I join ?

You are speaking as if some unnamed force is dictating your life to you.

If you want a crazy festival with lots of dancing then get your mates together and arrange it.

You can do what you want in your free time.

You need to find six friends, steal a goat and laundry cart and go rampaging through the local villages…