Who is BU? Kids had noro, their dad is refusing to take them to school

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I'll try to keep it brief -

Kids came down with noro on Thur-sat. No symptoms since late sat evening.

One child puked on me. I'm now having noro symptoms and am physically too unwell to take them to school in the morning due to vomiting.

Their dad and I don't live together. He has a new baby with his new girlfriend. He's refusing point blank to take the kids to school in case the baby catches it and won't listen when I say the kids are now absolutely fine.

School is saying they must go in tomorrow if they're no longer ill.

I don't have anyone else to ask.

Genuinely can't tell if I'm BU at the moment or if he is.

I wouldnt have thought teachers are allowed or even able to transport children

OP is being completely unreasonable

And how exactly is school 'on your case', in what way, 20 phone calls today, someone banging on the door, texts messages all day?

They're not able to come in, full stop. If they were ill on Friday, chances are they were still ill Saturday, so at best only well enough to go back tomorrow, not today

And they cant come in tomorrow.

Well, if the OP's kids do go to school tomorrow, they may well soon be kept busy vomiting repeatedly themselves.

I’d say to school I’m too sick to take them, but please send these reminders to their dad who is refusing to take them.

Tbh if they were last ill Sat & now Op has it I'd probably have been thinking of keeping them off today & tomorrow anyway.

No, I don't really think this.

This is difficult. A new baby with noro. No way I'd expose my baby to that. Message school and explain you very ill. Hope you feeling better soon

To be fair you need to leave 48 hours between last symptoms and returning to school so they should’ve been off today anyway.
Norovirus in a baby could be very dangerous so I think he’s sensible to not want to risk bringing it home.
Can any friends/neighbours/other family drop them off in the morning? Just make sure they wash their hands before they leave the house.

Well that's another point - who wants such recently pukey children in their car with them?

But the OP is ill, and really the kids' father needs to step up, in some shape or form. He's got 3 kids, not just a baby.

You can’t risk a newborn. Keep your dc off an extra day or ask the school for help

The school isn't going to help.

Sorry OP but I don't think he's being unreasonable here. I'd not be taking that risk either with a newborn to consider. As others have said, keep them off another day.

Look usually I'm the first to call out a deadbeat but what do you want him to do? Expose his baby to noro virus (very dangerous for babies) even if the kids re over it the mum still has it and they all live together so will carry her germs on their clothes.

Somebody mentioned a taxi but I don't think 7 year olds can travel in a taxi alone

They'll just have to have a day home

He needs to try to come up with another solution? Not just leave the onus on his children's ill mum?

I would have added an extra day saying they vomited last on Sunday instead of Saturday. Your ex is being reasonable and yabu to risk it being passed onto a newborn. You should have known that what your children get will pass onto you and should have fiddled around with the last d/v days.

Hazmat suits for the kids?

From another bucket - norovirus?
That only survives in temperatures below zero.
Unless it "mutated".

😂

Maybe he has friends or family who could take the kids to school?

Yeah let them stay home. She won’t get a fine for one day.

I wouldn’t want to risk a baby catching norovirus, it’s really contagious. I don’t think he’s being unreasonable.

He's being sensible to protect his newborn, noro is nasty and could he extremely dangerous to a newborn. Whilst the kids have been symptom free for 48 hours now ( I hope you didn't send them in today...) your household is not clear of the illness yet, and the germs could be on thier clothes, school bag etc and be transferred as it's highly infectious.

I'd just tell the school that you are too ill to drive so they won't be in. There's nothing the can do about it unless they want to come and get them

This is not your choice to make. His new baby, his choice. Just tell the school they won't be in. Can just imagine if the boot was the other foot!

Absolutely would not be risking a newborn baby being exposed to that at all
I don't think he's being unreasonable, yes he has a responsibility for this other children but they are currently with you and you have unfortunately caught the virus from them already so why risk more getting it

Has to be more to the story around absence if school will fine you for that

And what solution can he come up with?
Other than risking his newborn babies life or the ridiculous put a couple of young kids in a taxi alone idea?

The solution is to just stay home tomorrow the school will fine for "unauthorised" absences. Being sick is authorised.

Maybe ops unhappy that he seems to be being a good dad to his new child while not finding even school shoes.

But taking a sickness to his baby won’t make him a better dad to your joint children. It would just make him a shit dad to the new baby. It really won’t make you feel
happier.