To think parents nowadays are just weak

[Alberta56]

Not sure is it just me but I feel like most parents are just soft and incapabble to discipline their own kids. I constantly see topics here and not only about small kids doing what they want - screaming, tantrums, wanting stuff and parents are just so helpless. When I go on the tube kids screaming putting their dirty feet on the seats. At home kids not wanting to eat and parents act like they own a restaurant immediately cooking something else. What's wrong with saying NO, or ""keep quiet" or " you eat whats available or "you go and play alone while mommy reads a book for 1 h". Why are parents constantly trying to keep kids entertained and spend a fortune on stupid activities. Worst thing is that I see young colleagues 18/ 19 years old coming to work and are just incapable of being a human - constantly late, all the time have to think about their feelings and emotions can't even complain to HR when they're not doing their job properly....I just don't get it really. I'm about to be a mom myself and if I need i will discipline my kid with firm approach non of that " let them express themselves" cr@p.

So you’re not even a parent yet & you’re judging the behaviours of those that are despite never having had the experience? Brilliant. As the saying goes - we’re all perfect parents before we have kids.

@Beth216 Oh Beth, most of us here are guilty of over estimating our ability as parents before we had children. It doesn’t mean we are miserable or shit Mums (perhaps many of us didn’t post about it on MN though lol).

A tantrum in a supermarket?! Never! Not my child…

Yeah it totally was my child 😂🫣.

Life teaches us, it always will.

I'm not going to take parenting advice from someone too wet to ask guests remove their shoes when that is their house rule or to insist a plate is used when they think it's required.

And when commenting on idiotic behaviour you suggest a proportionate response - i.e. a child kicked you/his sibling/somebody in the nursery in the face - you slap him - your comment is immediately reported and 'deleted because of Talk Guidelines'. I am afraid the world has gone mad. On the one hand, children are not respected because they are 'superimposed onto adult relationships' - i.e. children are regularly put second to parents' problems, hobbies, love lives, etc. and they are supposed to 'fit in and cope', and on the other hand, they are allowed everything and anything - apart from a normal family, normal strict upbringing, normal boundaries.

But let us face it, the world has gone properly made these days.

I'm about to be a mom myself and if I need i will discipline my kid with firm approach non of that " let them express themselves" cr@p.

😂 yeah, you’re going to be the BEST parent OP! Go you!! 😂

PS. You will soon find out that the best parents are those who don’t have children yet! 😂

Sorry, what?

I don’t think advocating violence is a normal upbringing.

Well. Here's one thread that's about to go down like a lead shithouse.

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I expect you will get your arse handed to you but I agree.

Let's not, everybody who could've been legally subject to corporal punishment when it was around is 49 and over now.

YANBU.

Today in my clinic I saw what can only be described as truly shit parenting. Truly, truly shit. And it’s the norm. The only children who are vaguely well behaved are utter screen zombies. I despair.

About to be a mum.........ahahahahahaha

I'm such a good, quiet girl. Always did what I was told. Never got into trouble, etc.
I have 3 autistic children, and life never turned out the way I expected. You are very naive and judgemental of things you couldn't possibly understand. I won't hide my children away because of people like you.
You would be that person I'd be watching out for if one of mine was having a public meltdown, with a piece of my mind and more if I felt you needed it.
Good luck with parenting but a word of advice. Keep your uneducated opinions to yourself you've a lot to learn.

Solving your problems with violence, what makes you different to a child that way?

My imaginary children were well-behaved, had no additional needs, did what they were told and slept. They were brilliant, those fictional angels. I was also, in my own mind, not going to allow screens, plastic toy, junk food of any kind. We were going to Mary Poppins our way through childhood.

<sigh> I miss those fabricated kids. God bless their mythical hearts.

Rightio the parenting expert has arrived armed with mockery of gentle parenting without even taking a minute to try and educate yourself on what it is. Assuming all parents are lazy or incompetent whilst ignoring the thousands of well behaved kids or acknowledging there have been crap parents in every generation. Having set expectations of children without taking a moment to learn about brain development, impulse control or how they start navigating emotions.

If your going to come onto a parent forum, blast parents for doing a crap job and raising yourself on a self made pedestal of parental holiness at least educate yourself on the topic first

Parenting has definitely gone 'down hill' for many children. Didn't have all these mental health issues when we or my children were young. No resilience.

There is one and only way to ensure your children will never tantrum in a supermarket - never once bring them to a supermarket.

Every other method? It's in the lap of the gods.

All children are different, all families are different, different kinds of personalities in the house, different incomes , level of support etc. Children can hard work regardless . Easy to say now , when you haven't yet experienced the lack of sleep etc. Even the parents who wouldn't put up with that crap have children who through tantrums.

I’ve been working in childcare for over 30 years

The current lack of boundaries is ridiculous

I don’t understand why so many parents seem to be doing permissive parenting. They’re not doing anyone any favours by continuously saying yes

Kids did have mental health problems, we just ignored and didn’t treat them.

😂😂 so true

"Weren't like this back in my day, who remembers proper binmen?"

Right.. I used to get up in the morning at night at half-past-ten at night, half an hour before I went to bed, Eat a lump of freezing cold poison, work 28 hours a day at mill, and pay da mill owner to let us work there. And when I went home our dad used to murder us in cold blood for having mental health issues, each night, and dance about on our graves, singing hallelujah.

That’s one of the funniest things I’ve ever read. Cannot stop laughing. Dead. 😂😂

I love it when people who aren’t parents yet tells all the parents how bad they are at parenting and how they’ll be so much better. Come back to the thread in 5 years and tell us how you’re getting on op.

I thought like this too before I had my own )))

lets get back to this after your precious darling is at least 3