To ask how long can you all keep it tight before you need a blow out?

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Only because after a whole Sumer of keeping it tight and responsible and the return to school stuff I am ready to drop the plough and cut loose. It feels like long enough.

An I unreasonable to say there is a limit on how long you can be good and work hard before you go mad?

I think a lot of mums feel this way sometimes (i know myself and friends do).
I always find a trip to a theme park helps (Disney etc) to release some of the adrenalin i'm searching for.
I have another friend who goes to remote mountains and eats some shrooms! that's her release
And in case you're looking for something truly wild, there's always burning man...

Whitby hold a weekend every year where everyone dresses up as Johnny Depp in Pirates of the Caribbean. We didn't know this . Bit of a surprise to walk round a corner in the beautiful harbour and be confronted by 100 pirate Jacks.

I've had a significant birthday this year and been to lots of parties. I have so loved dancing again and feel like it's something we all need to do more of. Have organised with some friends to go clubbing. There's quite a few that start in the afternoon and are over by 10 which sound very reasonable while still ticking the box.

Afuckingmen to that
I am very responsible. Responsible for self. Responsible for job & colleagues. Responsibility coming out my pores. Composed and reliable. Go to person Blah blah. But I’m also a contrarian at heart
So, 1-2 time a year take AL sort the kids and I have a mad one, hang out with dp and mates, socialise til wee hours,eat junk food, go to bars in afternoon leave at silly o’clock, go to graveyards for a spooky walk, argue about politics. I need that vent. Its mine and I treasure it

I haven't got kids but have NEVER worried about being a nice person.

I let my dc run feral all summer, go barefoot, scavenge for food in the cupboards, stay up as late as they please. It’s the time to shave heads, game for 36 hours straight and wear whatever feels comfy, Learned the value of pulling back from society during lockdown. It makes it easier for all of us to mask up during term time. I don’t think the odd medieval festival would be enough for me.

Having a big walk, dancing in the moonlight, pramcing round the house dressed as a devil or a camel are all easy enough to do when with kids. Why don't you, and what stops you from going out raving too? We have a mum group that does a something every month or two; might be sedate pub or unsedate clubbing, other times a couple bring the kids and we pile them all into DS bed while we party downstairs. DH and I get a night out every 3-6 months or so to go wild. There are options if you look for them. We had a kid later so had done most of our travel and partying, maybe it's harder for younger mums who didn't get the chance to live before kids.

Approx every 4 months for me.

I start to feel frustrated, can't sleep well, everything just pisses me off. That's when I know I need to book some time off work and blow off some steam.

I'm almost there. 3 more weeks until my break - woohoo!!!

Great thread, OP. Everyone needs some time off sometimes. I remember when DCs were small, being asked what I would really like to do, just for myself. I honestly didn't know. It was so long since I had put myself first. It was several years before I could think of an answer to that question. It sounds as if you have an idea of what you want & need on your time off. Go for it, you have earned it & you deserve it.

Yes, we get advised to have a glass of wine and a natter, or go on a spa day. Sedate yourselves more, mothers

Those things have their place, and are nice for calming down, but not for letting loose.

Life isn't fair OP.
I know people who work minimum hours yet have a lovely lifestyle funded by their partners. Others who have to work fingers to the bone to keep their house, poor health, endless setbacks.

I don't know what to suggest but it's hard. Life is very hard and unfair.

@PandaWorld
Im not saying my life is unfair, it’s fine. But from time to time I want to go crazy
and feel really alive and free.

I hear you, OP. I hear you 🍸

I agree also - and I’m the same! Dinner / drinks is great but for a proper crazy night / letting loose it doesn’t hit the spot.

I find I need a wild night every few months to be able to do the other responsible stuff too otherwise I go a bit stir crazy and that’s not helpful to anyone! I also find now (46) I enjoy a day to myself too and regularly take myself off to a spa for the day to chill and hear my own thoughts.

www.scottishpoetrylibrary.org.uk/poem/warning/

Can't believe no-one's linked to this poem yet!

IM with it all except shaving my head.

Now that I understand what you mean, I fully agree with you OP.

And kind of want to meet you for the big night out 😁

That is such a good poem! Thank you

I understand the need to feel alive and free from time to time but I don't really share the need to go crazy to achieve that.

Some leisure time to myself will be very welcome. I can cut loose inside my own head. It is liberating.

Has there been a time in your life when you have really let loose? I held it all together during my teens but in my 20s lived in another country and really rebelled over a good couple of years. I look back in horror and shame now sometimes, but I also wonder how I’d feel now had I not let it all out then!

I want to go out dancing. But I can't because society has decided I'm too old. My friends are all boring farts too so if we go for a meal they are yawning at 10pm. I wish there was an early night club for over 40s where it's acceptable to turn up alone just to dance. And plays contemporary chart stuff too.

Re the poem- we live in a tourist area and recently there was a group of older women all wearing purple and red hats at our local wine bar drinking margaritas (loudly!). I saw them the next day prowling the town as well. I immediately knew it was because of the poem and they had clearly formed a club and thought how wonderful it was. Just googled.....

britishredhatters2.weebly.com/