Husband cancelled 2 nights away because he has a cold...

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So he has a cold.
Took a Covid test and it was clear
He is sneezing and feeling sorry for himself.
We were meant to go away today
Last night he said "can we set off later tomorrow " I said yes
Then this morning he said he doesn't want to go at all
So now he is playing on the computer upstairs
I'm honestly fuming
I've lost the train fare £70
Luckily hotel was pay on arrival so I can cancel

Aibu to be annoyed ?

It doesn't sound like you have a great relationship. You sulked because he's ill and guilt tripped him into giving you money etc, now he's being a dick trying to make you ill.

You're both making a meal of it.

Either be his nurse and look after him, or stay out of the way and stop provoking him.

You're clearly hanging around him, so you're likely to get his cold, whether he puts his head on your pillow or not.

If you're that determined not to get his minor cold, stay away until it passes. Or, as you say, it's nothing major, so what you worried about?

Either way, you both sound like you need to grow up.

Why is he trying to get you out of the house?

Well, I agree he shouldn't be trying to spread the cold.

But ... if it's a small minor thing that shouldn't have stopped him going away this weekend, then surely it's not a particular bother if OP catches it?

@GladBluePigeon I would imagine he wants some peace.

exactly

OP , you two sound the same as each other . You were "fuming" when you couldn't go, then cheered up when he gave you £100 to spend and promised next weekend . Now he's moaning and you're not happy again !!!

I do think this wouldnt have been possible if you were in York. Again why do his wants/feelings trump yours?

what a way to spend such a bonus lovely and sunny weekend as these two

I wouldn’t want to go if I had a cold and I wouldn’t want to go with someone who has a cold.

YABU.

I love my own company so I'd be delighted to be going on my own 😂😁

My friends 20 year old son as a awful cold poor lad walking around with tissue up his nose.
He works night in a club but has took the pass 3 nights off his boss told him to take a week off.
The boss had it first.
But for the sounds off it men are selfish to get sick and are not allowed to be unwell and want to stay home.
If a women is unwell thats a different story she has to be treated like a queen.

This is not normal behaviour. Maybe he’s trying to give to you so you’ll be ill next weekend and the shoe will be on the other foot. Whatever the reason, he is being a bit of a twat by doing this.

Asshole. That's so rude. You ought to go away for a couple of days if you can.

OP please join the 21st century. You are acting like a 1950s housewife, doing everything for him. When you were annoyed with him you let yourself be bought off with an extravagant gift.
You say you can’t enjoy being in a place like York on your own. Statistically you will eventually be on your own so learn to like it, and do things by yourself.
Get some self respect and act like a liberated, independent adult.
Tell him to stop coughing all over you, for a start.
Sometimes it’s like feminism never actually happened.

Ok now he's being a twat.

Coughing and smirking at you is foul.

Honestly I'd go to the hotel after that even if I just stayed in the fucking room all day and didn't enjoy myself.

Get him some NeilMed sinus rince. They're really good getting rid of the snott and stops the mucus dripping down your throat and causing an irritating cough.

I wish I had gone now
Made him some mash with gravy
Took it up

Why have you made that ?
I don't want anything off you ?

Because I wouldn't kiss him and told him to not cough on my pillow
That's it
He said he will look after himself
Literally this morning I made him a cup of tea In bed and a lemsip

I always find it interesting on threads like these where reaction to the initial OP is that they were being unreasonable

There always seems to then be an update casting the other party as the villain of the piece and lo and behold the tide turns.

OP, take the money and go out shopping. Leave him blustering in an empty house

Sorry, but I wouldn't want to pay to go somewhere when I knew I'd feel miserable the whole time, and I don't see much point in powering through something that's meant to be a treat. Something important and unavoidable, yes, but not something optional that is supposed to be a good time. I'd much rather have the comforts of home, anyway, when I have a cold.

He should've just told you from the start that he wasn't feeling up to it, but maybe he thought he'd feel better the next day. I'd have cancelled as soon as I realised I had a cold!

Didn't bother to read the updates before. If he's the type to intentionally try to give you his cold, why were you wanting to go away with him to begin with? 🤔

Do exactly as he asks.

How old are you guys. Sounds like some growing up is needed.

@JustWalkingTheDogs

really?

fuck that.

@LuckySantangelo35 he told op that he'd look after himself, I'd take him at his word and leave him to it. No more lemsip and tea in the morning, no more cooking him dinner etc. he wants to look after himself, let him do that!