Husband cancelled 2 nights away because he has a cold...

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So he has a cold.
Took a Covid test and it was clear
He is sneezing and feeling sorry for himself.
We were meant to go away today
Last night he said "can we set off later tomorrow " I said yes
Then this morning he said he doesn't want to go at all
So now he is playing on the computer upstairs
I'm honestly fuming
I've lost the train fare £70
Luckily hotel was pay on arrival so I can cancel

Aibu to be annoyed ?

Who would? Sounds miserable.

Take a friend or go alone.

Go on your own! Women should be more independent, but perhaps I'm being unfair. I say this as a recently single woman.

Seems you got a pretty good deal out of making him feel unreasonable about being ill, OP. Win for you, I guess?

Exactly! Unreal.

@betterangels, there's no way I would expect my husband to offer all this stuff because he felt ill! And I most definitely wouldn't. Man, I can sulk.when things get cancelled, but I'd be mortified if my disappointed sulking became something placate with frivolous financial gifts.

I'd be embarrassed at myself.

So not boasting about it on mumsnet then, @betterangels?

You understand that I'm not the OP and was agreeing with your point? I'm not boasting about anything.

Just to echo previous posters who have said that you will be charged for the hotel unless you have cancelled it already.

For pay on arrival, you can cancel for free up to 24 hours before. After that they will charge the card details that you gave when you booked

Sorry, I was being facetious, @betterangels. I'm aware you're not the op.

Sorry! :) I'm a bit tired. Perhaps I need a weekend away ...

I'm with your husband. If you were supposed to be walking alot it's tiring when you have a cold.

Hey OP, it's moving in weekend at York Uni so the city will probably be busy. It should be a bit quieter next week. Silver linings and all that

I believe there's one going in York.

I live in Yorkshire. I work in an outdoors cafe. I’ve been full of a cold this week. It’s cold, raining and windy. I couldn’t pick anything I’d least like to do than walk round a damp town right now.

But get on the train and go alone. Do what you fancy during the day, then grab a bottle of wine and a take away in the evening and have a pamper night watching whatever you fancy.

Wow, your husband has really gone out of his way to make up to you.

Why on earth would you be mad at him at all for being unwell?

Go. Get there. Walk around, go to the museums and art galleries

Go home and gush about how much he missed out

My exH used to do this and really possed me off…. He’d be at work all week and on his day off he’d be ‘too poorly to get up’.. then go into work the next day, come home every evening feeling sorry for himself and sit and mope! I didn’t pander to it in the end… I told him he’s well enough to work he shouldn’t be too ill when just sitting around!

You sound like a whiney spoiled brat. Your poor husband putting up with your sulking and £100+ down

Can I just quickly ask if I'm being unreasonable here
He is literally doing everything possible for me to catch it
Coughing without covering his mouth
Lying on my pillow
I asked him why he wasn't just on his pillow and he smirked
Asking for cuddles (he never wants them ) and says well your gonna catch it anyway
Then asks me for kisses

Result!

People minimise colds. Colds can just be a minor sniffle, or they can be bloody awful. If I have a sore throat, fever, aching all over, I simply wouldn't be able to enjoy a weekend away.

York uni freshers are moving in this weekend, so to be honest it's a good weekend to avoid York :)

I wouldn't want to go away on what sounds like a fairly casual weekend with a nasty cold either. Although I would also have no issue on going away myself if my partner bailed.

Some colds are vile and I wouldn’t fancy sitting on a train with a pounding head and streaming nose to go and walk around in the rain! Best to rest for a couple of days and not infect anyone else too.

Seems sensible and kind that he’s rebooked it and treated you.
I mean you will likely have the cold by next weekend so it may be the shoe will be on the other foot!

no

bur he can be a bit perved that your response was to get in an arse with him