Uni flat dishes - who is in the wrong?

[Poiuytrewql]

DD is in her first year at a London Uni.

Her flatmates (and I’m sure DD) leave the sink full of dishes constantly. Not unsurprising. Student 1 made a bolognese and was going home for the weekend. The pan they washed got food bits and fat over the dishes that were left in the sink. Student 2 found this foul and printed off a note and stuck it to the door reprimanding this behaviour.

I believe my daughter is in the right but dh thinks she is not. Not sure if my bias for my child is clouding my judgement.

Who is in the wrong?

Nobody should be leaving their dishes in the sink. If you're not going to wash them up after eating, you should leave them on the side. Putting them in the sink impedes others from washing their own dishes in the sink or from using the tap to fill something.

They are all in the wrong?!

All students have dirty dishes in the sink the way I read your post? This would include student 1 who washed their pan and left the dishes (which were used by her and others).

If however - student 1 washes up her pan and all her other stuff then she is still guilty of being inconsiderate?

It would have been best for student 1 to remove everything from the sink - do all of her washing up and put everything back in the sink.

Why are you so overly involved?

Unless your dd is a child genius, I presume she's an adult if she's at university?

My ds has just gone off to uni, I can't imagine posting on Mumsnet about this 😳

Imagine being the person that prints off a reprimanding note though 😂

Uni flat kitchen shares are all totally gross. Don't get involved. It shall pass.

I would have just lifted the dirty dishes and cleaned out the bolognese bits. Then left the dirty dishes to the lazy person.

But I take your point.

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It is the fault of whoever left the dishes in the sink.
Student 1 had to wash the pan and if you don't want fat and juices over your dishes then don't leave them in the sink.

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I hate it when people leave dishes in the sink for this very reason.

The worst thing is that they somehow think they're being helpful when it's quite the opposite because they're blocking the sink and making it harder for other people to wash up. Plus everything gets covered in greasy cold yuk.

This, with bells on.

I remember this problem from my student days and sinks full of other people's dirty dishes were disgusting. More like sewers.

If only people would just wash up their things straight after their meals instead of leaving it to fester! Disgusting. I agree with whoever left the note.

Oh god student kitchens (shudders), they're both wrong and they both need to do their washing up after eating and stop leaving the sink full of dirty dishes before they get food poisoning- gross!

Well students are gross we all know that but surely you have better things to do than worry about people washing dishes in a house you don’t even live in

The one who left her dishes in the sink and is now moaning that they're dirtier than before needs to get a grip 😂

My uni BFF did this about milk stealing- I pretended I didn't know who wrote the note because it was embarrassing 😂

I don’t get why it’s embarrassing? The thief should be embarrassed to be so tight.

If you DD is housemate 2 and she’s a fresher I wouldn’t be printing off notes. That’s going to make it a very awkward year!

Your daughter is in her first year and not only are dishes already problematic but someone has gone home for the weekend? Most students haven’t even gone to university yet surely? Term is only just starting.

@Poiuytrewql if your daughter is in her first year she can only have been at uni for a matter of days. Whoever is right is immaterial, it’s going to be a long year if flatmates are already falling out. They need to step up to the mark, not get mummy involved and sort out the house rules that they can all live by!

It doesn't matter whether your dd is student 1 or 2, or whether or not she is in the right or the wrong.

It doesn't matter because it is irrelevant, because you need to stay out of it. Leave it well alone, laugh at any attempt to drag you into the discussion.

She is 18, and needs to work this out herself

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Oh the joys of leaving home and realising that the magic fairy did more than you realised and if you leave a mess, it’s going nowhere.

I suspect 1 did what they thought they could without moving 2s stuff but effectively washed the waste onto 2s dishes because they were in the way, so 2 being unreasonable

I’m just curious. Dd is an August baby so only just 18. She sent the note to our family chat with a laughing emoji.

She is student 1. Her dad thinks she shouldn’t have washed pan in a sink full of dishes as he classifies it as anti social but he thinks everything is anti social.

Just curious if I was being bias cause I thought dd was fine

Student 2 IBU.

One of my DC went to a London university. They had 3 big bins in the communal kitchens. One for rubbish, one for recycling and one for any dirty dishes left in the sink found by the cleaning staff. Maybe they should try doing that 😂

Dd had her grandfather’s birthday (big one), so came home.