Is it rude to ignore a wedding dress code?

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Haven't been to a wedding for about 10 years so haven't encountered this trend before.

Invite says guests are encouraged to wear autumnal colours- reds, greens, browns or yellows. I don't have anything in these colours, and money is tight at the moment. I do have a wedding appropriate outfit but it is navy with bright flowers.

Would it be unreasonable to just wear this?

This isn't a particulary close friend's wedding but l don't know how to play this! l don't want to stand out as not joining in, but surely not everyone follows these dress codes? Or do they!?

Why?

Do you really want to go to the wedding is the first question to ask yourself.

If the bride is only interested in how Insta worthy her photos will be, I’d give the whole thing a miss and send a card and definitely no gift.

Actually, yes an orange boiler suit, aka 'jumpsuit', could work.
Screwfix have a range of sizes.
Right accessories and all that.
A hardhat fascinator or perhaps just roll around in the hedge and get some leaves in your hair.
That way you've followed the brief to the letter and (bonus!) you can use it around the house for DIY afterwards

I would never have thought of doing this at a wedding but my sister got married in the autumn and i love the photos as the bridesmaids and I all wore a red wine colour, my sis in cream and it looks amazing with all the red and gold autumn leaves on the ground.(pre social media) So as the photos are often the main memory of the day I can understand the bride and groom asking for this as a general theme, but it sounds deeply unpopular with MN😳

OP love your idea of your navy dress with autumn coloured flowers and a red pashmina and accessories. It will be perfect for this.

I think a gold or red stole and/or accessories would look fab with your dress OP. If anyone asks - the flowers in the print are blown by autumnal winds.

As for tracking down a preloved outfit that's wedding-worthy, in the right colours, fits well and makes you look good... what are the chances?!

I would class navy as an autumnal colour.

I can't believe people think they should be able to dictate the colours their guests wear! For some people, that's going to mean having to buy a new dress for the wedding for the sake of the bride's Instagram page. Total control freakery.

I think navy sounds autumnal.

Ha ha - love this post

Misses point but I love, love, love your shoes!

Where are they from?

I think your dress is fine, they probably mean darkish colours rather than pastels or bright, summery shades. Navy floral is quite autumnal. Plus they've stipulated that it's 'encouraged' not a rule, they can always position you behind a vision in russet for pics. I don't think it's very gracious asking people to buy a specific outfit for a wedding as it can be a costly day anyway but they have said it's optional, prob just hoping for a general theme.

Too bad. They should have said what they meant.

I'd say it's more comparable to holding a Halloween party and saying that everyone's costumes have to be green or purple.

Or saying everyone has to be dressed as a witch. No cats, pumpkins, or anything else. Because it's not about hosting an enjoyable party, it's about how the photos look.

They shouldn't issue a dress code it's pathetic.

Either go and ignore it or don't bother.
Silly people.

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I'm not that close to the couple - only met the groom once. The bride is an ex-colleague. I'm not invited to the ceremony, just the afternoon reception onwards.

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Were you specifically asked not to attend the ceremony itself? That’s quite odd for someone invited to the full reception.
They sound so weird.

I don't think you'd be rude to go wearing navy, it's a preference not a requirement. That said, if it was me, I'd probably have a look for something in the sale or on Vinted. I wouldn't personally request this of guests but I don't begrudge people that do. People put a hell of a lot of time and money into their weddings and it's the one day of their lives that is truly about them!

I think your dress will be fine - looks lovely . If you are able to get an inexpensive wrap / some kind of coverup in red or gold to pick out the flowers, even better .

Oops, sorry @KerryBlues I've been dipping in and out of replies and got this mixed up. 😊

Ask any class or street or friend whatsapp groups you're in if anyone can loan you a mustard, red or brown scarf/ wrap. I can see 2 just hanging on our kitchen pegs that would turn your dress autumnal enough, never mind whatever I might find upstairs. It's a cheap and easy thing to lend, so worth asking.

This really. I've never been to a wedding with a dress code but I would respect it if invited.

I just wouldn't want to feel awkward so I'd rather try to fit in.

I've never been to a fancy dress party where it's actually been mandatory to turn up in fancy dress or else don't bother coming. Is this a thing? Tbf I don't have a very big sample to work with, as I abhor fancy dress with a passion so tend to swerve it wherever possible. But I've turned up to one or two in mufti and wasn't the only one, and it didn't seem to be an issue. Curious now.

I don't think it's the same at all, because a huge part of Halloween is dressing up, whereas the point of the wedding is the ceremony. It's nice to make a nod to the colour scheme, just at It's nice to wear some minimal fancy dress, but you aren't refusing to participate in the wedding celebration if you wear navy instead of brown.

If someone turned up for one of our Halloween parties and hadn't bothered to put anything on, we would give them a mask / bloodied apron and axe, or something (and have before). If they declined to wear it, fine, but obviously they wouldn't be invited for Halloween again.