Boyfriend won't let me have alcohol?

[WitchyPoos]

So story is, me and my boyfriend sometimes work opposite shifts and don't see each other some days at home like passing ships. I do a ten hour shift and have a few gins when home and he's at work he doesn't like it. If I'm on a day off and go out to see a friend in the pub he doesn't like it. Or have a few in the evening on a day off he doesn't like it. Youd think I was 16. I'm 35 🤦🏻‍♀️. I don't harm anyone I'm in my own home and in my own time but it makes me feel that way. I don't drink and ignore normal life he thinks i do. Who is BU in this situation cos I think could be me but why

I agree with you. So many people on this thread seem to think it's normal, which just goes to show what a problem we have with alcohol misuse in this country.

Just carry on. Don't be shamed by him or MN.

Nice try at shaming people, I’m embarssed for you it failed,

So many people on this thread are ignoring how controlling and abusive the man is. Just goes to show what a problem we have with boundaries and acceptance of men’s shitty behaviour.

You don’t need to defend yourself they’re mental, you’re not even drinking over the recommended weekly limits 🤣

Not hysterical at all and I get through life just fine thanks. I'm actually pretty resilient. Growing up around problem drinkers tends to have that impact.

You are adding both of their drinks together to make this sound worse than it is.

12 units a week, with several non drinking days in between is not a problem.

I see more of a problem with the four cans in the morning (but that is not the OP).

Did you even read the thread? Have you been drinking? 🤷‍♀️

There isn’t a person drinking double spirits in the evening + cans in the morning, that’s different people 🤣

@Ifoughthefight

It’s really not, hun.

Didn't mean to add them together, so apologies if that's how it read.

Just because people can drink that many units in a week doesn't mean they should. As a nation, we do drink far too much.

I agree, the four cans on a morning is a massive red flag.

L O L.

Behave.

Yes, I know it's different people. Was just referring to both behaviours.

I don't drink. Not for any reason than I've never liked the taste of alcohol.

He a controlling arsehole and a hypocrite. You are well rid.

I'm guessing you have asked him 'why is it OK for you to drink but not me'?

What was his answer?

@Jumpingthruhoops 🥂

Your instincts are correct.

Its not thw drinking he is against is it? You say "If I'm on a day off and go out to see a friend in the pub he doesn't like it."
He ia controlling and in time it will get worse. If you stop drinking, he will find something else that you like to be unhappy about i.e tp control you with/about

Agree with this.

Bin!

One of my maximum of 2 alcoholic drinks in a year is drunk at home, on my own, on Christmas Day. Does that make me an alcoholic?🙄

So it doesn't sound like you are any sort of problem drinker and your ds is 16 so it isn't concern of being drunk in charge of small dc so yes he sounds controlling and I would rethink the relationship- not just the controlling behaviour but if he is drinking 4 beers every morning after work then he actually sounds like a problem drinker

It’s not just the gin though is it op? He sounds terribly controlling in other areas too.
Why did you have to go and get him more beers? why didn’t he go himself?

unlike some posters think (not reading the thread properly), you aren’t drinking excessively. Yanbu .

It’s been 4 years. If you aren’t happy, then you don’t need other excuses to leave. Dump him.

He sounds horribly controlling but I think you know that already and are just seeking validation to leave. Go for it. You and your son will be happier without him.
Good luck. And carry on enjoying your G&Ts :)

So the OP is drinking 3 double gins, once or twice a week?
That's 6-12 units with plenty of alcohol free days. Below the recommended guidelines and definitely not an alcohol problem 🙄 some people are ridiculous

Stop justifying yourself OP. There's no need, you're fine.

Love the name!!!
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